12 Days of Sex Positions to Try
Let’s talk about one of the most amazing acts there is – sex. Great sex has been spreading joy and cheer ever since our cavemen ancestors were around, yet do you find your bedroom shenanigans have become a little boring and predictable? Are you finding that you and your partner are just doing the same sex positions over and over again?
As much as we all love the missionary position, having it every Sunday at 9 pm for an average of 4 minutes 36 seconds can become a little monotonous. Trying out new sex positions in the bedroom is an easy way to keep things exciting between you and your partner. New sex positions encourage you to keep an open mind underneath (or outside of) the sheets and when you offer your mind and body to your partner you build trust, intimacy and openness in your relationship
So, to help you spice up your sex life we’ve put together a list of 12 great sex positions for you and your partner to try. Whether that’s one every day for the next 12 days or one every month for the next year, remember to enjoy the exploration of each other’s bodies, as well as discovering more about your own sexual likes and dislikes.
Sex Position 1: The Classic Reverse Cowgirl Position
How to do the reverse cowgirl
To put it simply reverse cowgirl is just the backwards cowgirl position. The partner with a penis or strap-on lies on their back, then the partner on top straddles the other one with their bum and back facing their partner’s chest and legs either side of their partner’s crotch. If the partner on top gets tired try switching it up by squatting over your partner with your feet flat on the bed, this will give you more power to bounce up and down. Another option is the partner on bottom holds on to their lover’s hips and bounces them up and down this will provide extra support and movement.
Benefits
Have sex with a good view in this position, the seductive rhythm of your partners bum moving back and forth will send you into an erotic trance. This is also a great position for switching the power roles, allowing the person on top to take control, whilst their partner can relax sit back and enjoy the show. Reverse cowgirl offers easy access to clitoral stimulation (great news for the ladies), meaning both her g-spot and clitoris can be stimulated at the same time – hello orgasm heaven. If you sometimes find facing each other and locking eye contact intense this position is perfect for you, allowing you to lower your inhibitions, close your eyes and get lost in your own kinky fantasy world.
Orgasm Tip
Rather than just moving up and down if you are on top, try changing it up and rocking back and forth or side to side, the change in flow and sensation will drive you both wild.
Use a Helping Hand
For deeper orgasms that you won’t be able to forget, try using the vibrating my toy bullet to stimulate her clitoris. Small yet powerful this little bullet is the perfect toy to help you take advantage of the easy clit access in this position. If it is a guy on bottom try stroking the duo vibe vibrating couples toy along his gooch (the part between his balls and anus), he will be like putty around your legs.
Difficulty Rating
Easy
Sex Position 2: The Leg Spreader Position
How to do the leg spreader position
Think of the leg spreader like a spicy version of the missionary position. If missionary was a cucumber the leg spreader would be a Jalapeno. Start off with the partner on the bottom lying on their back with their legs spread apart in a V shape, then the penetrating partner kneels in the middle of the other with their legs either side for some extra deep penetration.
Benefits
Get ready for some lustful and deep penetration with this one. The intimate angle of this position allows you to engage in some sultruous stare standoffs with your partner, making for some hot sex. Your hands are free to roam around your body wherever they please..nipples, clitoris… you decide.
Orgasm Tip
For a different angle have the partner being penetrated lie on a high surface with their legs spread apart and the penetrator stood up; this allows the penetrator to build up more momentum. Placing a pillow under her lower back can also be an easy yet effective way to mix this position up, it creates a different angle and will be comfier for her.
Use a Helping Hand
If you and your partner like some nipple fun this position is perfect for you as they are exposed to the elements of your wandering hands. Try using these vibrating nipple suckers on your partner’s nipples while you penetrate them to really drive them wild. If you’re feeling adventurous, a spreader bar would work perfectly in this position – so get kinky and spread those legs.
Difficulty Rating
Easy
Sex Position 3: The Meditator Position
How to do the mediator sex position
F*ck your way to internal peace in this meditator sex position. The partner with the penis or strap on sits with their legs either crossed or sitting in a low kneel – whatever feels more comfortable. Then the other partner sits on top with their knees spread apart and feet close together. To help with balance the partner on top can push their arms out beside them for extra grip and support.
Benefits
This position allows the partner being penetrated to take full control of the thrust pace and depth of penetration.
Orgasm Tip
Try having the penetrating partner kneel with their back against a sturdy bed frame or wall, this then allows them to support the partner on top with their hands on their waist.
Use a Helping Hand
Have the penetrating partner sit on a sex stool to add some extra oomph into this position. It will be like having sex on a mini trampoline where the stool does all the work for you. Hello easy access clitoral stimulation, a powerful bullet goes perfectly with this position to help her reach orgasm.
Difficulty Rating
Intermediate
Sex Position 4: The Cradle Position
How to do the cradle position
The cradle is a front-facing position, the penetrating partner sits with their legs spread apart in a V shape. The other partner sits on top and straddles their partner’s penis or strap-on (top tip – shuffle your bum forward slightly while sitting on top so their penis can slide inside you), then placing their legs over their partner’s shoulders and wrapping their arms around their neck. The penetrating partner then places their arms around their partners back as if to cradle and gently lift their partner rocking them back and forth.
Benefits
The cradle is all about intimacy, passion and snogging your partners face of sex. You can’t get more intimate than this sex position and that’s why so many people love it. Bite their lips, nibble their ears, you are so close that you can feel your partner’s breath on your skin while they penetrate you.
Orgasm Tip
This position is more softcore romance than a quickie fast thrusting. So take it slow and only try this if you’re wanting the right mood.
Use a Helping Hand
Try adding the duo vibe powerful couples vibrator into the mix for this position for some extra intense pleasure. If it is a girl on top have her place the small end of the duo vibe inside her and then the large side can be used for clit stimulation. That way you both get pleasure from the vibrations off the duo vibe, extra stimulation, extra pleasure.
Difficulty Rating
Intermediate
Sex Position 5: Give good Oral Sex
Giving Oral Sex to him.
How to do give him good oral sex
Give him the view of a lifetime in this bootylicious blow job position. Have him lie on the bed with his back against the headboard. Then place your knees either side of his knees and gently lower your mouth onto his penis. Push your bum in the air and arch your back, trust us, he will be rock solid just from watching you.
Benefits
Put on some crotchless undies then place a mirror behind you and watch him drool over you while your bottom is the star of the show. Add some flavoured lube into the mix to make everything glide and taste nicer.
Use a Helping Hand
If you really want to blow his mind try using a small vibrating prostate massager along his gooch (the area between his balls and anus) while you go down on his manhood. Then if he likes it you can try delving a little deeper into his anus (with his permission of course).
Difficulty Rating
Easy
Giving Oral Sex to Her
How to give her great oral sex
When giving your lady the kiss of life slow and steady definitely wins the race. Slowly work your way down south from her neck along her belly and towards her crotch, like your tongue is walking an exotic trail where every part is as enticing as the next and deserves equal attention.
Orgasm Tip
Whilst having her sit on your face can be a massive turn on for both of you, it is actually easier for a girl to reach orgasm when she is laying on her back (maybe with a comfy cushion to support her head too).
Use a Helping Hand
They say the best way to enhance our senses is to take the others away! Seductively place a blindfold over her eyes, without the ability of sight all her other senses will be heightened. Your touch, your smell, your taste.
Difficulty Rating
Easy
Sex Position 6: The Spooning Position
How to do the spooning position
Having a cuddle and great sex at the same time, what more could you want? The sensuous spoon is a very simple position to get into, one that you are highly likely to be familiar with. The partner with a penis or strap-on is essentially the big spoon and lays behind the other partner who is the little spoon, both facing the same way. Traditionally, the little spoon’s bum should be about level with the big spoons crotch, and then the partner behind can let their hands roam all over their lover’s body.
Benefits
There is a reason many people love this position, not only is it comfortable and cosy, it is an intensely sensual position that opens you both up to lots of fondling and massaging. If it is a woman being penetrated treat her to some tantalizing nipple and clitoral play with your wandering hands.
Orgasm Tip
For a deeper penetration have the little spoon partner lift their leg in the air or have them lean forward in the cradle position and push their feet back between their partner’s legs.
Use a Helping Hand
If it is a woman being penetrated make use of the open access to her nipples and show them the loving they deserve with some kinky nipple toys. If you are doing this position as anal and the little spoon is a guy, try using a silicone stroker male masturbator to massage his penis while you penetrate him from behind – trust us he won’t be able to forget that move. If it is a guy doing the penetration lube up your hand and gently stroke him to heaven.
Difficulty Rating
Intermediate
Sex Position 7: The Scissors Sex Position
How to do it
When picturing the scissor position often same-sex female couples come to mind. Whilst the scissor is an amazing position for lesbian couples it can also be great for couples with different genitalia – any combination goes! To perform the scissor one partner lays with both of their legs spread out on the bed, one on top of the other (for some couples this will be the partner who is being penetrated). This partner then creates an opening to their genitalia by raising and bending the leg that is on top of the other leg. Now the other partners head will be at the opposite end to the bed, sofa, magic carpet (whatever surface floats your boat), at the same side as their partner’s feet (foot fetish heaven!). This partner (if a dangly genital is involved this will be the penetrating partner) then slides their lower leg underneath the other partners lower leg, so that the first partner’s leg is now between both of the others legs. If a penis is involved, this partner then moves his crotch over to penetrate, or if two females are scissoring both move your lady parts towards each other and start rubbing – queue the lubricant!
Benefits
The scissor position is great for couples wanting to experiment and add some communication into their sex life. While no one can deny doggy style is sex treasure, it can sometimes lack intimacy and connection. Facing each other so openly in the spooning position allows for real communication between the two of you during intercourse, show each other what you like with your facial expressions, try talking dirty to your partner to turn them on. Plus RUBBING! And lots of it so for the ladies, this position will always be a winner.
Orgasm Tip
One word LUBE – and lots of it. When there’s rubbing involved you can bet there will be some friction. Use lots of lubricant in this position to prevent this happening and make it more pleasurable for both of you. Early warning – this position can be a bit of an awkward one too find that magic rhythm, however, with a bit of time, patience and laughter you will get there in the end and have some fun whilst trying to find it! So be open-minded and scissor the night away.
Use a Helping Hand
Try stroking a small vibrator like a powerful rechargeable the my toy bullet over your partners clitorous to stimulate her whole vagina.
Difficulty Rating
Expert
Sex Position 8: The Superman Position
How to do it
In the superman sex position, the partner being penetrated either with a penis or strap-on lies on the bed face down with their feet dangling over the edge. They then bend their knees (keeping everything below the knee of the bed) and spread their legs wide apart. The partner with a penis then enters between the other’s legs and using both hands lifts their partner’s pelvis up to insert themselves.
Benefits
Like doggy style’s (see sex position 9) deep thrusts and animalistic vibes? Well, say hello to your new favourite position. The superman offers deep penetration to stroke that super-sensitive spot at the top of her vagina whilst proving extra pleasing for the man.
Orgasm Tip
To make things comfier for the person on bottom try placing a big cushion underneath their pelvis, this will also make thrusting easier for the partner stood up.
Sex Props
If you’re feeling a little adventurous, we highly recommend a sex swing for this position! A sex swing makes nearly all sex positions easier and more fun, especially the superman. The partner being penetrated can lie flat, lazily swinging away while the partner behind’s thrusts will be helped via the momentum of the swing. You will hardly have to do any work….the swing does it all for you!
Difficulty Rating
Expert
Sex Position 9: Doggy Style Position
How to do it
The classic doggy style is a favourite of many couples worldwide and for good reason! To perform doggy style the partner being penetrated kneels on all fours, then the partner with a penis or strap-on penetrates the other from behind. To experience extra deep penetration, the partner being penetrated should keep their bottom high and their head low.
Benefits
Prepare yourself for intense and deep penetration in doggy position, the front wall of the vagina is very sensitive which makes doggy style deep thrusts the perfect position for helping her orgasm. The penetrating partner also gets a fantastic view of their partners bottom and their penis or strap-on entering in and out of them. There is something very primal about doing your partner from behind which many people get turned on by, the lack of to face to face contact in this animalistic position also means you are free to wander off to wherever your erotic imagination takes you…
Orgasm Tip
For the person kneeling down, the closer that their feet are together the tighter their vagina or anus will be. If you are the partner being penetrated try to cross your legs one over the other, the extra tightness and pressure around their penis will feel euphoric.
Sex Props
A vibrating bullet is her best friend in this position, gently stroking a bullet across your clitoris while your partner penetrates you from behind is a guaranteed train to orgasm central. Really get into your primal side and throw a little BDSM into the mix with some light spanking. Try using just your hand at first and if you like it then add in a whip or spanker.
Difficulty Rating
Easy
Sex Position 10: The Ballet Dancer
How to do it
Get on your dancing shoes and f*ck the night away. In this position both partners face each other and the partner being penetrated wraps their leg around their partner’s waist. If you’re feeling flexible and want more intense, deeper penetration lift your leg over your partner’s shoulder and have them wrap their arms around you for support.
Benefits
If you want close and intimate face to face love making this position is for you.
Orgasm Tip
For this sex position, you need to be a little bit flexible, so if at first, you find you can’t do it don’t feel defeated – many couples struggle with this one. Instead, try this position with the penetrating partner resting their bum slightly on the edge of a high surface such as a desk, this will help keep both partners balanced and less strain on your legs. If there is a big height difference between you and your partner, have the partner with a penis bend their knees slightly and thrust upwards towards you.
Sex Props
For a more intense orgasm try using a vibrating cock ring to help stimulate her clitoris and send vibrations along his penis. The cock ring will also help him to keep a stronger erection for longer.
Difficulty Rating
Expert
Sex Position 11: The Wall Banger
How to do it
As the name suggests in the wall banger position the penetrating partner wants to be against, you guessed it…a wall. This position offers deep and intense penetration from behind. Have the partner with a penis lean with their back against the wall and feet jutting forward for extra balance. Then the other partner slowly sits back guiding the penis inside them. Use your hands and each other’s hips to push off from one and other.
Benefits
This position is amazing for easy access, all over body fondling. Bring in another dimension to your sex and f*ck each other with your hands. If it is a woman in front let your hands wander over her breasts for some arousing nipple play, if it is a guy doing the penetration lube up your hands and lead them down to massage his balls, giving you both an orgasm to remember.
Orgasm Tip
Place a mirror on the wall opposite to get a really good view of each other making love.
Sex Props
This position offers so much potential for massaging and caressing of each other’s bodies, making a wireless wand vibrator your best friend in this position. Whether using it to play with yourself or massaging your partner’s body it can really enhance sex for both of you. Excite her nipples by slowly caressing their outline in a circular motion, then glide the wand across her body down to her lady flower for some intense clitoral stimulation. She will be getting double whammy orgasm deep g-spot and clitoral stimulation.
Difficulty Rating
Intermediate
Sex Position 12: The Lazy Wheelbarrow
How to do it
The lazy wheelbarrow is an easier version of the traditional wheelbarrow for those of us that aren’t Olympic medalists. The partner with a penis or strap-on stands behind the other partner, then similar to a standing doggy style the partner being penetrated bends down pushing their bum in the air. This partner also pushes their arms back with their bum and the other partner holds on to their wrists or hands. Holding on to your partner’s arms will make it easier to find the magic rhythm when thrusting back and forth.
Benefits
If you are after deep deep penetration this position is for you, it is also the perfect position for some G-spot stroking.
Orgasm Tip
If you are the partner penetrating with the penis or strap-on try thrusting with your hips rather than pulling your partner back and forth. This will be less tiring and you are less likely to injure one another.
Sex Props
Get kinky and add some handcuffs to your play. Handcuffs would be a perfect addition to this position by handcuffing the partner in front’s hands behind their back. If you’re feeling extra naughty why not add a blindfold into the mix too?
Difficulty Rating
Expert
Now you’ve got all the positions, all that’s left is to go and try them out!
Of course, sex positions don’t make up the whole equation to mind-blowing sex, there are other things to consider such as how long you last in bed, read our blog here for tips on how to last longer in bed. Foreplay is a crucial part of the great sex equation that can often go unloved, and can often be the decider on whether you have an amazing sex session or a half-hearted 30-second bonk. To make foreplay more exciting try adding some sex toys and accessories into your play.