What is BDSM? 

WHAT IS BDSM? 

BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.

Bondage – refers to the act of restraining someone either with bondage rope, tape, restraints anything that tickles your pickle.
Discipline – Discipline refers to controlling behaviour using set rules often delivered by the dominant partner. Discipline can be enforced with rewards and punishment (all consensual of course!).
Sadism – Sadism refers to receiving pleasure from administrating pain. This can be both physical and emotional.
Masochism – Masochism refers to experiencing pleasure from receiving pain, again this could be physical or emotional. Spanking, biting and public humiliation or all types of pain offered in S&M.

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Tips on how to give the best handjobs

Let’s bring some passion back to the old hand-shandy! Whether you’re DIY-ing it or have a friend to help you out, you’re definitely going to want to read our top tips for giving the best hand jobs ever.

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Tips on how to be a good kisser

how to be a good kisser

First kisses can be incredibly daunting, even if you’ve done it a thousand times, we all get those butterflies when you’re locking eyes with your crush and slowly leaning in to lock lips. Kissing can be an aphrodisiac for the mind and body – A good kiss can set off the metaphorical fireworks and be the start of something beautiful, but a bad, sloppy kiss can summon the ‘ick’ and that’s bad news for everyone involved, so it’s important that you’re well equipped with knowledge on what makes a great kiss.

When it comes to kissing, there’s always room for improvement, here are a few tips on how to be a good kisser

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5 things you need to know before trying anal sex

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Whether playing solo or with your partner, the key to enjoying anal sex is being relaxed. For most beginners, this is easier said than done. Up until now, the anus will have been used to one-way traffic, so it is likely to clench up tightly when it suddenly feels something trying to enter rather than exit.

Don’t be discouraged, even longtime anal adventurers will tell you they also experienced a brief acclimatisation period. Training the anus to get used to penetration takes time, but eventually, it will feel as comfortable (or almost as comfortable) with this action as it currently is with releasing digestive waste.

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How to play with balls during sex

how to play with balls during sex

It’s pretty much common knowledge that the crown jewels residing in the southern hemisphere are extremely sensitive. Whether you’ve got a pair or not, we all know that this particular area is off-limits most of the time… but not all of the time *wink wink*

Initiating a few ball games during foreplay is a wonderful way of giving your partner sensational pleasure, but like we previously mentioned the area is very sensitive – filled with nerve endings that, with the right touch, can result in some incredible sensations. So you need to be smart and use that to your advantage – but don’t sweat, we’re going to explain exactly how to blow your lover’s mind by simply fondling his cajones!

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Why you should listen to music whilst having sex

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Music is an incredibly powerful tool for expressing many emotions. Going through a rough time? Stick some James Blunt on and let it all out. Need to find a little motivation? Lizzo has got you sorted. Fancy getting steamy beneath the sheets and wanna get your partner in the mood? You know Marvin Gaye is going to get you there… Or maybe it’s The Weeknd for you? Perhaps some electronic hard house? – whatever your taste, it often has the same effect.

That’s because music has been proven to flood your thinker with dopamine, which is the chemical that makes you feel good – the same way as chocolate or sex does or even going to the gym… if you can peel yourself away from binge-watching Motherland that is!

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Sex-Positive A-Z: 26 Sexy Suggestions for 2021

SEXY IDEAS FOR 2021

There’s no doubt about it, lockdown has impacted our sex lives. Since March 2020 it has effectively been against the law to sleep with someone unless they live in the same house, causing a national dry spell for both singletons and those living away from their partner.

Rules around overnight stay at another person’s home set to change at step three of the lockdown roadmap, which will be introduced on or after May 17. With this in mind, we collaborated with Gillian Myhill, a sex expert and founder of BARE Dating, to collate a list of 26 scenarios, sex toys, and positions into a sex-positive A-Z to encourage and inspire people to reignite and explore their sexual desires in 2021, and beyond.

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Lockdown Love Savers: 9 Ideas to Spice up Lockdown

lockdown sex ideas

2020 is over and 2021 has now entered the chat, but with the doom and gloom of pandemics and lockdowns making their way into the new year, it’s hard on us all, especially for those of us who are stuck at home trying to satisfy our basic human need for ✨pleasure✨

Well, look no further as the gang at Pulse and Cocktails have you covered for any desire you might have.

If you’ve been embracing Lockdown with your partner, then you are definitely doing something right, but if you have noticed a drop in your libido or have found it hard to gather the energy or wanting to have sex with your partner during lockdown then don’t worry, you’re definitely not alone.

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Behind Closed Doors: Sex in Lockdown Survey Results

Life as we know it has been turned upside down this past year, and we’ve all had to make changes and compromises, whether that’s becoming an overnight teacher or forcing yourselves out the door for your recommended daily walk. Though with nearly 40% of you saying you’ve had sex in the car or a park during Lockdown, it seems some people have been getting a little extra out of their ‘daily walks’.

It’s been a challenging time for couples especially, but amongst all this craziness, you lot have definitely still been making sure you’re having a good time. And since we can’t go out the front door, you lockdown lovers have just been getting creative behind the bedroom doors instead… and oh baby, we wanted to know all about it!  So, we decided to ask you saucy lot exactly what you’ve been getting up to during lockdown and you were very excited to tell us!

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6 Penis-Pleasing Valentine’s Gift Ideas

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Struggling to think of what to you get your partner this year for Valentine’s day? Well, with the current global situation, we’re all spending a lot more time together at home and there’s only so many Netflix series’ you can watch and Zoom quizzes you can partake in, so why not crank up the heat, add a little spice and turn that time together into quality time together *winky face*

Don’t worry if you’re not too sure where to start, the clever sexperts at Pulse and Cocktails have you covered with our simple guide to the best penis-pleasing Valentine’s Day gifts. From pre-assembled gift sets to toys that’ll get you both going, they’ll definitely be wearing a smile on Feb 14th.

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