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A Beginners Guide to Anal Sex

The words ‘anal sex’ might have you cringing. Many people see it as a taboo. Others see it as an act of trust, love and closeness. Anal play has been having its moment of the last couple of years, we have seen the number of anal sex toys sold increase. More and more couples are trying it.

Think only gay men enjoy anal play? Then you’re a little bit behind the times. Whilst it’s true that men have the advantage of having a prostate, which feels incredible when stimulated, but many women enjoy anal play to. That’s because the anus is richly endowed with a body of nerve endings, these nerve endings are crying out to be teased and stimulated!


Safety always comes first

Everyone likes surprises and everyone likes sex – so you’re thinking of combining the two! DON’T. ‘Sticking it in’ is a sure-fire way to put people off anal for life. Talk about it first. It might be something new to the other person or maybe they’ve been thinking about asking you. Make sure you’re both in agreement that it’s something you want to try, and it’s not one person doing it to please the other!

Some people speak of a little pain and discomfort when first attempting anal sex, this discomfort is often quickly turned into pleasure once the person learns to utilise the vast array or anal sex toys, lubricants and desensitising creams available from us, but more importantly when they learn to relax.



  • Condoms should be worn to protect against STDs, which are transferable through the anus.
  • Rectal penetration always requires plenty of suitable lubricant, as the rectum is not self-lubricating, and dry friction is neither comfortable nor safe.
  • Foreplay and arousal are needed to relax the PC muscles.
  • The receiving partner takes charge of the pace and degree of penetration.
  • If it does not feel good, stop!
  • Clean you toy using our anti-bacterial toy cleaner.


The Risks 

There are of course some associated risks with anal sex which should always be taken into consideration before becoming involved with anal sex with your partner.

  • Sexually Transmitted infections (STI).
  • Damaging of the anus through vigorous sex or using incorrect toys for anal sex.
  • Spreading germs from the anus to the vagina.
  • Prolapsing of the anus.

The prep

One of the main questions we get asked about anal sex is “is it clean?”

The key thing we tell couples is to be prepared.  To make sure things don’t get messy, there is some minor prep work to be done.

In fact, the anus and the lower part of the rectum have very little faecal matter in them, which means they tend not be as dirty as expected.

However, having vaginal sex straight after anal sex isn’t desirable, because even microscopic faecal elements can cause vaginal infections. To safeguard against these concerns, a bowel movement prior to sex can give reassurance.

We know – it might be the most obvious thing, but it isn’t always. If you want to be super safe, you can wash. The use of a good quality douche which has spray emitted both vertically and horizontally does a great job of helping to remove any loose or smaller parts of faecal matter that may be present.


Mood setting


There is a very fine line between attempting and enjoying anal sex, and along with preparation, setting the mood is one of the major factors in determining this.

So, turn off those smartphones, light some candles and put some relaxing music on. Go slow. Why not have a couple’s massage and a nice bath? Think slow and sensual, your building up the arosuol. Not going for a quickie!

You can also use massage candles. They are perfect after a hot bath, a candle using pheromone really helps set the mood. The pheromone released relaxes the mind and heightens the senses. Once the candle is lit the pheromones start to release into the air, the wick burns the special wax which melts into a massage oil that’s warm but doesn’t burn the skin.

Add to that a massage tickling feather to explore all erogenous zones, really make sure your both relaxed and enjoying the moment.



If you’ve ever tried anal sex or explored your own bum you might notice that you naturally clench when something goes in. The more you gently play around the area, the more it will relax. This is why foreplay and exploration is extremely important!

Before penetration either penile or toy, gentle probing with a well lubricated finger is a must, not only to help lubricate the opening but also to accustom the body to stimulation there.


The Essentials


Using some of these essentials will help all the risks listed above.


  • Anal Lube, the anus is not self-lubricating like a vagina so it needs plenty of lubrication before commencing anal sex.
  • Condoms should be used to protect against STIs when having anal sex but aren’t necessarily essential when using your own personal toys for anal play.   NEVER use the same condom for both holes!
  • For beginners a relaxing desensitising spray or gel would be very useful indeed to help slightly numb down the nerve endings in the anus and sphincter.
  • Anal Douché to clean out and sanitise the anus prior to sex.
  • Anal plug– to help stretch the anus slightly before sex.
  • The receiving partner should always control the pace and degree of penetration during anal sex, at least until things become more easy and familiar with experience.
    Anti-bacterial sex toy cleaner.


The Main Event


So now you should be ready to engage in some anal play so it’s important not to overlook one of the most crucial facets of anal sex/play and that is actually engaging in other sexual activity first which not only helps to relax and ease your mind but also helps to relax the sphincter and the pubococcygeus muscle (PC Muscle) which both assist in better anal sex/play when they are more relaxed.


Just make sure you’re ‘warmed up’. The giver should lube up their finger and start slow, one lubed finger at a time. Giving the sphincter muscles chance to become more relaxed. Once the muscles are warmed up and relaxed. You can take to the main event. Even if you’ve agreed to anal sex, don’t assume that it’s still going to happen. Make sure you’re both ready before taking it to the next level.


Apply more lubricant to the bum and surrounding area. And generously apply to the penis too. Go nice and slow and enjoy!


Some couples find it best to spread these activities over several nights, so there is time to get used to the sensations and how much lube to use!


The Toys


There is a plethora of anal toys on the market many of which are available in our stores, so here is a small overview of the different types of anal toys.


As mentioned earlier these are used for primarily for stretching of the opening however they do come in vibrating varieties for extra stimulation. Various shapes and sizes to suit all as well as various materials from silicone and latex, to medical grade glass and stainless steel which are a more hygienic choice as they are non-porous.


Anal beads are designed to be inserted fully, and when the moment of climax is reached they are to be pulled quickly from the anus as the orgasm is reached to help intensify and take your orgasm to the next level.


Prostate Stims

These are ergonomically shaped for men to penetrate the anus and reach and stimulate the prostate gland, as well as simultaneously stimulate the perineum, however they are just as good for a woman to use.


We stock some educational ‘Loving Sex’ DVD series which covers advanced techniques for intimate exploration.

Desensitising Gels 

Our calming gels and desensitising are suitable for anal sex lovers of all experience lovers but might be of particular interest to beginners still getting accustomed to the sensation of anal penetration. It is not a substitute for lubricant.

Anal Lube

We’ve made no secret that we’re fans of lube. Under no circumstances should you perform anal sex without anal lube. Why? Fissures, tearing, friction buttons and other horrible painful sensations and side effects can occur. Try our Anal Lube for any time you’re experimenting with butt plugs, anal beads, anal dildos or your hands!


Now that you have read this guide to anal sex you should be ready to have some sensual ‘bum fun’ with a little more knowledge on the subject which will hopefully help you relax and enjoy this aspect of your newly expanded sex life.

The Beginners Guide to Dildos

Whether you’re looking for something firm, squeezable, or outright floppy – there is a variety of dildos to pick from: jelly dildos, rubber dildos, latex dildos, silicone dildos, glass dildos, strap-on dildos; some realistic, others the invention of wishful thinking (I’m referring to size here, great big whoppers mainly).

The very fact that the dildo can come in virtually any colour, shape or size goes a long way to explaining why this old classic has never gone out of style, even after the vibrator came on the scene, and still manages to keep the most adventurous of toy users satisfied in 2017.

With so many options, you’d think someone by now would have published a guide book (similar to The Good Pub Guide), but sadly me and you are both still waiting.

In all seriousness, we understand that choosing a dildo, especially your first dildo can feel overwhelming. Don’t worry, we’re here to help and we hope this brief ‘guide to …’ goes a long way to helping.


What is a Dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy that is almost always in the shape of a penis, used for vaginal and anal penetration.

As mentioned in the introduction, it can come in any colour, shape (to an extent, there does need to be a clearly definable shaft for penetration), material, size and style.

Dildos can be used for solo-play or with a partner (remember: couples that play together, stay together).

Lastly, dildos generally don’t vibrate. Of course you can get cock-shaped vibrators that were it not for the vibrating motor would be classified as a dildo but the hard and fast distinction is dildos don’t vibrate and vibrators (unsurprisingly) do.


Realistic Dildos


Realistic Dildos


These are just like the real thing! Unlike the real thing however, it’ll never get tired out and won’t complain when you’re working it too hard.

Not only do they look lifelike, they feel lifelike too; soft skin, thick, veiny and weighty. Lube up and you’ll struggle to tell the difference.

Just like the real thing, they are available in different colours, shapes and sizes. Great for toy users of all experience levels and are very easy to use (as are all dildo types).

Our best sellers: Dong 7.5 inch and 8″ Realistic Dong.

To get you started:  6″ Realistic Jelly-Feel Dong 


Anal Dildos

Anal Dildos


For many an anal dildo usually means a dildo that’s a bit on the small side (both length and girth).

However, just like vaginal sex everyone has a different idea of what is too big. Not only do people differ on what they consider a suitable size, they have different experience levels and want different experiences from their anal sex. Some anal-players are perfectly happy sticking to a dildo not much bigger than a small-to-medium butt plug, others seek more extreme thrills (10″, 12″ dongs, fists, etc).

What all this means is there isn’t really such a thing as an anal dildo, more a dildo that’s going to get used for anal. Just like the body part it’s modelled on, it’s designed for both forms of penetration.

What we do stress when it comes to using a dildo for anal sex is don’t make it your first anal toy, certainly don’t have it be your first anal experience. Start small, try a lubricated finger, or if you prefer, a toy no wider than your middle finger. If you feel compelled to explore more, buy a butt plug or a set of anal beads. If you still feel you can accommodate something larger, then go for a dildo. Take your time, as we said at the start; they predate the vibrator and we can’t imagine they’re going out of style anytime soon.

Our best sellers: Purple Jelly Dildo and King Size Realistic Dong 10 inch.

To get you started:  4.5” Realistic Jelly-Feel Dong


Strap-On Dildos

Strap-on Dildos

Strap-On Dildos have been a staple of many happy couples’ sex life for longer than we can remember and usually consist of a harness (worn round the wearers waist) with a dildo attached to it (to be inserted inside the receiver). If you’re planning on strap-on sex with your partner, one of these is what you need.

Strap-on’s are popular in BDSM (particularly when used on men) but aren’t limited to dungeon-esque kink and don’t have to involve submission of any kind. Having sex with a strap-on is just as intimate as having sex with nature’s joystick.

To get you started, you can get kits which are easy to use and come ready to wear (the plug ‘n’ play option).

Our best sellers: Realistic 7.5″” Silk Touch Strap-on with Balls

To get you started:  Dual Climax Strap-On with Harness


Hollow Strap-On Dildos

These days strap-on’s aren’t just worn by women. The hollow strap-on is just what it sounds like; a strap-on where the dildo is hollow, allowing a penis to snugly fit inside. Yes we’re well aware men already have a penis but that doesn’t negate the fact that hollow strap-on’s can be (sex) lifesavers in addition to being as fun to use as any other sex toy.

Hollow strap-on dildos are often used by men suffering from erectile dysfunction; erectile dysfunction can affect any man, of any age, for a variety of reasons. Since erections are deal-breakers for penetrative sex, men who suffer from erectile dysfunction often shy away from sex altogether.

A hollow strap-on allows the man to insert his penis inside and have penetrative sex even if his penis is completely flaccid. This way, even if the man has a flair up during intercourse, there is no need to stop.

Not to mention the emotional satisfaction both halves of the couple will experience; the wearer joyed they’re still able to play a pivotal role in sexually pleasing the person they love, whilst the other person is not only happy for them but is elated in their own right as it means they’re still able to have enjoyable sex with their nearest and dearest.

To get you started: Hollow Strap-on 6.5 inches


Vibrating Dildos

Vibrating Dildos

Some people are just addicted to the vibe, that’s cool!

Vibrating dildos, just like their non-vibrating siblings, come in all sorts of colours, materials, shapes and sizes.

Our best sellers are: 7″ Vibrating Realistic Dong and 9″ Pink Dong Vibrator

To get you started:  7″ Vibrating Realistic “Smooth Touch” Dong


Double Ended Dildos

Double-ended Dildos

Two is usually better than one, right? If you think the way we do then you should definitely experiment with double-ended dildos as they’re all about maximising the pleasure for both of you.

We know they can look intimidating to the beginner but you have to remember that you will be sharing (we’ll assume that means a 50/50 split).

Just like all other dildo types, double-ended dildos come in a range of colours, shapes and sizes, some even have one end that gradually widens out so one cock is girthier than the other (ideal if one of you is particularly more accommodating than the other).

Most of them tend to be pretty flexible too, this lends itself to experimenting with double-penetration (simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration).

Our best sellers: Pink Double-Ended Dildo and 14 Inch Double Dildo.

To get you started:  Purple Double-Ended Dildo


Glass Dildos

Glass Dildos

Our glass dildos are things of beauty! We think they could go on a display all by themselves and you could just look at them. Of course, the true magic comes when you touch them. Don’t worry – the glass is super tough!

Glass toys are ideal for what’s called ‘temperature-play’ where you either refrigerate the toy (or freeze it for a very short period of time) for the chilled effect or go the other way and heat it up, either sensation will be a new and exciting experience.

Glass does wonders for the G-spot and prostate.

Lastly, they are among the easiest toys to keep clean, ensuring hygiene levels are kept to the very highest of standards.

Our best sellers: Yellow Spiral Glass Dildo and Amber Spiral Textured Glass Dildo.

To get you started:  Glass Dildo with ring


How do I use a dildo?


Like with any new sex toys – we recommend you start small, especially if you’re using it for the first time. Don’t take more than you can handle or you risk ruining what could be an amazing experience.

Bear in mind that the average UK penis size is 5 – 6 inches. So, if you’re just getting started you’re best off starting with a dildo that size. Starting with a dildo that is too big will only cause pain and discomfort.

Start slowly, don’t race ahead. Before you do anything – see what the dildo feels like when you rub it on the outside of your body. Use it to massage and stimulate first. Think of it as foreplay!

Don’t forget the lubricant either, to highlight the importance of lubricant rub the un-lubricated dildo very briefly on the outside of your body. If the dildo is made of jelly, rubber, PVC or latex you will notice it doesn’t glide so well. Now imagine that inside your delicate’s. Precisely. Use lube.

(even if the dildo is made from silicone or glass, materials that are a lot smoother, we still recommend using lubricant)

Once you begin to penetrate yourself – go slowly. Take the time to see how it feels, discovering how it’s different to using your own or someone else’s body part.


How do I bring this up?

So you’re thinking “this sounds like fun, I’d enjoy that! But how do I tell my partner?”

It’s OK, we’ve got that covered too. Check out our ‘How to introduce sex toys to your relationship’ guide. Good luck and play-safe.

Penis Vacuum Pumps Guide

Over the years, many men have discovered that a penis pump is a great way to enhance their penis very quickly. Not only does it offer instant results, but it can also address problems involving erectile dysfunction.

A lot of the customers who come into our stores do so after NHS health professionals have advised them to try a penis pump.

We think penis pumps are just what’s needed to give you instant growth and are a great way to maintain a strong, prolonged erection regardless of whether you use it to build yourself up for sex or for solo play. We get asked a lot of questions in our stores about penis pumps, so welcome to our handy penis pump guide!

Safety always comes first

Safety isn’t something you should think about after an accident, so it’s important that you listen to the safety information before your ego gets deflated, not to mention all the tentative walking you’ll be doing due to your crown jewels being bandaged-up.

Stop immediately if you experience any pain or notice any discoloration, blisters or red spots.

Don’t over pump! It can have the opposite effect, in some cases it can desensitise the area in question. It can also damage tissue, cause oedema (accumulation of fluid just under the skin) and even affect circulation.

There’s no need to panic, just follow this advice and your pumping experience will be an enjoyable one.


  • Stop if you experience any pain or loss of sensation.
  • Trim any rouge hairs to avoid snagging and seal problems.
  • Rest for at least 24 hours

How do penis pumps work?

A pump works by creating a vacuum around the penis, drawing blood into all the empty cavities in the penis allowing the man to achieve the biggest erection he can attain without spending fortunes on surgery.

Most penis pumps have an airtight cylinder that is placed over the shaft of your penis – excluding your balls (unless the pump is designed for them!) – to create a vacuum/suction to enlarge your erection. When the pump is placed over the shaft of your penis it increases blood flow into the tissues that give you a strong erection.

Pumping causes air pressure inside the tube to decrease, increasing the suction inside the tube which gradually increases the blood flow to your penis. It’s OK, you’re in total control of how often you pump and the pressure applied to your penis.

Regular use of a pump exercises two tiny sphincter-like muscles at the base of the penis which regulate and control blood entering and leaving the penis. These muscles are responsible for allowing a man to achieve and/or maintain an erection, and just like any regular exercise these muscles will become stronger with regular use, allowing the man to ‘get back’ some of his ability and control to achieve and maintain an erection.

Penis pumps are safe to use, but you will put yourself at risk if you do not follow the instructions, limit yourself to short sessions (to begin with) and make sure that you are not applying too much pressure to your penis.

Benefits of a penis pump

By its design, a penis pump helps draw blood into the penis, not only producing an erection but making that erection as full and large as it can possibly be.

This second benefit (increased size) is the other main reason men purchase pumps. The slight increase in length and girth are what’s called ‘temporary gains’ as these effects will eventually wear off, however some men who implement pumps into their weekly routine (much like their gym workouts) have claimed pumps have helped them get a bigger penis, permanently.

A third, lesser known reason for using pumps is they can actually be quite pleasurable. The intense sucking sensation alone can turn this device from sex-aid to sex toy. Some pumps even come with an accessory to enhance this feature, often in the form of a vaginal-looking attachment (very similar to a lot of the male masturbators) that replaces the air-tight ring at the base of the cylinder.

To summarise, the benefits of using a penis pump regularly are:

  • Instant erections
  • Stronger erections
  • Improved blood flow to the penis
  • Improved sexual staying power
  • More length
  • More girth

Types of Pumps

There are various styles of pumps with different sized cylinders, and likewise different sized seals to accommodate all penis sizes. Don’t rush and buy the first pump you come across. The pump you buy should be tailored towards your needs and what you’re expecting to gain from using it.

DRY PUMPS: Products in this category use air only, they are simple vacuum cylinders and have been popular for many years.

ELECTRIC PUMPS:  These are the more popular pumps in our stores. Both battery operated and rechargeable, these modern pumps are easier to operate, don’t require any manual pumping and generally have a longer life-span.

We would always recommend purchasing a cock ring to go with your pump. Why? The pump achieves the erection, the ring maintains the erection.

How to use a penis pump

Before starting it’s vital to warm your penis up, after all you wouldn’t go running without stretching your legs or do weights without limbering up. The common way to do this is … there’s no delicate way to say it: have a 1/4 wank, you know, just a few strokes to wake it up. Then apply lubrication to both your penis and the pump’s ring, allowing for easy pain-free insertion, ample suction and easy withdrawal.

Unless you have a pump designed to include your scrotum, best to leave your balls out of this one! After that:

  1. Place your penis through the ring and inside the cylinder.
  2. Use either the hand pump or the electric pump attached to the cylinder to create a vacuum inside, drawing blood to the penis – whilst this is an unusual sensation, it shouldn’t hurt! Slightly uncomfortable maybe, but not pain.
  3. After several pumps, or whenever you reach a level of intensity you wish not to exceed (for pain reasons), stop pumping but don’t withdraw.
  4. Maintain this stretch for 3-5 minutes, occasionally doing a solitary pump if you feel the pressure slowly beginning to fade.
  5. Use the quick-release facility to kill the pressure, then slowly withdraw your penis from the pump.
  6. Have a 3-5 minute interval, towards the end it wouldn’t hurt to have another 1/4 wank.
  7. Repeat instruction’s 1 – 5 (apply more lubricant if needed).
  8. After your second set, kill the pressure and slowly withdraw your penis from the pump.

Many pump users time their sets, the above instructions are best suited to beginners (men who have used penis pumps for less than 3 months).

You should notice short term results immediately after using your pump. If you’re looking to make a long-term commitment you’ll need to use your pump regularly, you will see increases in girth and/or length over time, but we stress ‘time’ in the classic sense, not the modern-era notion where everything is achieved effortlessly in ten minutes.

If you decide to deviate from our above instructions don’t use your pump for longer than 20 minutes – this will avoid injury or complications!

Penis pumping techniques

If your aim is to increase the size of your penis using your newly acquired penis pump, you should apply some techniques that can help you gain the best results from your pump.

Milking the Tube

Milking is one of the most popular and efficient techniques that helps promote and maintain blood circulation and trains the internal penile chambers.

This is a similar process to masturbation, but you use your penis pump. Move the pump up and down during the pumping process. It’s recommended that you begin doing this a few minutes after you’ve started so your penis can get acclimated.

Do not apply force. Go at a slow and smooth pace. Avoid hard or long milking as it can lead to penis swelling.


This technique helps the user achieve the best results possible if the penis is erect during pumping.

Sometimes it can be difficult to maintain that maximum-sized erection, especially if the penis remains inside the cylinder due to longer sessions. Shakes technique is used to help maintain this erection level by stimulating the penis’s nerve endings and enhancing blood flow.

Shakes is done by shaking the pump’s cylinder tube in an up-down motion either by using your hand or through gently rocking the hips. One thing to remember, this technique should not be done in a forceful pace, but forceful enough to allow an increase in erection level.

Additionally, varying the intensity along with the range of motion produces a good stretch at the base of the penis.


This technique is very simple. The penis pump’s cylinder tube is wrapped with a heating device during the duration of the session. An electric heating pad is an excellent device to use for this activity.

This produces heat around the penis shaft. In fact, heat is a vital factor as a means of stimulating blood flow, a vital element in any penis enlargement routine.

However, keep in mind not to leave the wrap on for too long as it can cause blisters that can lead to severe penile injury or damage. Moreover, leaving the wrap for a long period makes the tube very hot very quick.

You don’t need something that is hot, just warm.

Tips to remember when penis pumping

Avoid over pumping

It can be very easy to over pump. If someone is going to incur a penis injury whilst using a penis pump it’s most likely down to over-pumping.

Therefore, as mentioned earlier, be very cautious and conscious about the pressure you exert and how long you exercise your penis for. It’s dangerous to over-work any body-part, the penis is no exception.

Beginners should not under any circumstances repeat the routines that are being stupidly bragged about by advanced penis pump users, normally online (the home of irresponsible behaviour these days). “Pumping marathon” simply means those who can pump for up to 5 hours every time. Even though the vast majority of these users have been pumping for many years, this routine is still considered extreme by most pump users and the only people impressed by such idiotic actions are the idiots themselves. Don’t join ’em.

Take Frequent Breaks

Again, mentioned in our mini set of instructions, take intervals. Not only necessary in the long-term they are helpful in stimulating blood flow.

Beginners should limit their penile pumping sessions to a maximum of 30 minutes per day, not exceeding 2 sessions per day.

Intermediate users; no longer than 1 to 1.5 hours, spread out over numerous sessions in the day.

Advanced users; no more than 2 to 3 hours spread out over numerous sessions in a day (though seriously, who has the time?).

So, if you have thought about using a pump and have wondered about the benefits that you can reap, or are perhaps just curious about how to use one and how it may improve your sex life, don’t hesitate to call into one of our stores and ask for some advice from one of our fully trained sales advisers.

We’re experts in sex & sex toys, this information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical professional, the health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.

Couples Sex Toys for Beginners

Okay, you and your partner have both decided to introduce a sex toy to your relationship, realising how much added enjoyment it can bring to your sensual sessions, plus it can’t hurt to experiment a little bit. The question now is “which one do I choose?”

Because different types of toys are useful for different types of sex, and require different levels of involvement during lovemaking – finding the right one can be tricky for the newcomer. Don’t worry, this small article is designed to help you with your decision, informing you about what toys we think are best suited to couples writing chapter one of this new and (hopefully) exciting adventure.

If one of you, or both, are new to sex toys and aren’t yet masters of how to use them correctly then a large size toy could easily be misused and result in severe discomfort. Not only will this cause physical pain in the short-term, long-term you may put the other person off using sex toys for life, torpedoing your sexual escapades before any meaningful (certainly memorable) lift-off.

Our advice is to start small, huge stallion dongs will forever be readily available should you ever get the itch to use one, but before you even consider that we repeat, start small.

The following is a collection of small size toys that are appropriate for first-timers:


The Bullet

Wireless Mini Bullet (10 Speed) (£5.95): Perfect for the beginner just discovering the joys of adult toys!

Non-threatening, pocket-size, simple to use and more versatile than it looks. Predominantly vibrating bullets are used for clitoral/vaginal (external) stimulation but we see no reason why you can’t use it to tease the nipples, inner thighs or anywhere else that instinctively feels right. Bullets are also unisex, the amount of men who are discovering the joys of applying a dash of lubricant to their manhood and gliding the bullet up and down their shaft is on the increase, big time!


Cock Ring

Vibrating Cock Ring (£19.95): Perfect starter cock-ring!

Sometimes referred to as a ‘love ring’, regardless of what you call it the man wears this little device on his penis at the base of the shaft. He puts it on after he has become erect (please use lubricant, we cannot stress that enough). It should be tight, but not uncomfortable.

Its main function is to prevent blood from leaving his penis so he not only lasts longer but his erection will be slightly bigger, girthier and juicier than normal (the way it is when he’s really got a throb-on … apologies, we couldn’t think of any other way to describe it).

The benefits don’t stop there. A lot of cock rings now have a mini vibrating bullet built into the design so when the man is wearing it and things are in full flow the bullet vibrates against the other person’s intimate area, sending intense “oh my” rumblings where they desire them most. On some models, the bullet is removable, great if you’re thinking of investing in a vibrating bullet as it becomes a 2-in-1.

Warning: if the bullet is not designed to be removed, do not remove it. This will only result in you breaking a perfectly good toy.


Small to medium size Vibrator

The Big Finger (£29.95): Not too big to intimidate a first-timer

Pleasure Wave: Pleasure Wave Pink Vibrator is a great way to make ‘me time’ just that bit more memorable. (£29.95)

Similar to the bullet in many ways; petite in size, non-intimidating, easy on the eye, also easy to operate – is one more button really going to make it that much harder to use? Where it differs from the bullet is it can be used for both external and internal vaginal stimulation.

You may have noticed the shaft on one of the vibrators is curved at the end, this makes it ideal for G-spot stimulation, enabling you to replicate the movements you would perform if using your fingers, only now the fingers are vibrating!

Sex during pregnancy

Congratulations! The next several months will be a time of growth (literally and figuratively), wonder and change.

Speaking of which… you’re probably already wondering about lifestyle changes. And that’s likely to include thinking about your sex life.

Sex during pregnancy is sex and it will strengthen the bond between you as a couple. Some women seem to want to have more sex during the first and second trimesters-although not usually the third (We hear you, the third trimester is difficult!)

We also know that as first-time mums and dads you might have a lot of questions. Is sex safe during pregnancy? Will the penis harm the baby? Can the baby feel sex? Is it okay to have an orgasm during pregnancy?

Hopefully we can clear some of those questions and concerns with our quick-fire FAQs to sex during pregnancy.



Can you still have sex during pregnancy?
Of course! Sex is safe during pregnancy. Unless your midwife has told you otherwise.  Most women can carry on bonking until their water breaks or they go into labour!

How different is sex during pregnancy?

As your body changes, sex will be different. During pregnancy, your blood volume increases by about 40%. That not only swells your breast, but it also heightens sensitivity throughout all your erogenous zones. And that can mean more intense, even multiple, orgasms.

You’ll find your sex drive changes through your pregnancy – potentially disappearing in your first trimester when you’re tired and nauseate; getting livelier in your second trimester when high levels of hormones can send your libido through the stratosphere; then tapering off as your due date approaches and you feel achy, unwielding, and maybe even nervous about impending parenthood.

Will it hurt the baby?

This is undoubtedly the biggest wet blanket – the fear of hurting the baby. Research shows that somewhere between 50 and 80% of women worry about it. Dads do too. Let’s make this clear – sex doesn’t hurt the baby. The amniotic sac and muscles of the uterus and the mucus plug that seals the cervix protects against infection.

Don’t worry – the penis doesn’t go beyond the vagina so it won’t reach the baby. The baby is in the womb, up through the cervix. There’s no chance of it harming the baby.

Can sex during pregnancy cause a miscarriage?

Another massive fear is that sex will cause miscarriage. Sex doesn’t cause miscarriage. Even if your partner is well endowed, his penis will never reach the baby because the baby isn’t in the vagina. The baby is cocooned away in its own little impenetrable vault, within the strong walls of the uterus, behind the cervix and well cushioned by amniotic fluid.

I’ve had a low sex drive – is this normal?

There’s lots of individual experiences when it comes to sexual desire during pregnancy. Some women have heightened libido throughout pregnancy, others are less interested in sex. Both are normal. Your body is going through a lot of changes, both physically and hormonal changes. These play havoc with your libido.

The first couple of months of pregnancy can be very difficult for some women as it leads to tiredness, nausea, and irritability. In the second trimester, the libido returns as these symptoms decrease!

Communication is key. Communicate with your partner, reassure him that you’re still in love – you’ll find your partner will be understanding, you’re embarking on a wonderful journey together. Try to enjoy it!

What about my partners sex drive?

Since your partner might become anxious and doesn’t want to hurt you or the baby, pregnancy often makes him uncomfortable with intercourse. He will find you more attractive as you get curvier day by day.

The best thing to do here, is attend pre-natal appointments together, so he can be reassured by a professional.

Again – communicate. Talk freely with your partner and tell him your feelings. There are other ways to enjoy each other if you’re both not ready for sex.

Is oral sex safe?
Yes. Oral sex is safe. Again, due to those hormone changes, it’s normal for you to have a change in smell or taste down there during pregnancy. There’s elevated PH levels in your vagina – this can result in bouts of thrush, bacterial vaginosis and a change in your discharge (we’re sorry, that isn’t the perfect dirty talk you’ve been looking for!)

Chat to your midwife if you’ve got any of those problems.

You could use some flavoured lubricant to make the experience more pleasurable.

Can sex trigger labour?

There is no harm in giving it a go. There is no proof that it works! Semen contains a chemical called prostaglandins – which can induce labour, and orgasms are a good way to increase activity down below. But there’s no guarantee. (But you’ll have fun trying to induce labour!)

Are sex toys safe?
The short answer? Yes, of course! Rarely is anything sex-related off limits during pregnancy! Even rough intercourse while your pregnant is OK as long as you’re smart and safe about it.

But sex toys definitely get a green light since, for most of the part, they’re just synthetic versions of the real thing. Some couples find that they enjoy sex toys even more than before, the increased blood flood to genitals, along with hormonal changes, can make orgasms with a sex toy more intense.

If you’re worried about penetration, that’s understandable, but your sex toys aren’t going to be a problem. It’s fine avoid deep penetration with a sex toy but your placenta, cervix and baby are well protected. Your partner thrusting inside you is safe – then so is your sex toy!
A vibrator may be your toy of choice – that’s totally safe too! Using a vibrator on your clitoris? Absolutely safe.

It is important to consider a few things. While the act of using the toy is safe on your body and baby, there are some precautions you can take to keep yourself even safer!

1.       Clean your toys

We mean thoroughly. Clean it before and after you use it, just to keep any bacteria from entering your vagina and causing an infection. Clean with warm, soapy water, rinse and dry them careful and then store them in a clean place. You can use our toy cleaner to make this even easier!

2.       Don’t switch from vaginal to anal

If you use a toy for anal stimulation or penetration – then this is strictly an anal only toy! No matter how well you clean your sex toy – that bacteria can still be there and potentially cause an infection.

3.       Treat it like regular pregnancy sex

The same rules on sex while pregnant apply to using sex toys while pregnant. If you’re bleeding, your cervix is probably just a little irritated and nothing to worry about unless it’s accompanied with cramps or gets heavier. It’s totally safe to orgasm while using sex toys, and any position is fair game, as long as you’re comfortable. Always check with your midwife or health professional if you’re unsure.

Do vibrations hurt the baby?

No! The baby is protected by the amniotic fluid. The baby has no idea what’s going on and definitely won’t remember any of it!

What sex positions are best?

It’s a lot of fun trying different positions whilst pregnant to see which are best and most comfortable. The trick is finding positions that work well round your growing belly, and don’t put pressure on your back and abdomen.

The truth is – everyone is different. Pregnancy is a personal journey. You and your partner should work together to find sexual positions and levels of intimacy that you’re both happy with.

Always remember: When pregnant, you should do everything in moderation, including sex and sex toy use. Just about anything that feels good for you is safe for the baby, as long as your midwife has given you the go ahead. Don’t worry that the baby is “watching” – while your baby might enjoy uterine contractions during orgasm, he or she can’t see what you’re doing and definitely won’t remember it.

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical professional, the health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Always seek the direct advice of your own midwife in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.

Lube – The Lowdown

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Poor old lube, wrongly convicted by the court of public opinion; often mistakenly thought of as an older person’s necessity or solely a sex-aid for anal sex, nothing could be further from the truth. Let the appeal process commence!

By the end of this article, any stigma surrounding lube will be shown to be grossly unfounded as its benefits as an essential bedroom accessory gets proven beyond reasonable doubt, regardless of whether you’re 18 or in your 80’s.

One mis-truth our staff members often hear from customers is “if you’re good at it, you shouldn’t need it”. Sorry Joe-public, and an extra-special sorry to our valued customers, but you’re talking rubbish. Utter rubbish. When it comes to sex, lube makes everything better … except kissing (we’ll concede that point).

Little fact: women, including young women, aren’t always wet. And no, it isn’t because you’re not doing it right or something’s wrong. We’ll spare you the verse-and-chapter sex-ed lesson and skip straight to the bit where they tell you it’s completely natural and is all to do with women’s bodies and their different times of the month. So relax, it’s time to get your head around all things lube.

Lube is not some remedy for a so-called problem, but a gift from the sex-gods to help us enhance what is already bloody brilliant! Being well-oiled feels great for both parties. For guys, it can intensify pleasure without making you climax any quicker than normal, not to mention it prevents damage to your pecker! For women, it makes the experience more comfortable and thus, pleasurable, meaning you can relax and enjoy it more. The simple added ingredient of a liquid lubricant can add a whole new level of pleasure to your sexual experience, and that’s before the any specially formulated sensation/flavoured lube is bought into this equation.

We know it can be quite confusing if you’re new to using lubricant, you’ll be in your local adult store at their lube display and all you see is different varieties with very little or no information telling you what the differences between each lube are, it’s tough to know which lube will be suitable for your needs.

With these needs in mind, it only makes sense we start at the beginning.

What is lube?

A lubricant is any substance that helps to reduce friction, it’s highly likely you’re already using some form of lubrication on bike chains and squeaky doors so even if you haven’t used lubricant for sexual purposes, you’re familiar with the general gist.

Personal lubricants obviously contain vastly different ingredients to the industrial kind (we’re not suggesting you grab your WD40) but the idea is the same, to reduce friction.

But I’m young – why do I need lube?

A lot of people think lube is only intended for older people who produce less natural vaginal moisture because of hormonal changes which comes with ageing. This is one of the biggest myths around.

Argh!! Why is there so many lubes on the market?

Think of lubes like vibrators, different lubes have different features so they offer the user different benefits, just like vibrators with different features will offer different benefits.

As we all know, people’s sexual desires are as varied as their music collections, so naturally people are going to want different things from their lube, which is why there is a healthy selection to choose from.

Some will just need to increase vaginal moisture, others will want to apply some to their sex-toy(s) so it can glide over their intimate areas (or slide in ‘n’ out without incurring any discomfort due to the nature of the toy’s material). Some will want to make their bits taste a certain flavour, improving oral-sex for both giver and receiver. For others it’s a prerequisite, if you’re going to partake in anal-sex lubrication is much more than an accessory, it’s a necessity. No if’s, no butt’s, no shortcuts, no substitutions; the back-side doesn’t produce any natural lubrication, so if you want to avoid serious injury; lube up (both of you!).

Lube comes in either a thin liquid or a thicker gel-like texture. Each style of lubrication has a different base-ingredient, it is this base-ingredient that determines the texture of the lube.

Standard types of lube: the main players

1. Water based lube

Water-based lubrication is the most common type of lubricant and for good reason. Because it’s water-based, any remaining lube-residue is easy to clean up (we’re talking bed-sheets and rocking chairs people) and as water is one of nature’s most natural ingredients it’s compatible with every type of adult toy available – silicone, all varieties of rubber (inc. TPR, skin-like/cyber/real-feel material), jelly, glass, metal etc.

Water-based lubes can also be used with condoms without causing the condom to rip or tear.

To sum up, water-based lube is suitable for every conceivable sex-based activity you’re thinking of doing: masturbating (with your hand or with a toy), intercourse (vaginal and anal), even oral (though make sure it’s the flavoured kind, more on that further down).

2. Silicone based lube

Silicone is a material which is made from alternative chains of silicon and oxygen atoms, it can come in many different forms including rubber, resin and oil. Its liquid form is especially effective when used as the main ingredient in a lubricant, hence why it is now a popular form of lube.

Why is it so great? Next time you’re in a shop that sells both water-based and silicone-based lubricant, give both bottles a gentle shake and you’ll notice the silicone lube moves more freely as it’s thinner than water-based lube and is normally more silky smooth too.

Many advocates of silicone-based lube say its best feature is it lasts longer than most water-based lubricants, meaning more bang for your buck.

Silicone is also hypoallergenic so it’s ideal for users who have sensitive skin or allergies. Like water-based lube, it’s latex friendly (meaning it’s condom friendly) and is great for water-play, unlike water-based lubes it doesn’t wash away quite as quickly.

The only chink in silicone-based lube’s armour is it’s not compatible with sex-toys made from the following materials: silicone and certain types of rubber (TPR, skin-like/cyber/real-feel). If you use a silicone-based lube with a toy made of these materials, don’t be surprised if your toy starts to depreciate quite rapidly, even the expensive luxury toys.

3. Oil based lubes

Petroleum (or petrolatum) based, oil-based lubes are long lasting.

We’re not going to lie, this is the least popular type of lube. Not only will it ruin latex (so clearly using it with condoms is a gamble), it’s not recommended for vaginal intercourse as it can mess with the chemistry down there.

Technically it can be used for anal sex but as previously mentioned it’s incompatible with condoms, so using it for this purpose is only possible if the anal-sex is bareback (ie. without a condom) and we at Pulse & Cocktails strongly recommend you never engage in anal-sex without a condom, no matter how much bareback anal-sex you’ve watched in porn movies … and yes, even if you douche!

The specialist lubes: the supporting cast

4. Flavoured lubes

Mint, strawberry, tropical passion, cherry. Just some of the mouth-watering flavours available from Pulse & Cocktails.

Flavoured lubes are water-based, so sure you can use it with your toys (regardless of the toy’s material) but why waste the yummyness on a toy … unless that toy is your partner’s joystick or landing strip.

Flavoured lubes are great for spicing up oral sex; apply some (not too much, even chocolate gets sickly after a while) to your partner’s bits and then simply chow-down like never before, kissing, licking, sucking, slurping, all the while salivating over the delicious flavour swirling round your mouth whilst the lucky recipient salivates over getting some mind-blowing oral-relief.

Hotly recommended.

5. Tingle lube

The Sambuca of the lube world. Tingle lube divides opinion: some love it, others aren’t so keen.

Designed to enhance stimulation when applied to your body’s most sensitive areas (basically your intimate bits), it produces a tingly sensation other lubes don’t produce.

How intense the tingle is varies from user to user, some find it too mild, some feel it’s too intense, happily many users consider it to be just the right strength and say it enhances their orgasms (both the build-up and the climatic moment itself).

If trying a tingle lube for the first time it’s a wise idea to just apply one or two drops, if you feel the sensation is too intense for your nether regions then don’t apply anymore and wash off what lube you’ve already applied.

As for the lube, give it to a friend, chances are their body will respond to it in the desired way.

6. Anal lube

Throughout this article we’ve been stressing the importance of using lube for your sexual activities and with good reason, it does genuinely enhance your pleasure (toy or no toy) even if your body produces a sufficient amount of natural lubrication.

But when it comes to anal-sex we don’t recommend you use lube, we insist, nay, we ORDER you to use lube. Attempting to have anal-sex without lube will not only cause the receiver (the person being penetrated) acute discomfort, they risk damaging their anal tissue due to the anus being incapable of producing its own natural lubrication, unlike the vagina. Hence, lube being a necessity.

Another prerequisite for enjoyable anal-sex is getting those anal muscles to relax (the sphincter) and be receptive towards what action the body is attempting. This is where a dedicated anal lube comes to the fore, by having a special relaxant blended into its recipe not only will it provide as much slippery moisture as your average water-based lubricant, it will also perform the crucial task of putting the sphincter into a relaxed state, primed for being penetrated with minimal fuss and maximum enjoyment (for both parties).

OK – I get it, lube is important! Can’t I just use Vaseline or Baby Oil?

Not all lubes are created equal. A perfect lube should be slippery, safe for the skin tissue, long lasting and shouldn’t increase the risk of vaginal infections (or any sort of infection).

Vaseline was not created to be used as a lubricant. So, no, Vaseline is not a great idea. It isn’t slippery enough – which means it’ll make things very sticky (yes, more sticky than some water-based lubes). It’ll be very messy and hard to get off. Plus, using Vaseline can also put you at risk of a bacterial infection and break down the latex in condoms! Vaseline isn’t a smart choice.

Baby Oil might be something you regularly stock at home but there’s a reason no adult store follows suit: it’s not a good lubricant. There are many cons to using baby oil. Firstly, the oil harbors bacteria and promotes the growth of yeast in the vagina. Like Vaseline, Baby Oil destroys latex (condom-friendly it ain’t). It also destroys rubber or polyurethane, meaning it’s not sex-toy friendly either. It also makes the post-sex clean up harder than it needs to be, staining most fabrics.

Some statistics show that women who use Vaseline and /or Baby Oil as a lubricant have a 50% higher chance of having frequent yeast infections or contracting bacterial vaginosis. Since both of these can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease you can see why neither Vaseline or Baby Oil should NEVER be used inside a vagina. All of the above pretty much rules out it being suitable to use as a lubricant, both vaginally and anally. It really isn’t worth the risk, don’t damage your health (or your toys).

How do I apply lube?

Don’t overthink it – it’s really simple. Start with a pea sized amount of lube and apply it onto yourself, your partner or your favorite sex toy.

Remember lube is cold, so make sure you place it on your hands first. It can be applied before or during intercourse (applying some during intercourse can be part of the fun).

It isn’t a onetime thing – reapply as you go along, just work it into foreplay and use it as another way to touch each other (as if you crazy kids needed an excuse).

How do I use lube for anal sex?

Whether you’re someone who is experienced in anal sex or you’re a beginner, our top tip: start slowly, gently, and don’t be shy; apply a healthy amount of lube to the receiver’s anus in addition to the penis that’s about to penetrate it.

As previously mentioned, unlike the vagina, the anus cannot self-lubricate so it needs plenty of lube to keep things moist, pleasurable and assist the receiver in allowing their anal-muscles to relax. If anal-sex is going to be something you’re doing regularly, apart from the person lying beside you, lube is your best friend.

Many who partake in anal-sex prefer to use a dedicated anal lubricant as they’re specially formulated with a relaxant, enabling the receiver to relax their anal-muscles easier than if they were using a standard lube.

Can I use lube for oral sex?

Hell yeah! It’s why flavoured lube was invented! Pour some on his penis/her clit and then treat your partner to an oral masterclass.

We hope our quick Q&A about lube helped you out. Head over to our full range of lube to see what we have on offer!

New! Pleasure Enhancers – for her!

We love our new range of pleasure enhancers for women. We have added to our range of pleasure enhancers for her. Our range is designed to heighten sexual satisfaction, increase your desire and make your orgasms more intense!

Sex Arousal Créme

This arousal crème will help increase your sexual libido! Designed to intensify sensitivity in and around her intimate area. It also increases sexual desire so if you’re in need of a little boost – keep this bottle close by!

Vaginal Shrink Gel

For that first time feel, this vaginal shrink gel works wonders. It’s designed to stimulate the vaginal muscles, not only will it ever-so-faintly tighten the woman’s vagina it also heightens overall libido levels.

Intense Orgasm Gel

This female Intense Orgasm Gel has been specially concocted to heighten orgasms and promote an overall increase in sexual desire/libido. Its clove-leaf oil formula also enhances sensitivity in and around a lady’s intimate area.

Naughty Nipples – Sugar Berry

This sugar berry flavoured Nipple Arousal Cream serves two fantastic purposes, not only does the menthol-infused formula work to heighten sensitivity, promoting general arousal of the nipples, it tastes pretty darn sweet too (its sugar berry, what else did you expect?).

Cherry Bomb (Cherry Knockout, Pink Cupcake)

This cherry bomb flavoured Clitoral Arousal Cream is a 2-in-1 must-have, not only will it intensify clitoral stimulation by providing a cool yet warm tingly sensation but it tastes yummy as well.

Pure Instinct Woman – Sex Attractant Perfume

Gently spray onto pulse points (your wrist, neck and behind your ears) to release the power of the fragrance and pheromones. This will naturally combine with your body’s chemistry to create your own unique sexual scent. Infused with pheromones to intensify sex appeal and attract the opposite sex. A great fragrance for day or evening attraction.

G (Spot) Excitement Balm

We all know stroking the G-spot is one of life’s great pleasures, so why not take this favourite pastime to the next level by using some G-spot Excitement Balm. Concocted to heighten the users state of arousal (libido) and intensify the satisfaction felt during sexual activity.

Anal Calm Balm

Anal Calm balm is designed to provide a touch of tushy comfort during anal play. Calms and helps to relax the anal area to diminish anxiety sometimes associated with anal-play. Gel formula absorbs faster than creams so there is less chance of your partner experiencing ‘product transfer’.


Luxurious Dating Ideas

Looking to give your special someone a taste of the 5-Star/7-Star high-life? Fancy experiencing a bit of the ol’ Jay & Beyonce treatment (only without the hassle of fevered fans chasing after your limo)? Or perhaps you would prefer to live it up like a Sheik for the day, to hell with a budget!

Well, if you’re in the cash-spending mood, have a read through our Top 10 luxurious dating ideas; the ultimate way to spoil your partner.

Being in love is all about making memories together, here at Pulse & Cocktails’ we believe that dating plays a very important part of the story, regardless of how long you’ve been a couple.

So why not peruse our Top 10 list together, have fun choosing your favourites, dropping hints, making mental notes for your next special occasion; anniversary, birthday, engagement, next week when the kids are gone all weekend.

You may already be familiar with the company motto, ‘Couple’s who play together, stay together’, which as you will already know is how many great dates conclude: with the pair of you between the sheets answering the ‘call-of-the-wild’.

Our Top 10:

Luxurious Dating Ideas - Limo

1. Hire a limo

From £99.

Give your date a great night, celebrity style. Rent a stretch limo and cruise through the city streets whilst sipping champagne like a 1980s Wall Street high-flyer.

Naturally you’ll both be sticking your head out of the sunroof at every traffic light. Class.

Luxurious Dating Ideas - Food

2. Michelin Star Restaurant

From £20.

They say the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach (although women are no strangers to shovelling down a plate load of good food in record time either).

No one ever regretted tasting good food! As we all know, Michelin-Star chefs are the culinary masters of this universe. With 11 course tasting menus, inspired combinations and a level of dining that will blow your palette, find a Michelin restaurant near you.

After winning some brownie points as well as ticking-off something from your bucket list, why not carry on the date late into the night with some Aphrodisiaics?

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Massage

3. A dual massage

From £60.

Pamper yourself and your special someone with an hour or two of exotic massage and body treatment. Why not extend it and make it a spa weekend? Do it right; 5* service, fluffy robes and all the fancy en-suite Jacuzzi baths you can handle!

Afterwards you can put into practice your new massage skills with something from our superb aromatic massage oils & candles range.

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Rooftop

4. A sky-high dinner

From £40.

Look for a restaurant in your area that has a wonderful view of the city from their roof top terraces.

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Disneyland

5. Disneyland

From £120.

Everyone princess deserves a fairy tale so why not become her prince charming by taking her to meet Mickey, Minnie, Goofy and the whole gang. Go on all the roller-coasters (you know you’ll love them even more than her) and enjoy pure wonderment coming to life in the magic castle.

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Paris

6. A weekend in Paris

From £89.

Have lunch at the top of the Eifel Tower, take a look at the Mona Lisa at the Louvre, stroll down the Champs Elysees as the sun sets over Paris. Discover why its reputation for being the romance capital of the world is well deserved.

Treat her to some new sexy underwear and pack them as a surprise for once you have finished sightseeing.

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Boat

7. Hire a private yacht

From £60.

Wherever there’s water, you’ll find a yacht you can hire. Take an evening cruise around the harbour, or splash out and hire the yacht for the whole weekend. You can hire them fully crewed with all the food and drink needed for the ultimate indulgent weekend!

Why not live out a fantasy whilst on-board, live out being a captain or act-out some pirate fantasy! Just don’t be too convincing, don’t alarm the coast guard.

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Sushi

8. Sushi Class

From £30.

Looking for something a little more unique? Why not try a hands-on cooking class? The sophisticated way to get your hands dirty!

We offer a sexy recipe book for lovers if you’re looking to continue with your cooking classes at home!

Luxurious Dating Ideas - Helicopter

9. Helicopter Ride

From £79.

You can thank Christian Grey for this one! If you have a lot of money to spend, why not rent a helicopter and take your date around the city as you look around from a birds eye view? Obviously if your date is afraid of heights or suffers from travel sickness, might be best to avoid this one!

 Luxurious Dating Ideas - Private Island

10. Rent a private island

From £60,000.

The biggie! We did say luxury.

This will give you luxury and tranquillity. Rent your own island. You’ll need a lot of £50 notes for this one, a night for two on Necker Island (located in the Virgin Islands) will set you back a cool £60,000.

Hey, you wanted memorable, right?

Finally …

If you’re looking for something else to make your date night special, why not take a look at our couple’s toys? We’re certain your date, or ‘after-date’, will be one for the memory-bank by exploring each others carnal desires with one of our luxury toys!

How to introduce sex toys to your relationship

Introducing a sex toy into your relationship can send the sparks flying (or bring the spark back!). Bringing up the subject though isn’t always an easy task. Don’t worry – we’ve got a handy guide for how to go about introducing them into your relationship. Sure, it’s by no means a “one-size fits all” guide as, lets face it, nothing truly is. Every relationship is as unique as the individuals in it so broaching this subject with your partner(s) won’t always be textbook.

Nevertheless, this short, easy to digest guide may provide you with some useful ideas if you’re finding the idea of introducing sex toys into your relationship something of a precarious “diving board” moment. Hope it helps.

So, you clearly want to introduce sex toys into your relationship and may even have a few ideas about:

a) What toys you’re eager to get to grips with.
b) What toys you’re not too sure about but are willing to try once to discover what all the hype is about (that’s the spirit).
c) What toys hold no appeal for you whatsoever.

But what about your partner? As you’re all too aware this is no solo venture. Have they experimented with sex toys before, if not have they ever shown the slightest interest in the subject? How do they feel about you using sex toys when masturbating (if you already are, and we assume they know about it)? What happens if they show an interest in some of the toys that hold no appeal for you (and visa versa)?

Like other important aspects of a healthy relationship, honest communication is key. If it’s a subject your partner has never shown an interest in then starting a conversation about this is obviously the first and arguably most vital step in this whole adventure. It might not be the easiest conversation you ever have, you may even have to rehearse what you say to ensure your partner doesn’t misconstrue anything, but more often than not ‘the conversation’ is nowhere near as difficult as many imagine it to be.

Afterwards, even if the outcome is not the one you’re hoping for, you will probably look back and think your pre-talk fears were acutely misplaced (we’re all guilty of building things up in our mind till they seem overwhelming, it’s the “diving board” all over again).

Seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? They’re not going to be so overcome they faint. After all, all you will have done in reality is express an urge to indulge in some mild experimentation in the lovemaking department. If it yields good results, then guess what, you now have the exciting opportunity to make your sex life better than ever!

“What do you mean better? What’s wrong with it now?”

When having this discussion its worth emphasising you aren’t implying there is anything wrong or sub-par with your sex life or the other person’s lovemaking abilities. That’s not what sex toys are about, case in point: millions of women use vibrators every day and have been doing so for decades. Are they disrespecting their still-dexterous fingers in the process? Didn’t think so.

Stress to them that sex toys are not designed to replace someone or compensate for some shortfall, sex toys are designed to enhance your lovemaking and expand the possibilities of what naughty mischief you can get up to together. Like in other areas of your life, variety spices it up a bit, keeping things fun, fresh and interesting. You love steak but you don’t want it every night, why should what type of sex you serve up be any different?

Speak to any sexologist or professional whose area of expertise is sex and they will attest; foreplay is called foreplay for a reason. We’re adults now, we no longer play with toy soldiers and miniature ponies, but that doesn’t mean we’ve lost our appetite for play.

It’s just what constitutes play is now completely different, even so, that’s no reason to cut adrift the adventurous streak that innately poured out of you as a child when out playing and having fun. Fun with your mates didn’t add up to four things and nothing more, granted there were certain activities you did more than others but if one of you had a new idea, even if it was quite daring you normally explored it (or at least flirted with it).

Apply those same principles here, encourage your partner to view it from that perspective and we confidently predict that introducing some starter-sex toys into the bedroom will be a life-changing invigorating experience that brings you even closer as a couple.

If you’re looking for toys to get you started – have a look at our couples’ massager, My Wand, any gender can have fun with this staple of the sex toy world, by far one of the best couples’ toys we sell. If you’re looking to take your sex life to the next episode – our Duo Vibe is our best selling couples’ toy. Worn during lovemaking for intense stimulation for both him and her, the Duo Vibe also operates by wireless remote control, freeing you from the hassle of having to negotiate your fun around a restrictive wire.

As we’ve been proudly saying since 1997: couples that play together, stay together.

Kink – A Quick Guide

This exploration into the exciting and fascinating world of kink and BDSM is kindly bought to you by the store manager at our Brough store. Hope you find it as enjoyable as we did, let the kink commence: 

In recent years many people have become more curious about bondage, wondering how they go about introducing it into their relationship and general play. Many of my customers ask me: “where should they start?” “How will it make things more pleasurable?” “Is there such a thing as a quick guide to kink?” These crucial questions demanded answers, so recently I sat down with local entrepreneur Valen Vain, who is also the creator of Hull’s local fetish night K.E.N to get the expert view on these frequently asked questions, giving you all an insight into BDSM and its benefits, safety aspects and the negative stigma that still surrounds it.

Speaking to Valen was very eye opening for me; he described BSDM in a way that would never occur to a BSDM novice. I myself had my reservations about using anything restraining or that could possibly cause pain but after this interview I found myself curious and intrigued by its allure and hopefully this article will too open your eyes and your imagination to so much more when it comes to pleasure.




rope - kinkBDSM is sometimes considered a negative subject mainly due to safety aspects. Can you tell us about safety within BDSM and its importance?

Safety is possibly the most important aspect of BDSM, and that is simply because we in the fetish community know how much can go wrong. Because of this, no matter how many times you have done something, you should always prepare for the worst. Classic “Condom principle” – better to have safety measures and not need them, than need them and not have them.

I have heard many people come to a fetish night and complain that there are too many rules (an aspect that frequently makes the Fet Community look uptight or elitist). At the end of the day, the rules are there to keep people safe, not just the people playing but also the others attending the night too… by all means, when it comes to your own relationships in your own homes, make up your own rules, you know yourselves best.

People’s safety is the reason that Fetish Nights have “Dungeon Masters” (the people in charge of the play area). They are there to safeguard the people in the dungeon. They have usually had a lot of experience in the Fetish/BDSM scene, so know when things are pushing the limits.

In my experience, they aren’t lifeguards with whistles and loud voices, they aren’t there to break the atmosphere or show off their authority. The best ones will have a quiet word when they think something is amiss, or simply ask how people are doing to gauge the dynamic of their area.

Simple things to remember –

As a Top/Dominant:

  • If you are using Rope, have scissors nearby.
  • Make sure you can get to some kind of first aid (just in case)
  • If there are locks involved, always have the keys on you.
  • Don’t do something that you are unsure or uncomfortable doing.
  • Make sure that you have agreed a safe word

As a bottom/submissive

  • Make sure that you have agreed a safe word
  • Do not “put on a brave face” if something is uncomfortable, numb or actively painful, speak out, if your partner doesn’t know there is a problem then they can’t do anything about it.




Speaking to a complete novice, what advice would you give to someone who is looking to try a little bondage?

First thing’s first: relax. As with all things in life, you will always enjoy them more if you are relaxed.

For new people, the most important thing I will say is that everyone is different. Everyone’s kinks, tastes, fantasies etc. are different, and the very first thing to understand is – THAT IS OK! You are allowed to enjoy something that other people think is weird. Just because folk don’t understand something, doesn’t make it wrong.

Now, the initial core of Bondage comes down to two primary aspects, Trust and Imagination. So, say you are someone who has just discovered that they like the sensation of being immobile as a partner touches you, or have realised that you love the mild sting of a light spanking, this is great news, you are exploring your sexuality. However, the last thing you want to do is jump in the deep end with any old stranger, and that goes for both the Submissive AND the Dominant.

Start small, experiment with yourself. The more comfortable you are with your own body, the more comfortable you will be with someone else doing things to/with you. Find out what it is that really gets you going. Then, when you find a partner you trust, you are already on good standing to explore your sexualities together.

Now when it comes to gear, it can be quite intimidating, both the look of some things and the price tag. In most cases, you get what you pay for. If you buy a £5 little whip, it is unlikely to withstand vigorous activity, buy a pair of flimsy cuffs, you are likely to find them falling apart or the chain breaking. Better to save up for decent gear than waste your money on cheap stuff that won’t last long…

In the meantime however, look around and use your imagination. Silk scarves make amazing blindfolds, tie a knot in the middle and you have made a gag, A wooden spatula makes a great temporary spanking paddle (just don’t cook with it afterwards). You will find that good gear is amazing, but if you look at many things from a slightly different perspective, they may have more deviant uses, so go forth and be inventive.




In all aspects of relationships and sex most would consider mutual respect to play an important role. How does this enhance a BDSM experience?

Respect is an important part of life never mind relationships, and I think it is important to hammer in the need for respect inside and outside your relationship. In regards to the Fetish community, we all hear the stories about Doms/Domes who belittle or even ignore submissive’s, as if they are somehow categorically better. Fortunately, within my experience, this has been a very rare scenario. In all of my work, travelling, events and partying, the fetish community is probably one of (if not THEE) most accepting and open-minded community, and that all comes down to the fact that we respect that people are different and they do have different tastes and kinks.

Within a BDSM/Fetish relationship, respect is if anything more important. The natural observation of this is the submissive respecting and adhering to the wishes of their Dominant. However, The Dominant must also respect the needs of the sub. This is a person that is putting not only their safety but also their satisfaction into your hands; and that’s what it all comes down to, satisfaction.

The Dominant fulfils their needs through the submissive and the submissive has their needs fulfilled from the Dominant. The key is to understand and respect those needs, and to understand and respect that those needs don’t stop when you put down the whip. In a word…aftercare, a blanket, a cuddle, comforting whispers. They will have been through a lot emotionally and possibly physically, aftercare helps to ground them.

Lastly, talk to your partner. The more you talk (usually outside a scene so you don’t ruin the mood), the more you will understand them and the better your experiences together will become. Ask them what they liked/what they didn’t like so crucially you know what to do again and what to avoid. Ask them what they would like to try out. If your partner doesn’t ask … maybe you should tell them. There is no such thing as too much knowledge.




We’ve all heard of the famous “safe word”, how important and effective is it?

We have just been talking about the importance of safety; well this is just another safety measure. I have heard many new people (in my experience also usually young) who are full of bravado and come out with the classic “I don’t have a safe word, I can take anything you throw at me”… well what if you can’t? What if it’s amazing before suddenly hitting a point that goes just a little bit too far? Better to have a way out “just in case”.

Now, as you grow with your partner(s) of choice, they will learn to read your body, you may even get to a stage where you feel you never need to use it, but in my experience, it is better to have it there on the off-chance you are feeling particularly sensitive one day.




We have all heard of hand-cuffs and blind folds, would you consider these as a starter pack and could you recommend anything else to add for a nervous beginner?

blindfold - kinkAs I mentioned before, each of us is different and have different things that float our boats and so each person/couples “Starter Pack” will, in turn, be different. This being said, there are a few things that I would call “Core Gear” that everyone should have in their deviant treasure chest.

  • A blindfold – when you block one of the senses, the others become heightened. Find one that they can’t peek out of (unless a cheeky peek is the idea). A silk scarf, sleeping mask or moulded leather, pick one that suits you.
  • Restraints – These take a number of forms: rope, shackles, handcuffs, etc. If your submissive can’t move, they are more likely to adopt the mind-set to adapt to your will, can’t get away from the teasing (Make sure there is a way out – Just in case)
  • Items that tantalise the sense of touch – this is where it get a little more personal. Skin is the biggest organ that the human body has, and the erogenous zones are only a part of that organ. Whether you have feathers or even get as inventive as a using pastry brushes, taking your time playing with different sensations will lead to heightened experiences when the “scene” evolves.
  • Sexy underwear/clothing – Sight is like petrol for the flame of imagination. If you like what you see, you can picture what is to come. If you put the effort in to look sexy, then you will feel sexy and this will heighten the sensations that play out. This goes for Men too. A pair of tight, possibly “risqué” underwear will always be better that a ratty old pair of loose boxers. If you make the effort to dress up for your partner, they will feel more valued and sexy themselves.

Putting aside your toy box, there are other things that are more important, especially for a nervous beginner.

  • Relax – Don’t worry about what you look like, your partner would not be doing this if they didn’t want to be with you. Don’t worry about how the night is going to play out, the more you worry, the less you will enjoy it. It is a little known fact that most human beings cannot climax if they are built up with worry.
  • Trust – Just because someone has years of experience, doesn’t mean they are trust worthy. I would rather be with an amateur who I trust and who trusts me, than be with a Professional who is a stranger.
  • Always have a way out – Safety first people. Scissors, keys for locks, and most importantly SAFEWORDS (or signals if you/your partner can’t speak). Do not ever do anything that you are not comfortable with!
  • ENJOY YOURSELF – Kink, Fetish, BDSM, whatever it is you are into, you aren’t doing it for pride or respect or social status, you are doing it because you want to.