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Bondage and BDSM for beginners – Tips on soft to advanced bondage

Have you fantasized about being tied up and spanked? Well if you haven’t, maybe it’s time you started…

The thought of bondage may make you feel like a sex goddess, or want to hide in a corner – but there’s really nothing to be scared of.

What is Bondage?

Essentially bondage refers to a sexual play that involves consensually restraining a partner for sexual pleasure – but really it is so much more! Not only is bondage an exciting way to become kinkier in the bedroom, it is also about building trust and openness in your relationship.

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8 Sexual BDSM Role-Play Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Let’s talk about BDSM and role-play – It seems as a nation we just can’t get enough! In a recent poll done by Marie Claire, 85% of you confessed to engaging in some form of light BDSM or bondage. Whether it’s blindfolds or ball gags you’re certainly getting your KINK on in the bedroom. In this blog, we’ll uncover what BDSM stands for, and give you 8 kinky role-playing ideas inspired by BDSM to take your sex life to the next level.

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Are you new to bondage and BDSM? We recommend reading our beginners guide to bondage to find out how you can turn your freak O’meter up a notch. Turn that vanilla sex frown upside down and spank them.

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The History of Sex Toys Uncovered

Have you ever wondered where it all started?  Who was the first person to use a foreign body for sexual stimulation?

What is it that first started the sexual revolution that has progressed to this huge profusion of sex toys stimulators and pleasures that we have today. What was the first ever dildo?

Pulse and Cocktails the history of sex toys

Well, as far as we know it all started in 26,000 BC with an eight inch long stone dildo discovered in the famous Hohle Fels Cave in Germany. This phallic shaped sculpture is thought very likely to have been used as a sex aid by its Ice Age makers. Humans might not have been able to read or have known how to write, but we knew how to have sex! Needless to say, we’ve come a long way since then!

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Why Women Should Watch Porn and the Benefits of Watching It

Have you ever found yourself getting turned on by watching a sex scene in a movie, or perhaps an erotic music video? We all have! Becoming aroused watching other people enjoy the pleasures of sex (and everything that comes with it), is completely natural and normal. Here at Pulse and Cocktails, we are on a mission to break the taboo around women watching pornography. Porn is not just for men to watch and there are lots of benefits for both sexes by watching porn.

Read on further to discover tips on all the advantages of watching pornography and how it can improve your sex life.

Why women should watch pornography

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How to Plan a Dirty Weekend Away

If you haven’t had a dirty weekend away recently (or ever) – you need to, so we’ve pulled together our top tips for instigating one. Let’s be honest, there is nothing less sexy than emails, dirty dishes and 7 am wake-up calls. Whilst we all love the weekend, it’s important to remove distractions and truly indulge in your partner. So, the sex doctor has ordered a good old fashioned dirty weekend away filled with mischief, debauchery, and seduction, for you and your partner to improve your sex life. Whether you’re in a new relationship, or you’re wanting to add some va va voom back into the bedroom with your long-term lover, everybody deserves a dirty weekend away.

How to plan a dirty weekend away

Planning your sexy weekend away may seem a bit daunting, but when you’re strolling into work on Monday (still beaming with your after sex glow), we guarantee you’ll be eager to plan your next trip. That’s why we’ve composed a catalog of all our best sex tips to make sure you have the perfect couples retreat.

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The Beginners Guide to Vibrators

What is a vibrator?

So, what are these vibrating gadgets that have been providing women and men worldwide with unlimited pleasure for so long? Vibrators are simply sex toys that vibrate, they can be used as a personal massager and for sexual stimulation. Vibrators come in all different shapes, sizes and styles, although often seen as sex toys for women, men can also get pleasure from vibrators.

Beginners guide to vibrators

Beginners guide to choosing your first vibrator

With so many different vibrators to choose from, here at Pulse and Cocktails we understand that finding the perfect vibrator can appear a daunting task. Doing your homework is essential, so that’s why we have created this user-friendly guide – vibrators for beginners, to help you pick your first vibrator with us (or if you’re already equipped with a vibrator or two, helping you delve further into new territory!). You can use this guide to help decide which shape, style, size and even girth will maximise your pleasure senses. With over half of all women worldwide now admitting to using a vibrator, there’s got to be something special about our favourite vibrating friends!

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Dragon Strong Male Sex Enhancers and Why You Should be Taking Them

Are you sick of hearing your friends tell stories of their all night, passionate sex sessions that you’re just not managing to experience yourself? Well, you’re not alone and we know their secret. Dragon strong herbal sex enhancer capsules!

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What do Dragon Strong Male Enhancers Do?

Dragon strong is a fun, recreational herbal supplement used by thousands of men of all ages to boost their sex drive and keep erect for a long time naturally. Customers reviewed that these sexual enhancing pills…

  • Increased sexual stamina
  • Enhanced overall performance
  • Boost sexual drive and libido
  • Improved erection size and strength
  • Intensified orgasm pleasure
  • Helped them keep hard for longer naturally
  • Stronger Erections

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How long should sex last and how to last longer in bed

How long should sex last?

It’s the age-old question everyone wants to know, we’ve all heard about (and possibly experienced) the one-minute wonders and the stallion sex session, but how long should sex really last? Of course, our overall mood, how aroused we are and who our partner is makes a difference, but we can shed some light on averages for how long sex lasts before the grand finale.

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How long should sex last?

Some Canadian and American sex therapists conducted research in 2008 to answer this question.  Their research helped to define what is considered an adequate or desirable amount of time to have sex, and what people felt was too short or too long. A sexual encounter consists of much more than just penetrable sex (who doesn’t love being driven wild with some foreplay), but the numbers below refer to penetrative sex only.

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How to Clean Your Sex Toys with Toy Cleaner

It’s time to extend your spring clean to your favourite adult toys. With 48% of the UK’s population owning a sex toy, we’ve pulled together this complete guide to make sure your favourite adult toys are taken care of; after all, they take great care of us.

When you should clean your sex toys

You should clean your toys before and after use, it only takes a few minutes and not only will it help keep your toys hygienic, it’ll make sure you can enjoy your toys again and again.

The benefits of cleaning your sex toys

It is very important to keep your toys clean for a number of reasons:

1. It ensures your toys last for longer! Who doesn’t love that?

2. It removes the build-up of bacteria on the toy, reducing the risk of a yeast or bacterial infection making them safe to play with.

How to clean your vibrator sex toys

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Essex Sex Shop

Pulse and Cocktails Store in Essex

Our Essex sex shop has plenty of car parking available and features a large selection of adult toys and sexy lingerie. Our friendly and knowledgeable staff will help you find the perfect sex toys, lingerie and fancy dress, so you can enjoy a relaxed shopping experience.