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Sex toys for couples for valentine’s day!

Give the gift of better sex this valentines day!  💘

We’re all for romantic candlelit dinners or budget stay at home dates. But sometimes you’re looking for a non-cheesy gift. The gift of better sex is thee perfect valentine’s day gift! From couple’s toys to clitoral stimulators – we’ve asked our store managers from across our 20 stores for there favourite couple’s toy for valentine’s day!

Find your perfect sex toys as a couple this valentine’s day!

1.     The Oh! Ring

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This vibrating ring is one of our best-sellers. It’s used to stimulate both partners during intercourse. It distributes the vibrations evenly around the contours of the ring so the toy feels alive!

2.     Body Boudoir Intimate Messages Chalkboard Massage Candle with Pheromones

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A simple candle – how can that help you be better at sex? It helps sets the mood. It’s one of our customer favourites. Its boutique-size comes with a useful blackboard and chalk to write a personalised message. It gives you everything a regular candle does and more. It liquefies into a sensuous massage oil, perfect for a skin body massage.

3.     Couples Duo

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This is the best couple’s toy on offer! It’s USB rechargeable, comes with a wireless remote control, it’s multi-speed and it’s a play together toy. This means that you both get to come together, it’s designed for creative couples play. We’re pretty sure you won’t have to leave the house for a Valentine’s Date with this in your sex toy drawer!

4.     Massage Bubble Bath

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What’s more romantic than taking a relaxing bubble bath together? This pheromone-infused bubble bath makes your x-rated aquatic adventures even more hot and steamy. The perfect start to a hot and sweaty evening!

5.     Diamante Handcuffs

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Valentine’s day is a good time to start exploring more adventurous options in the bedroom. Why not try these starter cuffs? It’ll give you a taste of light bondage and you can see if you both like it.

6.     Let’s F**k board game

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Who doesn’t love a good board game? This is a sure way to spice up your sex life. It’s fast-paced and fun – when you land on a square you have to perform a sexy action. The winner is whoever reaches the bed first.

7.     Tingle Lube

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We know, it’s a simple one. But lube can be a game changer in the bedroom. Why not try out our smaller lubes to give you a taster and find your favourite? Our customers love our tingle lube!

8.     Clitoral Arousal Crème – Cupcake Flavour

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This is a 2-in-1 must have! It’ll intensify clitoral stimulation by providing a tingling sensation, but it also tastes great. Eat up!

9.     Vibrating Stamina Ring

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If you’re planning on spending Valentines night away – this travel-sized erection enhancer meets clitoral stimulation is designed to give the wearer and receiver what they both want – a longer lasting erection!

10.  Red Lace Teddy

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Sometimes the old clichés are the best. Get yourself a red lace teddy – not only is it the colour of love but your partner will love seeing confident you in this!

11. Black Leather Flogger

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BDSM and black leather go together like eggs and bacon, so it’s no surprise this Black Leather Flogger is one of Pulse & Cocktails’ best selling impact-play items, sticking to the classic principles that have made a good ol’ fashioned, hardy flogging so appealing to so many.

12.  Dragon Strong

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Dragon-strong is our best selling, performance-enhancing herbal supplement for men.

13. Elissa Rechargeable Egg

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Remote control toys offer unrestricted fun for couples. If you’re out on a fancy Valentine’s Date you can make it a lot more exciting with a vibrating remote controlled egg. Place it inside you – and hand over the remote! Why wait until you get home for the fun to start?

14.  Silicone Penis Sleeve with Vibrating Rabbit Ears

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Want something which offers fun for both partners? Men – you can become your very own rabbit vibrator with this penis sleeve! Both partners can enjoy the benefits of this soft, silicone penis sleeve converts your penis into the ultimate clitoral stimulator.

15.  Silicone Ribbed Male Masturbator (Black)

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The single man needs some Valentine’s Day love too! This discreet portable masturbator is designed to be real-feel so it makes your fantasies come true! Why not pop into one of our stores and pick up an Adult Movie to set the mood?

16.  Seduction

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Why should men get all the solo fun? Seduction is a high-end, multi-speed rabbit style vibrator with a difference. Rather than the typical bunny ears for clitoral stimulation, it has a suction cup. It sucks rather than vibrates! It has 12-modes of suction and 12-modes of vibration.

17.  Adult Movies

What makes our sexy superstores unique is that we have a wide range of R18 DVDs.  We know that everyone has different tastes, that’s why we stock a bigger selection of films than any other UK retailer. Pop into your nearest Pulse and Cocktails store – you won’t find these DVDs online!

18.   3 Heart-Hole Studded Paddle

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Still riding from it becoming more mainstream thanks for Fifty Shades, customers love a good spanking paddle. This one features hearts, you know, to tie in with the romantic nature of Valentine’s Day.

19.  my.toy Rechargeable Wireless Bullet (Pink)

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One of our best-selling bullets and it isn’t hard to understand why. This bullet has a whopping 20 modes of vibrations, is USB rechargeable and comes with its own free-standing charging dock. What isn’t to like? It even fits into a handbag – a handy travel companion for that Valentine’s weekend away!

20. Red Nipple Tassels

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Nipple tassels are a fun little gift which lightens the mood in the bedroom, raises a smile and gives you more of an excuse to get a little naughty in the bedroom!

What are you waiting for? Visit one of our stores today or shop from the comfort of your sofa!

Reasons you should try: lubricant

We know that the concept of using lubricant is a little bit lost on some couples. A lot of our customers often tell us that they think it isn’t something they should worry about and that maybe it’s something the older generation should worry about. Well – you’re wrong. Our love of lubes needs to rub off onto you – here’s 7 reasons you should try lube!

1.     It makes it easier to orgasm


Applying lube makes both men and women feel more aroused, making sex easier, increasing stimulation and creating a more intense and intimate experience. In fact, a study from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health determined that lube makes it 50% easier to orgasm for both men and women. That’s a 50% higher chance of reaching climax – who wouldn’t want that?


2.       It can help with the bigger penis size


Look, sometimes lube can be really helpful when you’re attempting to entertain a massive member. Why be prideful and tear your vaginal wall to shreds to prove a point? No woman wants that. And no man wants to experience that either. No one wins in that situation.


3.     Puts an end to sexual discomfort


If you or your partner are finding it a little painful during sex for whatever reason, applying a little bit of lube before sex will reduce the risk and help to maintain a smooth and controlled rhythm during sex.


4.     It speeds things up


By using lube, you’re ready for sex much faster than you are should you wait for your body to provide its natural lubricants. If you have trouble with vaginal dryness, or if you’re ready to get down and dirty but your body’s not quite there yet, lube is the answer. Equally, if you’re having sex in public places – it might be quite thrilling but there just isn’t enough time for your body to catch up! Lube helps.


5.     Prolong the pleasure


Some lube can delay climax using a desensitising agent which makes it easier to control your orgasm until your partner is ready. It also helps keep everything moistened for far longer, meaning you can make the fun last a lot longer!


6.     It makes sex naughtier


Using lube during foreplay, with sex toys, as well as using flavoured lube during oral sex can be an awesome little game changer in the bedroom! It’s an easy way of introducing a little excitement too.


7.     Hello, anal sex


Have you ever tried anal sex without lubricant? Well, don’t. It’s an absolute must for hassle-free anal sex and will make it much more enjoyable and satisfying for everyone involved!


Choosing the right male masturbator

Choosing a male masturbator can seem like a difficult take. Often men think sex toys are just for women. We all know that’s wrong. We know that men enjoy a good adult movie and often masturbate during them. As the old adage goes “ninety percent of men admit to masturbating while the other ten percent are liars”.

When sex is not available guys will be guys and when they feel the need are not adverse to taking matters into our own hands, literally.  Women have their dildos. Guys now have their male masturbators. There arrival has been a total game changer in the art of male pleasure. They’re used by both straight and gay guys – you know, when they are in-between dates, as part of their sex play with a partner and often when working out of town and missing the “comforts” of home.

Who says women have all the fun?

The male masturbator is probably now as ubiquitous in the hotel room as a Corby trouser press! I kid you not, after you have read this article the first thing on your shopping list will be a male masturbator or one of its many derivatives.

What the heck is a male masturbator?

Basically, a male masturbator is a sleeve or tube of soft flexible material into which you insert your old man and away you go. Inside, this tube is a contoured, ribbed lining with bumps and nodules? Combined these create a very realistic feeling of slipping your cock into a vagina, arse or mouth.

To keep the linings’ shape and tightness it is fitted inside a rigid plastic case. This gives the whole unit the appearance of a torch or flashlight. A cunning way of keeping your sex toy discreetly hidden from prying eyes or accidental discovery. At each end of the plastic case is a screw cap. You remove the top end to reveal the orifice awaiting your eager member. There is a corresponding screw cap at the opposite, and usually, narrower end. By loosening or tightening this second cap you can adjust the sleeve’s resistance as you plunge.

Cool – so which one?

We know picking a sex toy poses many questions

Which do you choose? What size? What design?

All these are very common questions when it comes to picking the right male masturbator. After all, it isn’t just a piece of silicone to put your dick in. If chosen right, it can be the perfect travel or bedroom companion. It can add spice to the bedroom for both individual play and couple experimentation.

Male masturbators cover all aspects of male pleasure and leave your hungry for more.

The trick is choosing the right one to satisfy all your fantasies whether it be a full doll or just a specific part of the female anatomy that does it for you there is everything you can possibly think off to get your release. Whether working away or in the bedroom.

Our Top Picks

Super Smooth Portable Pussy

Lube up and get going, this travel sized vaginal masturbation sleeve is the perfect travel companion.  Most men using this toy use their imagination to add to the experience (some opt for an adult DVD from our stores too!) They are easy to clean and will last as long as they correctly looked after. There are numerous styles ready to be taken for a test drive.








Multi-Speed Blow Job Masturbator

Fancy something a little more heavy duty? Then why not try one of the various masturbators encased in a plastic container often designed to look like a torch, this portable pussy delivers the discreet pleasure your craving. This can be operated through its own vibration or just with hand motion. It’s ideal for those moments when you’re looking for porn-style deep throat loving.







“Hands-Free” Male Rotation Masturbator

If you’re not too fussed on flesh imitation and prefer the feel of oral sex then this is one for you!

With a clear silicone skin and rechargeable rotation movements this hands-free rotation lover is the way forward. It can be placed on any hard surface for easy hands-free play.







Silicone Ribbed Male Masturbator (Grey)

If you prefer the stroking motion then this little star is the one for you, encasing your penis with ribbed detailing to provide a massaging feel resulting in the ultimate climax, with a small hole at the tip this toy expels excess fluid with a slit down the side for easy entry and exit, it screams simple pleasure.

Easy to clean and hide if needed, if cared for correctly can give endless pleasure.






The Hands-Free Pump Action Pleasure Cup

If you’re ready to take your pleasure to another level, then this hands-free piston cup is the top of the masturbator tree. This all singing all dancing device covers all bases with a rechargeable motor, for vibration, thrusting and pulsing stimulation this device will leave you wanting more. The clear silicone skin is soft with protruding bristles which provide added massage and stimulation just when you need it.  The skin is easy to remove for cleaning and once charged the motor will last hours.


The choice is yours, go out and play. Finding out which one is your favourite is half the fun.




How to use a male masturbator?

It might be tempting to just shove it in for a bit of a wham, bam, thank you ma’am. But that isn’t going to give you the best pleasure. It’s a good idea to apply water-based lubricate to the toy and your penis. It’ll limit the amount of friction, heighten your sensitive and improve the feeling.

Then the rest is up to you. You can use either one or two hands – which ever you find more comfortable. Alternatively, some of our male masturbators come with a suction come so you can secure it and go hands-free. Perfect for couple play.

The rest is up to you. The fun part is experimenting, finding which toy is your favourite and how to use it!

Keep it clean

After you have finished, and this may be sooner than you had planned due to the extreme pleasures the male masturbators produce, you should now clean your new-found friend. This will keep it in good condition and ready for your next encounter. Remove the sleeve from the plastic case, turn it inside out and wash gently in warm soapy water. A spray with an antibacterial toy cleaner to finish the job is best. Leave out on a towel to air dry completely. To keep the sleeve from becoming tacky to the touch a light dusting with corn flour or corn starch now and again.

There is such a wide variety of male masturbators to choose from. But, don’t worry, it’s difficult to be disappointed whatever you pick. There are many colours, sizes, orifices and lining textures available, some are moulded to replicate the vagina of your favourite pornstar. Choosing is all part of the fun. You can have them with vibrators or with a mechanical piston action so you can lie back and enjoy the fun.

After buying one, and you won’t regret it, don’t stop there, start a collection! As they say, variety is the spice of life.


The Single Ladies Sex Toy Survival Guide

Our Brough store manager gives us the low down on the perfect night in for the single ladies!

Being a single lady in my 30s, I have found myself wondering what’s next? Mistletoe season is just around the corner. We have to brave the New Year’s countdown with champagne and grace. Sod that! There is no shame in being single.

No women will ever see a sex toy as a full replacement for a man. So, there is no reason for any guy to be intimidate by them. Most girls will tell you that it’s a fun way to spice things up in bed with a vibrator or a cock ring.

With the cold winter months coming up, here is a little survival guide for the perfect night. Embrace your singleness! This is all about treating yourself to some much needed “you” time.


1.       Chick Flicks

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Look – I love a good love story and yes, I like to imagine I am the heroine in the film. So, put on your favourite chick flick, grab the chocolate and that glass of wine and enjoy getting in the mood. Almost like a date-night with yourself!


2.       Chocolate

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You can’t watch a good old love story without some chocolate. Whilst enjoying your favourite movie you can’t say no to a good bar of chocolate and a glass of your choice beverage to wash it down with. Chocolate also possesses Phenylethylamine also known as “the love drug” because it arouses feelings similar to those when you are in love. It also has tryptophan which is known to release serotonin into the body which is said to be a mood-lifter. So chomping down on your chocolate will leave you feeling happy and relaxed.


3.       Bubble Bath

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There are so many benefits to having a little time alone after a movie of your choice, and yes I hear you all screaming a certain movie title at me. Not only does self-pleasure help you relax and relieve the days stress it will help you to feel more confident with your own body. Then go ahead and pop yourself into a hot bubble bath and soak away the day.


4.       My Wand

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We live in a fast-paced world where things are constantly changing and updating. It’s important that some things can be counted on… to provide multiple orgasms! Reliability is important to us singles. We like to know we have something to come home to.

Much like the perfect guy who you thought about in secondary school, the My Wand will ruin you for all other clitoral vibrators, it’s ok, we’re ok with it!


5.       Seduction

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The most popular sex toy on the market is the trusting Rabbit. Treat yourself to something familiar but a little bit different. Every girl needs a rabbit in her collection. This is one of the more unique out there! Why? What’s different about Seduction? Well, it’s done away with the conventional rabbit-ear clitoral stimulator and replaced with a suction cup that covers the clitoris. It sucks on the clit rather than vibrators against it. It’s also capable of 12 modes of suction!

It’s also USB rechargeable (hey, we live in modern times, right?)


6.       Lubricant

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I know – not a sex toy. But it’s an absolute must in your single survival kit! Since your treating just yourself, you might as well really treat yourself. Test out all different types of lube to find out which would you like best – maybe it’s the tingling lube or the self-warming lube.

Hopefully they’ll provide some comfort to you as we navigate our way through coupling season.  Don’t worry – one of the most common statements I hear in-store is “I don’t own a toy!” No judgement here! Before I started working at Pulse & Cocktails I didn’t either.

It gives you a chance to explore your own turn on spots and mentally be able to let go. So, when you meet the right guy to explore with you, you already know which areas to direct him too!

Don’t worry single ladies – being single isn’t all that bad.


A Beginners Guide to Anal Sex

The words ‘anal sex’ might have you cringing. Many people see it as a taboo. Others see it as an act of trust, love and closeness. Anal play has been having its moment of the last couple of years, we have seen the number of anal sex toys sold increase. More and more couples are trying it.

Think only gay men enjoy anal play? Then you’re a little bit behind the times. Whilst it’s true that men have the advantage of having a prostate, which feels incredible when stimulated, but many women enjoy anal play to. That’s because the anus is richly endowed with a body of nerve endings, these nerve endings are crying out to be teased and stimulated!


Safety always comes first

Everyone likes surprises and everyone likes sex – so you’re thinking of combining the two! DON’T. ‘Sticking it in’ is a sure-fire way to put people off anal for life. Talk about it first. It might be something new to the other person or maybe they’ve been thinking about asking you. Make sure you’re both in agreement that it’s something you want to try, and it’s not one person doing it to please the other!

Some people speak of a little pain and discomfort when first attempting anal sex, this discomfort is often quickly turned into pleasure once the person learns to utilise the vast array or anal sex toys, lubricants and desensitising creams available from us, but more importantly when they learn to relax.



  • Condoms should be worn to protect against STDs, which are transferable through the anus.
  • Rectal penetration always requires plenty of suitable lubricant, as the rectum is not self-lubricating, and dry friction is neither comfortable nor safe.
  • Foreplay and arousal are needed to relax the PC muscles.
  • The receiving partner takes charge of the pace and degree of penetration.
  • If it does not feel good, stop!
  • Clean you toy using our anti-bacterial toy cleaner.


The Risks 

There are of course some associated risks with anal sex which should always be taken into consideration before becoming involved with anal sex with your partner.

  • Sexually Transmitted infections (STI).
  • Damaging of the anus through vigorous sex or using incorrect toys for anal sex.
  • Spreading germs from the anus to the vagina.
  • Prolapsing of the anus.

The prep

One of the main questions we get asked about anal sex is “is it clean?”

The key thing we tell couples is to be prepared.  To make sure things don’t get messy, there is some minor prep work to be done.

In fact, the anus and the lower part of the rectum have very little faecal matter in them, which means they tend not be as dirty as expected.

However, having vaginal sex straight after anal sex isn’t desirable, because even microscopic faecal elements can cause vaginal infections. To safeguard against these concerns, a bowel movement prior to sex can give reassurance.

We know – it might be the most obvious thing, but it isn’t always. If you want to be super safe, you can wash. The use of a good quality douche which has spray emitted both vertically and horizontally does a great job of helping to remove any loose or smaller parts of faecal matter that may be present.


Mood setting


There is a very fine line between attempting and enjoying anal sex, and along with preparation, setting the mood is one of the major factors in determining this.

So, turn off those smartphones, light some candles and put some relaxing music on. Go slow. Why not have a couple’s massage and a nice bath? Think slow and sensual, your building up the arosuol. Not going for a quickie!

You can also use massage candles. They are perfect after a hot bath, a candle using pheromone really helps set the mood. The pheromone released relaxes the mind and heightens the senses. Once the candle is lit the pheromones start to release into the air, the wick burns the special wax which melts into a massage oil that’s warm but doesn’t burn the skin.

Add to that a massage tickling feather to explore all erogenous zones, really make sure your both relaxed and enjoying the moment.



If you’ve ever tried anal sex or explored your own bum you might notice that you naturally clench when something goes in. The more you gently play around the area, the more it will relax. This is why foreplay and exploration is extremely important!

Before penetration either penile or toy, gentle probing with a well lubricated finger is a must, not only to help lubricate the opening but also to accustom the body to stimulation there.


The Essentials


Using some of these essentials will help all the risks listed above.


  • Anal Lube, the anus is not self-lubricating like a vagina so it needs plenty of lubrication before commencing anal sex.
  • Condoms should be used to protect against STIs when having anal sex but aren’t necessarily essential when using your own personal toys for anal play.   NEVER use the same condom for both holes!
  • For beginners a relaxing desensitising spray or gel would be very useful indeed to help slightly numb down the nerve endings in the anus and sphincter.
  • Anal Douché to clean out and sanitise the anus prior to sex.
  • Anal plug– to help stretch the anus slightly before sex.
  • The receiving partner should always control the pace and degree of penetration during anal sex, at least until things become more easy and familiar with experience.
    Anti-bacterial sex toy cleaner.


The Main Event


So now you should be ready to engage in some anal play so it’s important not to overlook one of the most crucial facets of anal sex/play and that is actually engaging in other sexual activity first which not only helps to relax and ease your mind but also helps to relax the sphincter and the pubococcygeus muscle (PC Muscle) which both assist in better anal sex/play when they are more relaxed.


Just make sure you’re ‘warmed up’. The giver should lube up their finger and start slow, one lubed finger at a time. Giving the sphincter muscles chance to become more relaxed. Once the muscles are warmed up and relaxed. You can take to the main event. Even if you’ve agreed to anal sex, don’t assume that it’s still going to happen. Make sure you’re both ready before taking it to the next level.


Apply more lubricant to the bum and surrounding area. And generously apply to the penis too. Go nice and slow and enjoy!


Some couples find it best to spread these activities over several nights, so there is time to get used to the sensations and how much lube to use!


The Toys


There is a plethora of anal toys on the market many of which are available in our stores, so here is a small overview of the different types of anal toys.


As mentioned earlier these are used for primarily for stretching of the opening however they do come in vibrating varieties for extra stimulation. Various shapes and sizes to suit all as well as various materials from silicone and latex, to medical grade glass and stainless steel which are a more hygienic choice as they are non-porous.


Anal beads are designed to be inserted fully, and when the moment of climax is reached they are to be pulled quickly from the anus as the orgasm is reached to help intensify and take your orgasm to the next level.


Prostate Stims

These are ergonomically shaped for men to penetrate the anus and reach and stimulate the prostate gland, as well as simultaneously stimulate the perineum, however they are just as good for a woman to use.


We stock some educational ‘Loving Sex’ DVD series which covers advanced techniques for intimate exploration.

Desensitising Gels 

Our calming gels and desensitising are suitable for anal sex lovers of all experience lovers but might be of particular interest to beginners still getting accustomed to the sensation of anal penetration. It is not a substitute for lubricant.

Anal Lube

We’ve made no secret that we’re fans of lube. Under no circumstances should you perform anal sex without anal lube. Why? Fissures, tearing, friction buttons and other horrible painful sensations and side effects can occur. Try our Anal Lube for any time you’re experimenting with butt plugs, anal beads, anal dildos or your hands!


Now that you have read this guide to anal sex you should be ready to have some sensual ‘bum fun’ with a little more knowledge on the subject which will hopefully help you relax and enjoy this aspect of your newly expanded sex life.

The Beginners Guide to Dildos

Whether you’re looking for something firm, squeezable, or outright floppy – there is a variety of dildos to pick from: jelly dildos, rubber dildos, latex dildos, silicone dildos, glass dildos, strap-on dildos; some realistic, others the invention of wishful thinking (I’m referring to size here, great big whoppers mainly).

The very fact that the dildo can come in virtually any colour, shape or size goes a long way to explaining why this old classic has never gone out of style, even after the vibrator came on the scene, and still manages to keep the most adventurous of toy users satisfied in 2017.

With so many options, you’d think someone by now would have published a guide book (similar to The Good Pub Guide), but sadly me and you are both still waiting.

In all seriousness, we understand that choosing a dildo, especially your first dildo can feel overwhelming. Don’t worry, we’re here to help and we hope this brief ‘guide to …’ goes a long way to helping.


What is a Dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy that is almost always in the shape of a penis, used for vaginal and anal penetration.

As mentioned in the introduction, it can come in any colour, shape (to an extent, there does need to be a clearly definable shaft for penetration), material, size and style.

Dildos can be used for solo-play or with a partner (remember: couples that play together, stay together).

Lastly, dildos generally don’t vibrate. Of course you can get cock-shaped vibrators that were it not for the vibrating motor would be classified as a dildo but the hard and fast distinction is dildos don’t vibrate and vibrators (unsurprisingly) do.


Realistic Dildos


Realistic Dildos


These are just like the real thing! Unlike the real thing however, it’ll never get tired out and won’t complain when you’re working it too hard.

Not only do they look lifelike, they feel lifelike too; soft skin, thick, veiny and weighty. Lube up and you’ll struggle to tell the difference.

Just like the real thing, they are available in different colours, shapes and sizes. Great for toy users of all experience levels and are very easy to use (as are all dildo types).

Our best sellers: Dong 7.5 inch and 8″ Realistic Dong.

To get you started:  6″ Realistic Jelly-Feel Dong 


Anal Dildos

Anal Dildos


For many an anal dildo usually means a dildo that’s a bit on the small side (both length and girth).

However, just like vaginal sex everyone has a different idea of what is too big. Not only do people differ on what they consider a suitable size, they have different experience levels and want different experiences from their anal sex. Some anal-players are perfectly happy sticking to a dildo not much bigger than a small-to-medium butt plug, others seek more extreme thrills (10″, 12″ dongs, fists, etc).

What all this means is there isn’t really such a thing as an anal dildo, more a dildo that’s going to get used for anal. Just like the body part it’s modelled on, it’s designed for both forms of penetration.

What we do stress when it comes to using a dildo for anal sex is don’t make it your first anal toy, certainly don’t have it be your first anal experience. Start small, try a lubricated finger, or if you prefer, a toy no wider than your middle finger. If you feel compelled to explore more, buy a butt plug or a set of anal beads. If you still feel you can accommodate something larger, then go for a dildo. Take your time, as we said at the start; they predate the vibrator and we can’t imagine they’re going out of style anytime soon.

Our best sellers: Purple Jelly Dildo and King Size Realistic Dong 10 inch.

To get you started:  4.5” Realistic Jelly-Feel Dong


Strap-On Dildos

Strap-on Dildos

Strap-On Dildos have been a staple of many happy couples’ sex life for longer than we can remember and usually consist of a harness (worn round the wearers waist) with a dildo attached to it (to be inserted inside the receiver). If you’re planning on strap-on sex with your partner, one of these is what you need.

Strap-on’s are popular in BDSM (particularly when used on men) but aren’t limited to dungeon-esque kink and don’t have to involve submission of any kind. Having sex with a strap-on is just as intimate as having sex with nature’s joystick.

To get you started, you can get kits which are easy to use and come ready to wear (the plug ‘n’ play option).

Our best sellers: Realistic 7.5″” Silk Touch Strap-on with Balls

To get you started:  Dual Climax Strap-On with Harness


Hollow Strap-On Dildos

These days strap-on’s aren’t just worn by women. The hollow strap-on is just what it sounds like; a strap-on where the dildo is hollow, allowing a penis to snugly fit inside. Yes we’re well aware men already have a penis but that doesn’t negate the fact that hollow strap-on’s can be (sex) lifesavers in addition to being as fun to use as any other sex toy.

Hollow strap-on dildos are often used by men suffering from erectile dysfunction; erectile dysfunction can affect any man, of any age, for a variety of reasons. Since erections are deal-breakers for penetrative sex, men who suffer from erectile dysfunction often shy away from sex altogether.

A hollow strap-on allows the man to insert his penis inside and have penetrative sex even if his penis is completely flaccid. This way, even if the man has a flair up during intercourse, there is no need to stop.

Not to mention the emotional satisfaction both halves of the couple will experience; the wearer joyed they’re still able to play a pivotal role in sexually pleasing the person they love, whilst the other person is not only happy for them but is elated in their own right as it means they’re still able to have enjoyable sex with their nearest and dearest.

To get you started: Hollow Strap-on 6.5 inches


Vibrating Dildos

Vibrating Dildos

Some people are just addicted to the vibe, that’s cool!

Vibrating dildos, just like their non-vibrating siblings, come in all sorts of colours, materials, shapes and sizes.

Our best sellers are: 7″ Vibrating Realistic Dong and 9″ Pink Dong Vibrator

To get you started:  7″ Vibrating Realistic “Smooth Touch” Dong


Double Ended Dildos

Double-ended Dildos

Two is usually better than one, right? If you think the way we do then you should definitely experiment with double-ended dildos as they’re all about maximising the pleasure for both of you.

We know they can look intimidating to the beginner but you have to remember that you will be sharing (we’ll assume that means a 50/50 split).

Just like all other dildo types, double-ended dildos come in a range of colours, shapes and sizes, some even have one end that gradually widens out so one cock is girthier than the other (ideal if one of you is particularly more accommodating than the other).

Most of them tend to be pretty flexible too, this lends itself to experimenting with double-penetration (simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration).

Our best sellers: Pink Double-Ended Dildo and 14 Inch Double Dildo.

To get you started:  Purple Double-Ended Dildo


Glass Dildos

Glass Dildos

Our glass dildos are things of beauty! We think they could go on a display all by themselves and you could just look at them. Of course, the true magic comes when you touch them. Don’t worry – the glass is super tough!

Glass toys are ideal for what’s called ‘temperature-play’ where you either refrigerate the toy (or freeze it for a very short period of time) for the chilled effect or go the other way and heat it up, either sensation will be a new and exciting experience.

Glass does wonders for the G-spot and prostate.

Lastly, they are among the easiest toys to keep clean, ensuring hygiene levels are kept to the very highest of standards.

Our best sellers: Yellow Spiral Glass Dildo and Amber Spiral Textured Glass Dildo.

To get you started:  Glass Dildo with ring


How do I use a dildo?


Like with any new sex toys – we recommend you start small, especially if you’re using it for the first time. Don’t take more than you can handle or you risk ruining what could be an amazing experience.

Bear in mind that the average UK penis size is 5 – 6 inches. So, if you’re just getting started you’re best off starting with a dildo that size. Starting with a dildo that is too big will only cause pain and discomfort.

Start slowly, don’t race ahead. Before you do anything – see what the dildo feels like when you rub it on the outside of your body. Use it to massage and stimulate first. Think of it as foreplay!

Don’t forget the lubricant either, to highlight the importance of lubricant rub the un-lubricated dildo very briefly on the outside of your body. If the dildo is made of jelly, rubber, PVC or latex you will notice it doesn’t glide so well. Now imagine that inside your delicate’s. Precisely. Use lube.

(even if the dildo is made from silicone or glass, materials that are a lot smoother, we still recommend using lubricant)

Once you begin to penetrate yourself – go slowly. Take the time to see how it feels, discovering how it’s different to using your own or someone else’s body part.


How do I bring this up?

So you’re thinking “this sounds like fun, I’d enjoy that! But how do I tell my partner?”

It’s OK, we’ve got that covered too. Check out our ‘How to introduce sex toys to your relationship’ guide. Good luck and play-safe.

Penis Vacuum Pumps Guide

Over the years, many men have discovered that a penis pump is a great way to enhance their penis very quickly. Not only does it offer instant results, but it can also address problems involving erectile dysfunction.

A lot of the customers who come into our stores do so after NHS health professionals have advised them to try a penis pump.

We think penis pumps are just what’s needed to give you instant growth and are a great way to maintain a strong, prolonged erection regardless of whether you use it to build yourself up for sex or for solo play. We get asked a lot of questions in our stores about penis pumps, so welcome to our handy penis pump guide!

Safety always comes first

Safety isn’t something you should think about after an accident, so it’s important that you listen to the safety information before your ego gets deflated, not to mention all the tentative walking you’ll be doing due to your crown jewels being bandaged-up.

Stop immediately if you experience any pain or notice any discoloration, blisters or red spots.

Don’t over pump! It can have the opposite effect, in some cases it can desensitise the area in question. It can also damage tissue, cause oedema (accumulation of fluid just under the skin) and even affect circulation.

There’s no need to panic, just follow this advice and your pumping experience will be an enjoyable one.


  • Stop if you experience any pain or loss of sensation.
  • Trim any rouge hairs to avoid snagging and seal problems.
  • Rest for at least 24 hours

How do penis pumps work?

A pump works by creating a vacuum around the penis, drawing blood into all the empty cavities in the penis allowing the man to achieve the biggest erection he can attain without spending fortunes on surgery.

Most penis pumps have an airtight cylinder that is placed over the shaft of your penis – excluding your balls (unless the pump is designed for them!) – to create a vacuum/suction to enlarge your erection. When the pump is placed over the shaft of your penis it increases blood flow into the tissues that give you a strong erection.

Pumping causes air pressure inside the tube to decrease, increasing the suction inside the tube which gradually increases the blood flow to your penis. It’s OK, you’re in total control of how often you pump and the pressure applied to your penis.

Regular use of a pump exercises two tiny sphincter-like muscles at the base of the penis which regulate and control blood entering and leaving the penis. These muscles are responsible for allowing a man to achieve and/or maintain an erection, and just like any regular exercise these muscles will become stronger with regular use, allowing the man to ‘get back’ some of his ability and control to achieve and maintain an erection.

Penis pumps are safe to use, but you will put yourself at risk if you do not follow the instructions, limit yourself to short sessions (to begin with) and make sure that you are not applying too much pressure to your penis.

Benefits of a penis pump

By its design, a penis pump helps draw blood into the penis, not only producing an erection but making that erection as full and large as it can possibly be.

This second benefit (increased size) is the other main reason men purchase pumps. The slight increase in length and girth are what’s called ‘temporary gains’ as these effects will eventually wear off, however some men who implement pumps into their weekly routine (much like their gym workouts) have claimed pumps have helped them get a bigger penis, permanently.

A third, lesser known reason for using pumps is they can actually be quite pleasurable. The intense sucking sensation alone can turn this device from sex-aid to sex toy. Some pumps even come with an accessory to enhance this feature, often in the form of a vaginal-looking attachment (very similar to a lot of the male masturbators) that replaces the air-tight ring at the base of the cylinder.

To summarise, the benefits of using a penis pump regularly are:

  • Instant erections
  • Stronger erections
  • Improved blood flow to the penis
  • Improved sexual staying power
  • More length
  • More girth

Types of Pumps

There are various styles of pumps with different sized cylinders, and likewise different sized seals to accommodate all penis sizes. Don’t rush and buy the first pump you come across. The pump you buy should be tailored towards your needs and what you’re expecting to gain from using it.

DRY PUMPS: Products in this category use air only, they are simple vacuum cylinders and have been popular for many years.

ELECTRIC PUMPS:  These are the more popular pumps in our stores. Both battery operated and rechargeable, these modern pumps are easier to operate, don’t require any manual pumping and generally have a longer life-span.

We would always recommend purchasing a cock ring to go with your pump. Why? The pump achieves the erection, the ring maintains the erection.

How to use a penis pump

Before starting it’s vital to warm your penis up, after all you wouldn’t go running without stretching your legs or do weights without limbering up. The common way to do this is … there’s no delicate way to say it: have a 1/4 wank, you know, just a few strokes to wake it up. Then apply lubrication to both your penis and the pump’s ring, allowing for easy pain-free insertion, ample suction and easy withdrawal.

Unless you have a pump designed to include your scrotum, best to leave your balls out of this one! After that:

  1. Place your penis through the ring and inside the cylinder.
  2. Use either the hand pump or the electric pump attached to the cylinder to create a vacuum inside, drawing blood to the penis – whilst this is an unusual sensation, it shouldn’t hurt! Slightly uncomfortable maybe, but not pain.
  3. After several pumps, or whenever you reach a level of intensity you wish not to exceed (for pain reasons), stop pumping but don’t withdraw.
  4. Maintain this stretch for 3-5 minutes, occasionally doing a solitary pump if you feel the pressure slowly beginning to fade.
  5. Use the quick-release facility to kill the pressure, then slowly withdraw your penis from the pump.
  6. Have a 3-5 minute interval, towards the end it wouldn’t hurt to have another 1/4 wank.
  7. Repeat instruction’s 1 – 5 (apply more lubricant if needed).
  8. After your second set, kill the pressure and slowly withdraw your penis from the pump.

Many pump users time their sets, the above instructions are best suited to beginners (men who have used penis pumps for less than 3 months).

You should notice short term results immediately after using your pump. If you’re looking to make a long-term commitment you’ll need to use your pump regularly, you will see increases in girth and/or length over time, but we stress ‘time’ in the classic sense, not the modern-era notion where everything is achieved effortlessly in ten minutes.

If you decide to deviate from our above instructions don’t use your pump for longer than 20 minutes – this will avoid injury or complications!

Penis pumping techniques

If your aim is to increase the size of your penis using your newly acquired penis pump, you should apply some techniques that can help you gain the best results from your pump.

Milking the Tube

Milking is one of the most popular and efficient techniques that helps promote and maintain blood circulation and trains the internal penile chambers.

This is a similar process to masturbation, but you use your penis pump. Move the pump up and down during the pumping process. It’s recommended that you begin doing this a few minutes after you’ve started so your penis can get acclimated.

Do not apply force. Go at a slow and smooth pace. Avoid hard or long milking as it can lead to penis swelling.


This technique helps the user achieve the best results possible if the penis is erect during pumping.

Sometimes it can be difficult to maintain that maximum-sized erection, especially if the penis remains inside the cylinder due to longer sessions. Shakes technique is used to help maintain this erection level by stimulating the penis’s nerve endings and enhancing blood flow.

Shakes is done by shaking the pump’s cylinder tube in an up-down motion either by using your hand or through gently rocking the hips. One thing to remember, this technique should not be done in a forceful pace, but forceful enough to allow an increase in erection level.

Additionally, varying the intensity along with the range of motion produces a good stretch at the base of the penis.


This technique is very simple. The penis pump’s cylinder tube is wrapped with a heating device during the duration of the session. An electric heating pad is an excellent device to use for this activity.

This produces heat around the penis shaft. In fact, heat is a vital factor as a means of stimulating blood flow, a vital element in any penis enlargement routine.

However, keep in mind not to leave the wrap on for too long as it can cause blisters that can lead to severe penile injury or damage. Moreover, leaving the wrap for a long period makes the tube very hot very quick.

You don’t need something that is hot, just warm.

Tips to remember when penis pumping

Avoid over pumping

It can be very easy to over pump. If someone is going to incur a penis injury whilst using a penis pump it’s most likely down to over-pumping.

Therefore, as mentioned earlier, be very cautious and conscious about the pressure you exert and how long you exercise your penis for. It’s dangerous to over-work any body-part, the penis is no exception.

Beginners should not under any circumstances repeat the routines that are being stupidly bragged about by advanced penis pump users, normally online (the home of irresponsible behaviour these days). “Pumping marathon” simply means those who can pump for up to 5 hours every time. Even though the vast majority of these users have been pumping for many years, this routine is still considered extreme by most pump users and the only people impressed by such idiotic actions are the idiots themselves. Don’t join ’em.

Take Frequent Breaks

Again, mentioned in our mini set of instructions, take intervals. Not only necessary in the long-term they are helpful in stimulating blood flow.

Beginners should limit their penile pumping sessions to a maximum of 30 minutes per day, not exceeding 2 sessions per day.

Intermediate users; no longer than 1 to 1.5 hours, spread out over numerous sessions in the day.

Advanced users; no more than 2 to 3 hours spread out over numerous sessions in a day (though seriously, who has the time?).

So, if you have thought about using a pump and have wondered about the benefits that you can reap, or are perhaps just curious about how to use one and how it may improve your sex life, don’t hesitate to call into one of our stores and ask for some advice from one of our fully trained sales advisers.

We’re experts in sex & sex toys, this information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical professional, the health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.

Couples Sex Toys for Beginners

Okay, you and your partner have both decided to introduce a sex toy to your relationship, realising how much added enjoyment it can bring to your sensual sessions, plus it can’t hurt to experiment a little bit. The question now is “which one do I choose?”

Because different types of toys are useful for different types of sex, and require different levels of involvement during lovemaking – finding the right one can be tricky for the newcomer. Don’t worry, this small article is designed to help you with your decision, informing you about what toys we think are best suited to couples writing chapter one of this new and (hopefully) exciting adventure.

If one of you, or both, are new to sex toys and aren’t yet masters of how to use them correctly then a large size toy could easily be misused and result in severe discomfort. Not only will this cause physical pain in the short-term, long-term you may put the other person off using sex toys for life, torpedoing your sexual escapades before any meaningful (certainly memorable) lift-off.

Our advice is to start small, huge stallion dongs will forever be readily available should you ever get the itch to use one, but before you even consider that we repeat, start small.

The following is a collection of small size toys that are appropriate for first-timers:


The Bullet

Wireless Mini Bullet (10 Speed) (£5.95): Perfect for the beginner just discovering the joys of adult toys!

Non-threatening, pocket-size, simple to use and more versatile than it looks. Predominantly vibrating bullets are used for clitoral/vaginal (external) stimulation but we see no reason why you can’t use it to tease the nipples, inner thighs or anywhere else that instinctively feels right. Bullets are also unisex, the amount of men who are discovering the joys of applying a dash of lubricant to their manhood and gliding the bullet up and down their shaft is on the increase, big time!


Cock Ring

Vibrating Cock Ring (£19.95): Perfect starter cock-ring!

Sometimes referred to as a ‘love ring’, regardless of what you call it the man wears this little device on his penis at the base of the shaft. He puts it on after he has become erect (please use lubricant, we cannot stress that enough). It should be tight, but not uncomfortable.

Its main function is to prevent blood from leaving his penis so he not only lasts longer but his erection will be slightly bigger, girthier and juicier than normal (the way it is when he’s really got a throb-on … apologies, we couldn’t think of any other way to describe it).

The benefits don’t stop there. A lot of cock rings now have a mini vibrating bullet built into the design so when the man is wearing it and things are in full flow the bullet vibrates against the other person’s intimate area, sending intense “oh my” rumblings where they desire them most. On some models, the bullet is removable, great if you’re thinking of investing in a vibrating bullet as it becomes a 2-in-1.

Warning: if the bullet is not designed to be removed, do not remove it. This will only result in you breaking a perfectly good toy.


Small to medium size Vibrator

The Big Finger (£29.95): Not too big to intimidate a first-timer

Pleasure Wave: Pleasure Wave Pink Vibrator is a great way to make ‘me time’ just that bit more memorable. (£29.95)

Similar to the bullet in many ways; petite in size, non-intimidating, easy on the eye, also easy to operate – is one more button really going to make it that much harder to use? Where it differs from the bullet is it can be used for both external and internal vaginal stimulation.

You may have noticed the shaft on one of the vibrators is curved at the end, this makes it ideal for G-spot stimulation, enabling you to replicate the movements you would perform if using your fingers, only now the fingers are vibrating!

Sex during pregnancy

Congratulations! The next several months will be a time of growth (literally and figuratively), wonder and change.

Speaking of which… you’re probably already wondering about lifestyle changes. And that’s likely to include thinking about your sex life.

Sex during pregnancy is sex and it will strengthen the bond between you as a couple. Some women seem to want to have more sex during the first and second trimesters-although not usually the third (We hear you, the third trimester is difficult!)

We also know that as first-time mums and dads you might have a lot of questions. Is sex safe during pregnancy? Will the penis harm the baby? Can the baby feel sex? Is it okay to have an orgasm during pregnancy?

Hopefully we can clear some of those questions and concerns with our quick-fire FAQs to sex during pregnancy.



Can you still have sex during pregnancy?
Of course! Sex is safe during pregnancy. Unless your midwife has told you otherwise.  Most women can carry on bonking until their water breaks or they go into labour!

How different is sex during pregnancy?

As your body changes, sex will be different. During pregnancy, your blood volume increases by about 40%. That not only swells your breast, but it also heightens sensitivity throughout all your erogenous zones. And that can mean more intense, even multiple, orgasms.

You’ll find your sex drive changes through your pregnancy – potentially disappearing in your first trimester when you’re tired and nauseate; getting livelier in your second trimester when high levels of hormones can send your libido through the stratosphere; then tapering off as your due date approaches and you feel achy, unwielding, and maybe even nervous about impending parenthood.

Will it hurt the baby?

This is undoubtedly the biggest wet blanket – the fear of hurting the baby. Research shows that somewhere between 50 and 80% of women worry about it. Dads do too. Let’s make this clear – sex doesn’t hurt the baby. The amniotic sac and muscles of the uterus and the mucus plug that seals the cervix protects against infection.

Don’t worry – the penis doesn’t go beyond the vagina so it won’t reach the baby. The baby is in the womb, up through the cervix. There’s no chance of it harming the baby.

Can sex during pregnancy cause a miscarriage?

Another massive fear is that sex will cause miscarriage. Sex doesn’t cause miscarriage. Even if your partner is well endowed, his penis will never reach the baby because the baby isn’t in the vagina. The baby is cocooned away in its own little impenetrable vault, within the strong walls of the uterus, behind the cervix and well cushioned by amniotic fluid.

I’ve had a low sex drive – is this normal?

There’s lots of individual experiences when it comes to sexual desire during pregnancy. Some women have heightened libido throughout pregnancy, others are less interested in sex. Both are normal. Your body is going through a lot of changes, both physically and hormonal changes. These play havoc with your libido.

The first couple of months of pregnancy can be very difficult for some women as it leads to tiredness, nausea, and irritability. In the second trimester, the libido returns as these symptoms decrease!

Communication is key. Communicate with your partner, reassure him that you’re still in love – you’ll find your partner will be understanding, you’re embarking on a wonderful journey together. Try to enjoy it!

What about my partners sex drive?

Since your partner might become anxious and doesn’t want to hurt you or the baby, pregnancy often makes him uncomfortable with intercourse. He will find you more attractive as you get curvier day by day.

The best thing to do here, is attend pre-natal appointments together, so he can be reassured by a professional.

Again – communicate. Talk freely with your partner and tell him your feelings. There are other ways to enjoy each other if you’re both not ready for sex.

Is oral sex safe?
Yes. Oral sex is safe. Again, due to those hormone changes, it’s normal for you to have a change in smell or taste down there during pregnancy. There’s elevated PH levels in your vagina – this can result in bouts of thrush, bacterial vaginosis and a change in your discharge (we’re sorry, that isn’t the perfect dirty talk you’ve been looking for!)

Chat to your midwife if you’ve got any of those problems.

You could use some flavoured lubricant to make the experience more pleasurable.

Can sex trigger labour?

There is no harm in giving it a go. There is no proof that it works! Semen contains a chemical called prostaglandins – which can induce labour, and orgasms are a good way to increase activity down below. But there’s no guarantee. (But you’ll have fun trying to induce labour!)

Are sex toys safe?
The short answer? Yes, of course! Rarely is anything sex-related off limits during pregnancy! Even rough intercourse while your pregnant is OK as long as you’re smart and safe about it.

But sex toys definitely get a green light since, for most of the part, they’re just synthetic versions of the real thing. Some couples find that they enjoy sex toys even more than before, the increased blood flood to genitals, along with hormonal changes, can make orgasms with a sex toy more intense.

If you’re worried about penetration, that’s understandable, but your sex toys aren’t going to be a problem. It’s fine avoid deep penetration with a sex toy but your placenta, cervix and baby are well protected. Your partner thrusting inside you is safe – then so is your sex toy!
A vibrator may be your toy of choice – that’s totally safe too! Using a vibrator on your clitoris? Absolutely safe.

It is important to consider a few things. While the act of using the toy is safe on your body and baby, there are some precautions you can take to keep yourself even safer!

1.       Clean your toys

We mean thoroughly. Clean it before and after you use it, just to keep any bacteria from entering your vagina and causing an infection. Clean with warm, soapy water, rinse and dry them careful and then store them in a clean place. You can use our toy cleaner to make this even easier!

2.       Don’t switch from vaginal to anal

If you use a toy for anal stimulation or penetration – then this is strictly an anal only toy! No matter how well you clean your sex toy – that bacteria can still be there and potentially cause an infection.

3.       Treat it like regular pregnancy sex

The same rules on sex while pregnant apply to using sex toys while pregnant. If you’re bleeding, your cervix is probably just a little irritated and nothing to worry about unless it’s accompanied with cramps or gets heavier. It’s totally safe to orgasm while using sex toys, and any position is fair game, as long as you’re comfortable. Always check with your midwife or health professional if you’re unsure.

Do vibrations hurt the baby?

No! The baby is protected by the amniotic fluid. The baby has no idea what’s going on and definitely won’t remember any of it!

What sex positions are best?

It’s a lot of fun trying different positions whilst pregnant to see which are best and most comfortable. The trick is finding positions that work well round your growing belly, and don’t put pressure on your back and abdomen.

The truth is – everyone is different. Pregnancy is a personal journey. You and your partner should work together to find sexual positions and levels of intimacy that you’re both happy with.

Always remember: When pregnant, you should do everything in moderation, including sex and sex toy use. Just about anything that feels good for you is safe for the baby, as long as your midwife has given you the go ahead. Don’t worry that the baby is “watching” – while your baby might enjoy uterine contractions during orgasm, he or she can’t see what you’re doing and definitely won’t remember it.

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical professional, the health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Always seek the direct advice of your own midwife in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.

Lube – The Lowdown

See the our full range of Love Lube!
Poor old lube, wrongly convicted by the court of public opinion; often mistakenly thought of as an older person’s necessity or solely a sex-aid for anal sex, nothing could be further from the truth. Let the appeal process commence!

By the end of this article, any stigma surrounding lube will be shown to be grossly unfounded as its benefits as an essential bedroom accessory gets proven beyond reasonable doubt, regardless of whether you’re 18 or in your 80’s.

One mis-truth our staff members often hear from customers is “if you’re good at it, you shouldn’t need it”. Sorry Joe-public, and an extra-special sorry to our valued customers, but you’re talking rubbish. Utter rubbish. When it comes to sex, lube makes everything better … except kissing (we’ll concede that point).

Little fact: women, including young women, aren’t always wet. And no, it isn’t because you’re not doing it right or something’s wrong. We’ll spare you the verse-and-chapter sex-ed lesson and skip straight to the bit where they tell you it’s completely natural and is all to do with women’s bodies and their different times of the month. So relax, it’s time to get your head around all things lube.

Lube is not some remedy for a so-called problem, but a gift from the sex-gods to help us enhance what is already bloody brilliant! Being well-oiled feels great for both parties. For guys, it can intensify pleasure without making you climax any quicker than normal, not to mention it prevents damage to your pecker! For women, it makes the experience more comfortable and thus, pleasurable, meaning you can relax and enjoy it more. The simple added ingredient of a liquid lubricant can add a whole new level of pleasure to your sexual experience, and that’s before the any specially formulated sensation/flavoured lube is bought into this equation.

We know it can be quite confusing if you’re new to using lubricant, you’ll be in your local adult store at their lube display and all you see is different varieties with very little or no information telling you what the differences between each lube are, it’s tough to know which lube will be suitable for your needs.

With these needs in mind, it only makes sense we start at the beginning.

What is lube?

A lubricant is any substance that helps to reduce friction, it’s highly likely you’re already using some form of lubrication on bike chains and squeaky doors so even if you haven’t used lubricant for sexual purposes, you’re familiar with the general gist.

Personal lubricants obviously contain vastly different ingredients to the industrial kind (we’re not suggesting you grab your WD40) but the idea is the same, to reduce friction.

But I’m young – why do I need lube?

A lot of people think lube is only intended for older people who produce less natural vaginal moisture because of hormonal changes which comes with ageing. This is one of the biggest myths around.

Argh!! Why is there so many lubes on the market?

Think of lubes like vibrators, different lubes have different features so they offer the user different benefits, just like vibrators with different features will offer different benefits.

As we all know, people’s sexual desires are as varied as their music collections, so naturally people are going to want different things from their lube, which is why there is a healthy selection to choose from.

Some will just need to increase vaginal moisture, others will want to apply some to their sex-toy(s) so it can glide over their intimate areas (or slide in ‘n’ out without incurring any discomfort due to the nature of the toy’s material). Some will want to make their bits taste a certain flavour, improving oral-sex for both giver and receiver. For others it’s a prerequisite, if you’re going to partake in anal-sex lubrication is much more than an accessory, it’s a necessity. No if’s, no butt’s, no shortcuts, no substitutions; the back-side doesn’t produce any natural lubrication, so if you want to avoid serious injury; lube up (both of you!).

Lube comes in either a thin liquid or a thicker gel-like texture. Each style of lubrication has a different base-ingredient, it is this base-ingredient that determines the texture of the lube.

Standard types of lube: the main players

1. Water based lube

Water-based lubrication is the most common type of lubricant and for good reason. Because it’s water-based, any remaining lube-residue is easy to clean up (we’re talking bed-sheets and rocking chairs people) and as water is one of nature’s most natural ingredients it’s compatible with every type of adult toy available – silicone, all varieties of rubber (inc. TPR, skin-like/cyber/real-feel material), jelly, glass, metal etc.

Water-based lubes can also be used with condoms without causing the condom to rip or tear.

To sum up, water-based lube is suitable for every conceivable sex-based activity you’re thinking of doing: masturbating (with your hand or with a toy), intercourse (vaginal and anal), even oral (though make sure it’s the flavoured kind, more on that further down).

2. Silicone based lube

Silicone is a material which is made from alternative chains of silicon and oxygen atoms, it can come in many different forms including rubber, resin and oil. Its liquid form is especially effective when used as the main ingredient in a lubricant, hence why it is now a popular form of lube.

Why is it so great? Next time you’re in a shop that sells both water-based and silicone-based lubricant, give both bottles a gentle shake and you’ll notice the silicone lube moves more freely as it’s thinner than water-based lube and is normally more silky smooth too.

Many advocates of silicone-based lube say its best feature is it lasts longer than most water-based lubricants, meaning more bang for your buck.

Silicone is also hypoallergenic so it’s ideal for users who have sensitive skin or allergies. Like water-based lube, it’s latex friendly (meaning it’s condom friendly) and is great for water-play, unlike water-based lubes it doesn’t wash away quite as quickly.

The only chink in silicone-based lube’s armour is it’s not compatible with sex-toys made from the following materials: silicone and certain types of rubber (TPR, skin-like/cyber/real-feel). If you use a silicone-based lube with a toy made of these materials, don’t be surprised if your toy starts to depreciate quite rapidly, even the expensive luxury toys.

3. Oil based lubes

Petroleum (or petrolatum) based, oil-based lubes are long lasting.

We’re not going to lie, this is the least popular type of lube. Not only will it ruin latex (so clearly using it with condoms is a gamble), it’s not recommended for vaginal intercourse as it can mess with the chemistry down there.

Technically it can be used for anal sex but as previously mentioned it’s incompatible with condoms, so using it for this purpose is only possible if the anal-sex is bareback (ie. without a condom) and we at Pulse & Cocktails strongly recommend you never engage in anal-sex without a condom, no matter how much bareback anal-sex you’ve watched in porn movies … and yes, even if you douche!

The specialist lubes: the supporting cast

4. Flavoured lubes

Mint, strawberry, tropical passion, cherry. Just some of the mouth-watering flavours available from Pulse & Cocktails.

Flavoured lubes are water-based, so sure you can use it with your toys (regardless of the toy’s material) but why waste the yummyness on a toy … unless that toy is your partner’s joystick or landing strip.

Flavoured lubes are great for spicing up oral sex; apply some (not too much, even chocolate gets sickly after a while) to your partner’s bits and then simply chow-down like never before, kissing, licking, sucking, slurping, all the while salivating over the delicious flavour swirling round your mouth whilst the lucky recipient salivates over getting some mind-blowing oral-relief.

Hotly recommended.

5. Tingle lube

The Sambuca of the lube world. Tingle lube divides opinion: some love it, others aren’t so keen.

Designed to enhance stimulation when applied to your body’s most sensitive areas (basically your intimate bits), it produces a tingly sensation other lubes don’t produce.

How intense the tingle is varies from user to user, some find it too mild, some feel it’s too intense, happily many users consider it to be just the right strength and say it enhances their orgasms (both the build-up and the climatic moment itself).

If trying a tingle lube for the first time it’s a wise idea to just apply one or two drops, if you feel the sensation is too intense for your nether regions then don’t apply anymore and wash off what lube you’ve already applied.

As for the lube, give it to a friend, chances are their body will respond to it in the desired way.

6. Anal lube

Throughout this article we’ve been stressing the importance of using lube for your sexual activities and with good reason, it does genuinely enhance your pleasure (toy or no toy) even if your body produces a sufficient amount of natural lubrication.

But when it comes to anal-sex we don’t recommend you use lube, we insist, nay, we ORDER you to use lube. Attempting to have anal-sex without lube will not only cause the receiver (the person being penetrated) acute discomfort, they risk damaging their anal tissue due to the anus being incapable of producing its own natural lubrication, unlike the vagina. Hence, lube being a necessity.

Another prerequisite for enjoyable anal-sex is getting those anal muscles to relax (the sphincter) and be receptive towards what action the body is attempting. This is where a dedicated anal lube comes to the fore, by having a special relaxant blended into its recipe not only will it provide as much slippery moisture as your average water-based lubricant, it will also perform the crucial task of putting the sphincter into a relaxed state, primed for being penetrated with minimal fuss and maximum enjoyment (for both parties).

OK – I get it, lube is important! Can’t I just use Vaseline or Baby Oil?

Not all lubes are created equal. A perfect lube should be slippery, safe for the skin tissue, long lasting and shouldn’t increase the risk of vaginal infections (or any sort of infection).

Vaseline was not created to be used as a lubricant. So, no, Vaseline is not a great idea. It isn’t slippery enough – which means it’ll make things very sticky (yes, more sticky than some water-based lubes). It’ll be very messy and hard to get off. Plus, using Vaseline can also put you at risk of a bacterial infection and break down the latex in condoms! Vaseline isn’t a smart choice.

Baby Oil might be something you regularly stock at home but there’s a reason no adult store follows suit: it’s not a good lubricant. There are many cons to using baby oil. Firstly, the oil harbors bacteria and promotes the growth of yeast in the vagina. Like Vaseline, Baby Oil destroys latex (condom-friendly it ain’t). It also destroys rubber or polyurethane, meaning it’s not sex-toy friendly either. It also makes the post-sex clean up harder than it needs to be, staining most fabrics.

Some statistics show that women who use Vaseline and /or Baby Oil as a lubricant have a 50% higher chance of having frequent yeast infections or contracting bacterial vaginosis. Since both of these can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease you can see why neither Vaseline or Baby Oil should NEVER be used inside a vagina. All of the above pretty much rules out it being suitable to use as a lubricant, both vaginally and anally. It really isn’t worth the risk, don’t damage your health (or your toys).

How do I apply lube?

Don’t overthink it – it’s really simple. Start with a pea sized amount of lube and apply it onto yourself, your partner or your favorite sex toy.

Remember lube is cold, so make sure you place it on your hands first. It can be applied before or during intercourse (applying some during intercourse can be part of the fun).

It isn’t a onetime thing – reapply as you go along, just work it into foreplay and use it as another way to touch each other (as if you crazy kids needed an excuse).

How do I use lube for anal sex?

Whether you’re someone who is experienced in anal sex or you’re a beginner, our top tip: start slowly, gently, and don’t be shy; apply a healthy amount of lube to the receiver’s anus in addition to the penis that’s about to penetrate it.

As previously mentioned, unlike the vagina, the anus cannot self-lubricate so it needs plenty of lube to keep things moist, pleasurable and assist the receiver in allowing their anal-muscles to relax. If anal-sex is going to be something you’re doing regularly, apart from the person lying beside you, lube is your best friend.

Many who partake in anal-sex prefer to use a dedicated anal lubricant as they’re specially formulated with a relaxant, enabling the receiver to relax their anal-muscles easier than if they were using a standard lube.

Can I use lube for oral sex?

Hell yeah! It’s why flavoured lube was invented! Pour some on his penis/her clit and then treat your partner to an oral masterclass.

We hope our quick Q&A about lube helped you out. Head over to our full range of lube to see what we have on offer!