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8 August 2022
Emily Graham

What Toys to use in a Polyamorous Relationship

throuple in bed

The journey to finding the right sex toy for you can be difficult, even more so when you’re looking for a couple’s toy. As we often only see relationships as consisting of two people, polyamorous couples can sometimes be left out of the loop about what sex toys suit their needs.

As with two-person relationships, exploring sex toys as a throuple (or more) can be a lot of fun, and also very confusing. As most toys are made to satisfy one or two people at once, how can polyamorous couples use these toys in their relationships?

What is Polyamory, and how many Poly Relationships are out there?

 

Although we do not see many polyamory relationships represented on TV (though we should!), there are more poly-couples around us than we think.

For those who don’t know, Polyamory is when a person is in a relationship with more than one individual. This can be sexual, but isn’t always, and can be different for everyone, with some relationships consisting of three people (a throuple) or more, there’s no limit to how many people a polyamorous person can love. Like with any relationship, people can love who they want, how they want to!

Within the Sex Census conducted by sex toy company Lelo, a whopping 28% of people said a polyamorous relationship would tick all their intimacy boxes. This figure rose to 38% among those between the ages of 18 and 24.

It was also found that 1.5% of participants were already in a polyamorous relationship. Although that percentage may seem small, when we look at 1.5% of the British population, that’s over 1 million people in polyamorous relationships in the UK.

Learn more about what it’s like to be in a throuple in our interview: What is a throuple? Interview with a Throuple

 

Types of sex toys for Polyamorous Relationships

Depending on the number of penises and clitoris/ vaginas in the relationship, finding the right toy for multiple people to use can be a real challenge. Toys that may be perfect for one person may not be for another, so it’s a good idea to explore a wide range of toys to find something everyone can enjoy.

Pink Strapless Strap On Vibrator

The Strapless Strap On

Strapless Strap On is the ideal toy for those who want to penetrate, whilst being penetrated. The unique design of these toys means that the wearer can also receive vaginal stimulation whilst penetrating another person. Along with this, as the wearer is receiving vaginal penetration from the toy, they can also pleasure another person orally, or receive anal stimulation at the same time!

The versatility of this toy means that it can be used for both anal and vaginal stimulation, so you can change up who’s on the receiving end.

Just remember, we do not recommend using the same toy for multiple users, as this can be unhygienic. Also, never use the same toy for both anal and vaginal penetration as it can transfer bacteria, so it’s best to have more than one toy if you want to explore both forms of penetration.

The My Wand (the perfect place to start)

The My Wand is a great addition to any sex toy box, and it also makes the perfect polyamorous sex toy. With various interchangeable heads on offer, a wand can provide many different forms of stimulation to the penis, vagina, and clitoris. This toy can also help save on storage and money as you can use multiple heads with a single wand – brilliant!

Finding a good wand to suit everyone involved can be tricky, so we recommend trying one with multiple speed and pulsation settings to ensure there’s the perfect speed for everyone.

Remote-controlled Toys for the Win

For polyamorous relationships who enjoy a bit of domination and control, remote-controlled toys are great for controlling your lover’s orgasms and pleasure. Get a remote prostate stim and remote clitoral stim and hand the controllers over to your dominant for a world of fun, plus they will love watching their lovers get off at the touch of a button.

Due to the huge variety of remote-controlled toys for both clit and p-spot stimulation, you’re sure to get plenty of pleasure no matter your ratio of penises to vaginas. The only potential downside to these toys is the controller’s reliance on batteries, so you better stock up!