We’ve all heard those stories about the consequences of having a quick tug or a little flick of the bean from time to time such as hairy palms, going blind and thinking that if your partner masturbates, then they must be unhappy with their current sexual relationship. But we’re here to set the record straight and fill you in on the reasons why it’s great to masturbate.

Though there has been no scientific evidence to indicate that masturbating causes any of these adverse effects, there has, however, been plenty of in-depth research to back up how fantastic masturbating is for an individual’s health and well-being. Self-care is extremely important, and self-pleasure is a fantastic way to blow off steam and forget about any stress or worries, plus it has some health benefits too, so there’s no arguing with that.

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Dear Customers,

It is with heavy hearts that today on the 24th of March 2020 we will be closing all our sexy superstores including our online store. Whilst we stayed open for as long as we could, the safety of both our staff and customers will always be at the forefront of our decision making.

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Impact play, what the heck is it and why is it getting you more aroused than a nun in a cucumber field? In simple terms, impact play is a form of BDSM activity where one partner (often called the dominant or top) spanks the other (submissive or bottom) partner for sexual gratification – kinky and we love it (Reference 1). Believe us, when you get down to the nitty-gritty of impact play there is so much more to discover. Impact play can range from playful taps to full-on ass-whooping and can involve whips, crops, paddles, floggers and lots more exciting tools.

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The 1970s was a decade of great inventions, it was the decade of Queen, the mobile phone and McDonalds made its first-ever happy meal (Reference 1). However, in the sex toy industry, we class the 70’s as the decade the magic wand (also known as a massage wand) was invented.

The magic wand is named magic for a good reason – it is possibly the most powerful sex toy on the market. Massage wands have a girthy straight shaft perfect for grabbing on to when you’re experiencing a whole-body orgasm, complete with a cushioned bulbous head that delivers intense vibrations.

Male masturbation is a perfectly normal, healthy and pleasurable part of life. Some studies suggest as many as 98% of people have masturbated at least once in their lives (and we think the other 2% are lying) (Reference 1).

So what acts are classed as male masturbation anyway? To put it simply, male masturbation describes any act of a man sexually pleasuring himself by stimulating any of his erogenous zones (more often than not, the penis) (Reference 2). With a huge range of exciting male masturbators sex toys, tools and techniques on offer to help you reach pleasure land, there has never been a better time to masturbate! So, whether you’ve got a date booked in with PALMela HANDerson or fancy a night in ‘jherkin’ the ghkerin’ (sorry, we can’t help ourselves!), then keep your eyes glued to this blog to discover new masturbation techniques for the man to ensure that your next solo sex session is a steamy one.

Addressing the Stigma Around Male Masturbation

Despite masturbation being one of the most common sexual activities (Reference 2), there sadly is still a huge heap of shame and stigma surrounding it.

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What does being in a Throuple mean?

Throuple: you’ve heard it on the internet, you’ve heard it in the media and now you want to know what the heck one is? Well, we are here to set the story straight on all things throuple and what does being in a throuple mean? A throuple is the term used to describe a romantic and sexual relationship between three people. Throuples don’t have any set boundaries on how they are made up or who can be involved in them. Any person, of any gender and any sexuality can be happily involved in a throuple. That in mind, according to top psychologists most throuples involve one person joining an already happy couple (Reference 1). Being in a throuple does not necessarily mean you are in an open relationship, some throuples are open and some are closed. So what’s the difference between an open and a closed throuple (also known as a triad)?

Throuple pictured below (from left to right) Dan, Gemma, Lauren.

Open Triad: In an open triad all partners are polyamorous and happy with all members of the triad having an open and romantic relationship with other people outside of the triad.

As 2019 draws to a close we look back nostalgically on what a fun and flirtatious year it has been in the world of Pulse and Cocktails. We wonder what all our lovely and loyal customers have been getting up to this year, and after analyzing our statistics one thing we do know is this kinky nation has been spending the past year getting freaky in the bedroom!

This year has been booming around all things bondage as more people open their eyes (and legs) to the wonderful world of fetish, bondage and all things kink. We love keeping the UK population stocked up on their favorite fetish wear, bondage and sex essentials but most of all we love making sure everyone’s sex stays exciting!

Anal Sex – Virtually everyone’s heard of it, even people who are disinterested in sex, and yet this glorious form of fornication is still so misunderstood. Something we at Pulse and Cocktails are hoping to change.

As more people become open-minded about trying something new in the bedroom, open and frank discussions about anal sex in the public eye are on the rise. Whether it’s about what anal sex toys to use in the bedroom or how big are the best butt plugs, the public are discussing it. According to many kinky social media and magazine spreads – ‘anal is the new vaginal’ (and we have to agree). That said, there are still many mistruths and misunderstandings about anal sex, so we are here to put a few of them right.

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Thanks to the likes of E.L James and her albeit some-what tame fifty shades novels, the UK is waking up and exploring the wonderful world of bondage, fetish, and BDSM play embracing all it’s deepest darkest desires.

One area we find particularly exhilarating is the life of a Dominatrix. From erotic humiliation to latex suits, it seems we are hooked on the professional Domme, so here at Pulse and Cocktails, we have interviewed two real-life dominatrix’s to get a sneak peek into their world to share with you. But first of all, let’s take a look at what a dominatrix and submissive actually is…

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Whether you’re wanting to exercise your inner dominant or surrender yourself as a submissive, bondage ropework, also referred to as Shibari can be a great way to start practicing and experimenting with your partner or by yourself. Certain bondage rope styles such as the pentagram chest piece can also be great outfit accessories to wear over clothing if you’re looking to add some bondage-esque vibes to your outfit.

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