Why Women Should Watch Adult Films and the Benefits of Watching It
Have you ever found yourself getting turned on by watching a sex scene in a movie, or perhaps an erotic music video? We all have! Becoming aroused watching other people enjoy the pleasures of sex (and everything that comes with it), is completely natural and normal. Here at Pulse and Cocktails, we are on a mission to break the taboo around women watching pornography. Adult content is not just for men to watch and there are lots of benefits for both sexes by watching.
Read on further to discover tips on all the advantages of watching pornography and how it can improve your sex life.
Do women watch adult films?
YES! We all watch it too…shh! Society is leaving old-fashioned taboos on female masturbation behind, with more women watching now than ever before. According to a recent Mashable article, “Porn for Women,” as a search term saw 359% growth among female users between 2016 and 2017.
What’s more, leading sex therapist Elizabeth McGrath estimates a whopping 50% of women watch it, but sadly a much smaller percentage feel comfortable admitting that (WITW, 2015).
The stigma surrounding women watching explicit content is something we are on a mission to combat. Humans are aroused by all of our senses, so getting yourself off to the sights and sounds of other people getting it on is completely normal. Not only is it a natural response, but porn can provide insights into your own self-discovery and satisfaction. When we let go of the shame surrounding our sexuality we allow ourselves to become more sensual and sexual.
The benefits of watching adult content
Use porn to help explore your body, sexuality, and fantasies
Female friendly adult films are generally filmed from the women’s perspective, with a bigger focus around foreplay and stimulation of erogenous zones than more traditional hardcore content. An erogenous zone is anywhere on the body that is highly sensitive and evokes sexual satisfaction when touched. Viewing this arousal firsthand offers a different perspective on the female body and a greater understanding of what your body is capable of. It’s all about helping you uncover hotspots you never knew you had. Watching other people get it on can push your body to its full orgasmic potential by allowing you to get to know your body more – what turns you on and what turns you off. When you let go of the sexual stigma surrounding adult films, you can use it to develop an understanding of your sexual cravings and fantasies – harness your full sexual power.
Sexploration
I like watching lesbian content, does that make me a lesbian? Not necessarily, a lot of straight women also find that they are turned on by watching lesbian sex. In fact, a 2014 survey by Pornhub showed lesbian was one of the most searched for terms by their female users (Pearson, 2015).
Adult films can help you to discover new fantasies and turn-ons that you never knew you had. It can also help you to gain inspiration and confidence to explore new areas of your sexuality, leading to a more fulfilled sex life. What doesn’t sound great about that?
How to feel sexier
What is sexier than being the boss of our own desires? There is something about having secret sex sessions for one (vibrator in one hand – porn in the other) that can make you feel so incredibly sexy. Becoming the master of your own orgasms is fabulously empowering and this can make a huge difference to your confidence in the bedroom.
Learn new skills in the bedroom – unleash your inner dominatrix
If used correctly, sexual videos can be a brilliant learning tool. Not only will it help you discover new techniques in the bedroom but hopefully inspire you to try them out. Why not look into some kinky Bondage or BDSM (read our beginners guide to bondage here), or experiment with new positions that you’ve seen on screen. Watching with a partner can also benefit your relationship with new tricks in the bedroom, helping to spice up a sex life cursed with monotony. Not only can it be amazing for saucy tricks to use with your partner, but it can also help you become the expert of your own body and understanding how to better please yourself.
Long-distance relationship tips – help for long-distance lovers
Anyone who has experienced the physical frustrations of a long-distance relationship will know you can’t overcome that million-mile gap without putting some extra effort in – especially in the bedroom. Films are something you can both share together to help bridge the gap. Why not pick a dirty movie together, then both watch and masturbate to your chosen film – a truly magical moment.
*Try this – have a competition to see who can make the other one orgasm first just by watching one another on-screen.
*Cheeky Tip – ladies we recommend a powerful vibrator for a certain first-class ticket to heaven. For the guys, we recommend using a portable male masturbator so you feel like you’re slipping inside your loved one as you masturbate.
How to get turned on quickly
There is no debating that adult films are one of the best natural aphrodisiacs there is. Who doesn’t feel a twinge between the thighs listening to the moans of someone else reaching climax? If you find you struggle to get in the mood sometimes, or need that extra something to loosen you up, these could be the answer to your sexual prayers. Try watching during foreplay with your partner or next time you’re pleasuring yourself – we guarantee your ‘turned on meter’ will go from five to five million. Remember, the bigger the turn on, the bigger the orgasm.
How Films can be a good stress reliever
Had a bad day at work? Booking yourself a date with your vibrator and putting on some of your favourite explicit movies is a sure stress reliever. When we orgasm we release natural endorphins such as oxytocin (the love hormone), and these natural endorphins work to ease you of stress and help to boost your mood.
Female Friendly Films – Finding the right stuff for you
With the world of adult content being fairly male-dominated many women say they struggle to find something that suits them or feel that some content can be derogatory towards women. Films for women has a more intimate, realistic vibe. Not just fake boobs and fake orgasms! Female friendly content is story-driven, portraying the intense connection between a couple. This type of movie encompasses the whole sensual experience of sex, not just penetration. Women want sex to feel real in what they’re watching and to relate to the characters and behaviours on screen. Explicit films for women is as much about the emotional aspects as it is the visuals.
That being said, not all women prefer the softer option, some enjoy old school hardcore pornography – it’s all down to personal preferences. A big turn on for some women is the excitement of their visual senses with full-on penetration and the sound of loud dramatic moans, whilst some women just love a bit of everything. You can’t have too much of a good thing and you can mix it up depending on what mood you’re in.
I Want to Watch Adult Films – How do I find it?
Trying to find films that are right for you can appear an impossible task when looking at the huge amount of different categories out there. From granny gangbangs to intimate couples sex – you name it, it’s been filmed. In order to find your pleasure treasure, you need to filter through everything that doesn’t appeal to you. A great way to do that is coming into one of our female friendly Pulse and Cocktails stores across the country (UK) where knowledgeable staff are on hand and happy to help. Below we have devised a short breakdown of some of the most popular categories:
- Softcore pornography
- Amateur pornography
- BDSM pornography
- Storyline pornography
- Women’s pornography
- Lesbian pornography
- Gay pornography
- Transexual pornography
- Fetish pornography
Below is a list of female-friendly directors you can find in any of our UK stores:
- Marc Dorcel
- Joy Beux
- Viv Thomas (Lesbian porn)
- Harmony
- Film Erotica
Watching with a partner and how it can benefit your relationship
Before watching or introducing watching others have sex on film into your relationship it is essential you discuss it beforehand. Openness and honesty are key! You need to have a comfortable environment free from judgment to discuss each other’s likes and dislikes. It is important to make sure both of you are completely comfortable with the idea of watching as a couple. It is not for everyone, so if your partner isn’t up for it, it is important to respect their wishes.
How to bring up watching adult films with my partner?
Raising the idea of adult films in the bedroom can set alarm bells ringing – especially a woman (believe me!). You need to emphasize to your partner that watching together is about you both as a couple, to accentuate your already amazing sex life and share a connection. Remember films are not reality! Do not expect your partner to act or look like a pornstar. If your partner is unsure why not try:
- Putting some films on but switching the screen off. This will allow you to hear the moans of someone else being pleasured, but not see it. Heighten your hearing senses further with a blindfold.
- Or, do the opposite and use the film as a visual stimulant – try watch the content with no sound you’ll occasionally catch glimpses of the act.
- Let your partner choose what they’re comfortable watching – simply looking through all the options available can be arousing and get the sexual tension flowing.
Listen to your partner
Watching as a couple is a great way to enhance your sex life, however, in order for it to work its magic, you need to listen to each other. Listen and absorb your partner’s desires – offer your minds as well as your bodies to each other. For women, the mental element of sex is just as important as the physical. Discussing adult films together as a couple can help you learn a lot about your partner’s fantasies and desires. Honesty between you both will build trust, and with trust comes intimacy – a sure way to hot sex.
Watching by Yourself
Watching by yourself is incredibly liberating and removes the need to consider someone else – it’s all about you and your fantasies now, men AND women. We highly recommend exploring by yourself with no fear of judgment. It’s this essential viewing time that will allow you to truly explore and discover yourself.
Will my Partner be Offended if I Watch?
It can be common for partners to feel inferior to a ‘pornstar’ if you decide to watch it. If you think your partner may have an issue with this, it’s always worth talking and discussing beforehand. Remember to reassure your partner that they are number one, and exploring the wonderful world of filmed sex is nothing to be ashamed of. If they’re still unsure, why not ask them to watch it with you. This may enlighten them and if they enjoy it, they may want to share the experience of watching together in the future. Every relationship is different, so do what’s best for yours.
Now you’ve read about how great adult films are women is, all that’s left to do is go and try it for yourself – we know you’ll love it!
Try adding these sex essentials into the bedroom with your choice of porn to really have a night to remember.
- A vibrator – A must have to enhance every steamy sex session – whether playing alone or with a partner. Vibrators come in all different shapes, styles, and sizes.
- For couples, a vibrating cock ring – Not only will the vibrations provide amazing clitoral stimulation during sex, but the cock ring will also enhance your lovers’ penis by creating a stronger erection that bulges and lasts longer.
- Lubricant – Everything is better with lube. Try applying a small amount to a powerful bullet vibrator and massage all over the body, then use on larger vibrators. A lubricant is a must for anal toys. We recommend water-based lubricant as this is safe to use with most sex toys.
- Male Mastubator – One for the guys – really get things going and feel like you’re the star of your own porn show with a male masturbator. Ladies, why not send your partner one and if you are ever working away or are in a long-distance relationship, get him to use it whilst you speak dirty on the phone or tease him on facetime!
References
Mashable (2018) Retrieved from: https://mashable.com/2018/01/09/porn-for-women-searches-2017/?europe=true#GP7c1tH6QOq3.
WITW (2015) Retrieved from: Pearson, (2015) Retrieved from: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/straight-women-lesbian-porn_n_7689072