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5 May 2023
Emily Graham

How to Introduce Sex Toys Into Your Relationship

two people holding a sex toy

Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be a wonderful way to increase intimacy, pleasure, and encourage you to be more adventurous during sex. However, we understand that not everyone will be so keen on the idea of bringing sex toys into the bedroom.

This guide aims to ease you and your partner’s minds around the idea of using sex toys and hopefully provide a good place to start on your sex toy journey. Remember, not every element of this guide will be useful to everyone, so be sure to think about which parts might benefit your situation, and which parts might not.

What are the benefits of sex toys?

Often, people who are against the idea of using sex toys are those who don’t understand the benefits of them. Some individuals may believe their partner wants to bring in a sex toy because they are bad in bed, and they’re not being fulfilled.

Stress to them that sex toys are not designed to replace someone or compensate for some shortfall, sex toys are designed to enhance your lovemaking and expand the possibilities of what naughty mischief you can get up to together. Like in other areas of your life, variety spices it up a bit, keeping things fun, fresh and interesting.

Some examples of how sex toys can enhance both partners’ sexual experiences are:

 

Communication is key

When discussing bringing sex toys into the relationship, it’s just as important to listen to your partner’s feelings as it is to express yours.

Allowing your partner to explain their worries and stress will help you both to find which toys will be suitable for everyone and if sex toys are for them at all.

Like other important aspects of a healthy relationship, honest communication is key. If it’s a subject your partner has never shown an interest in then starting a conversation about this is the first and arguably most vital step in this whole adventure. It might not be the easiest conversation you ever have, you may even have to rehearse what you say to ensure your partner doesn’t misconstrue anything, but more often than not ‘the conversation’ is nowhere near as difficult as many imagine it to be.

 

Consider all options

If you’re aware your partner is apprehensive about sex toys, it might be a good idea to sit down and explore all the options available. If your partner doesn’t know much about sex toys, it can be overwhelming for them to try to look at everything, before knowing what they might be interested in.

Collect a few ideas for toys and talk them through with your partner. The features, style, and stimulation those toys offer should appeal to both partners, not just one.

Once you find a potential toy type you’re interested in, look online at that specific toy type. This removes all the other options, making the experience of shopping for a toy less overwhelming. Alternatively, visit your local adult store and ask a friendly member of staff for advice, they will be able to recommend products based on your tastes.

 

Extra Resources:

If you’re ready to have the sex toy conversation with your partner, try looking at our blogs below for inspiration.

Top 10 Sex Toys for Men.

Beginner’s Guide to Bondage.

Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys.