Why Women Should Watch Porn and the Benefits of Watching It

Have you ever found yourself getting turned on by watching a sex scene in a movie, or perhaps an erotic music video? We all have! Becoming aroused watching other people enjoy the pleasures of sex (and everything that comes with it), is completely natural and normal. Here at Pulse and Cocktails, we are on a mission to break the taboo around women watching pornography. Porn is not just for men to watch and there are lots of benefits for both sexes by watching porn.

Read on further to discover tips on all the advantages of watching pornography and how it can improve your sex life.

Why women should watch pornography

Do women watch porn?

YES! We all watch it too…shh! Society is leaving old-fashioned taboos on porn and female masturbation behind, with more women watching porn now than ever before. According to a recent Mashable article, “Porn for Women,” as a search term saw 359 percent growth among female users between 2016 and 2017.

What’s more, leading sex therapist Elizabeth McGrath estimates a whopping 50% of women watch porn, but sadly a much smaller percentage feel comfortable admitting that (WITW, 2015).

The stigma surrounding women watching porn is something we are on a mission to combat. Humans are aroused by all of our senses, so getting yourself off to the sights and sounds of other people getting it on is completely normal. Not only is it a natural response, but porn can provide insights into your own self-discovery and satisfaction. When we let go of the shame surrounding our sexuality we allow ourselves to become more sensual and sexual.

The benefits of watching porn

Use porn to help explore your body, sexuality, and fantasies

Female friendly porn is generally filmed from the women’s perspective, with a bigger focus around foreplay and stimulation of erogenous zones than more traditional hardcore porn. An erogenous zone is anywhere on the body that is highly sensitive and evokes sexual satisfaction when touched. Viewing this arousal firsthand offers a different perspective on the female body and a greater understanding of what your body is capable of. It’s all about helping you uncover hotspots you never knew you had. Watching porn can push your body to its full orgasmic potential by allowing you to get to know your body more – what turns you on and what turns you off. When you let go of the sexual stigma surrounding porn, you can use it to develop an understanding of your sexual cravings and fantasies – harness your full sexual power.

Sexploration

I like watching lesbian porn, does that make me a lesbian? Not necessarily, a lot of straight women also find that they are turned on by watching lesbian porn. In fact, a 2014 survey by Pornhub showed lesbian was one of the most searched for terms by their female users (Pearson, 2015).

Porn can help you to discover new fantasies and turn-ons that you never knew you had. It can also help you to gain inspiration and confidence to explore new areas of your sexuality, leading to a more fulfilled sex life. What doesn’t sound great about that?

How to feel sexier

What is sexier than being the boss of our own desires? There is something about having secret sex sessions for one (vibrator in one hand – porn in the other) that can make you feel so incredibly sexy. Becoming the master of your own orgasms is fabulously empowering and this can make a huge difference to your confidence in the bedroom.

Learn new skills in the bedroom – unleash your inner dominatrix

If used correctly, porn can be a brilliant learning tool. Not only will it help you discover new techniques in the bedroom but hopefully inspire you to try them out. Why not look into some kinky Bondage or BDSM (read our beginners guide to bondage here), or experiment with new positions that you’ve seen on screen. Watching porn with a partner can also benefit your relationship with new tricks in the bedroom, helping to spice up a sex life cursed with monotony. Not only can porn be amazing for saucy tricks to use with your partner, it can also help you become the expert of your own body and understanding how to better please yourself.

Long distance relationship tips – help for long distance lovers

Anyone who has experienced the physical frustrations of a long distance relationship will know you can’t overcome that million mile gap without putting some extra effort in – especially in the bedroom. Porn is something you can both share together to help bridge the gap. Why not pick a dirty movie together, then both watch and masturbate to your chosen film – a truly magical moment.

*Try this – have a competition to see who can make the other one orgasm first just by watching one another on screen.
*Cheeky Tip – ladies we recommend a powerful vibrator for a certain first class ticket to heaven. For the guys, we recommend using a portable male masturbator so you feel like you’re slipping inside your loved one as you masturbate. 

How to get turned on quickly

There is no debating that porn is one of the best natural aphrodisiacs there is. Who doesn’t feel a twinge between the thighs listening to the moans of someone else reaching climax? If you find you struggle to get in the mood sometimes, or need that extra something to loosen you up, porn could be the answer to your sexual prayers. Try watching porn during foreplay with your partner or next time you’re pleasuring yourself – we guarantee your ‘turned on meter’ will go from five to five million. Remember, the bigger the turn on, the bigger the orgasm.

How Porn can be a good stress reliever

Had a bad day at work? Booking yourself a date with your vibrator and put on some of your favourite porn – it is a sure stress reliever. When we orgasm we release natural endorphins such as oxytocin (the love hormone), and these natural endorphins work to ease you of stress and help to boost your mood.

Female Friendly Porn – Finding the right porn for you

With the world of porn being fairly male-dominated many women say they struggle to find porn that suits them or feel that some porn can be derogatory towards women. Porn for women has a more intimate, realistic vibe. Not just fake boobs and fake orgasms! Female friendly porn is story driven, portraying the intense connection between a couple. This type of porn encompasses the whole sensual experience of sex, not just penetration. Women want sex to feel real in porn and to relate to the characters and behaviors on screen. Porn for women is as much about the emotional aspects as it is the visuals.

That being said, not all women prefer softer porn, some enjoy old school hardcore pornography – it’s all down to personal preferences. A big turn on for some women is the excitement of their visual senses with full-on penetration and the sound of loud dramatic moans, whilst some women just love a bit of everything. You can’t have too much of a good thing and you can mix it up depending on what mood you’re in.

I Want to Watch Porn – How do I find it?

Trying to find porn which is right for you can appear an impossible task when looking at the huge amount of different categories out there. From granny gangbangs to intimate couples sex – you name it, porn has filmed it. In order to find your pleasure treasure, you need to filter through everything that doesn’t appeal to you. A great way to do that is coming into one of our female friendly Pulse and Cocktails stores across the country (UK) where knowledgeable staff are on hand and happy to help. Below we have devised a short breakdown of some of the most popular porn categories:

  • Softcore pornography
  • Amateur pornography
  • BDSM pornography
  • Storyline pornography
  • Women’s pornography
  • Lesbian pornography
  • Gay pornography
  • Transexual pornography
  • Fetish pornography

Below is a list of female-friendly directors you can find in any of our UK stores:

  • Marc Dorcel
  • Joy Beux
  • Viv Thomas (Lesbian porn)
  • Harmony
  • Film Erotica

Watching porn with a partner and how porn can benefit your relationship

Before watching or introducing porn into your relationship it is essential you discuss it beforehand. Openness and honesty are key! You need to have a comfortable environment free from judgment to discuss each other’s likes and dislikes. It is important to make sure both of you are completely comfortable with the idea of watching porn as a couple. Porn is not for everyone, so if your partner isn’t up for it, it is important to respect their wishes.

How to bring up watching porn with my partner?

Raising the idea of porn in the bedroom can set alarm bells ringing – especially a woman (believe me!). You need to emphasize to your partner that watching porn together is about you both as a couple, to accentuate your already amazing sex life and share a connection. Remember porn is not reality! Do not expect your partner to act or look like a pornstar. If your partner is unsure why not try:

  1. Putting some porn on but switching the screen off. This will allow you to hear the moans of someone else being pleasured, but not see it. Heighten your hearing senses further with a blindfold.
  2. Or, do the opposite and use the porn as a visual stimulant – try watch the porn with no sound no you’ll occasionally catch glimpses of the act.
  3. Let your partner choose what they’re comfortable watching – simply looking through all the porn available can be arousing and get the sexual tension flowing.

Listen to your partner

Watching porn as a couple is a great way to enhance your sex life, however, in order for it to work its magic, you need to listen to each other. Listen and absorb your partner’s desires – offer your minds as well as your bodies to each other. For women, the mental element of sex is just as important as the physical. Discussing porn together as a couple can help you learn a lot about your partner’s fantasies and desires. Honesty between you both will build trust, and with trust comes intimacy – a sure way to hot sex.

Watching Porn by Yourself

Watching porn by yourself is incredibly liberating and removes the need to consider someone else – it’s all about you and your fantasies now, men AND women. We highly recommend exploring porn by yourself with no fear of judgment. It’s this essential viewing time that will allow you to truly explore and discover yourself.

Will my Partner be Offended if I Watch Porn?

It can be common for partners to feel inferior to a ‘porn star’ if you decide to watch porn. If you think your partner may have an issue with this, it’s always worth talking and discussing beforehand. Remember to reassure your partner that they are number one, and exploring porn and the wonderful world of sex is nothing to be ashamed of. If they’re still unsure, why not ask them to watch it with you. This may enlighten them and if they enjoy it, they may want to share the experience of watching porn together in the future. Every relationship is different, so do what’s best for yours.

Now you’ve read about how great porn for women is, all that’s left to do is go and try it for yourself – we know you’ll love it!

Try adding these sex essentials into the bedroom with your choice of porn to really have a night to remember.

  • A vibrator – A must have to enhance every steamy sex session – whether playing alone or with a partner. Vibrators come in all different shapes, styles, and sizes.
  • For couples, a vibrating cock ring – Not only will the vibrations provide amazing clitoral stimulation during sex, but the cock ring will also enhance your lovers’ penis by creating a stronger erection which bulges and lasts longer.
  • Lubricant – Everything is better with lube. Try applying a small amount to a powerful bullet vibrator and massage all over the body, then use on larger vibrators. A lubricant is a must for anal toys. We recommend water-based lubricant as this is safe to use with most sex toys.
  • Male Mastubator – One for the guys – really get things going and feel like you’re the star of your own porn show with a male masturbator. Ladies, why not send your partner one and if you are ever working away or are in a long distance relationship, get him to use it whilst you speak dirty on the phone or tease him on facetime!

References 

Mashable (2018) Retrieved from: https://mashable.com/2018/01/09/porn-for-women-searches-2017/?europe=true#GP7c1tH6QOq3.

WITW (2015) Retrieved from: Pearson, (2015) Retrieved from: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/straight-women-lesbian-porn_n_7689072