Strap Ons

A strap-on is a wearable sex toy, usually made up of a harness and a dildo, that allows the wearer to penetrate a partner or explore other forms of intimate play. People use strap-ons for many reasons — including pleasure, curiosity, pegging, prostate stimulation, role reversal, power dynamics, or simply to try something new together.

Strap-ons aren’t limited to any gender, sexuality, or relationship type. They’re used by couples, solo explorers, and people of all identities. Using one doesn’t “mean” anything about who you are — it just reflects a desire to explore pleasure in a way that feels right for you.

Yes, strap-ons can be very beginner-friendly when approached with comfort and communication in mind. Many first-time users start with a smaller, medium-firm dildo and an adjustable harness, as these offer better control and feel less intimidating.

Starting slowly is key. Talk openly with your partner, use plenty of lubricant, and choose positions where the receiving partner can guide pace and depth. It’s completely normal for the first experience to feel a little awkward — confidence builds with time, not perfection.

Solid strap-on dildos are firm throughout and are often easier to control, making them a popular choice for beginners. They come in a wide range of sizes, shapes, and materials and work with most harnesses.

Hollow strap-ons, on the other hand, have space inside and are designed to be worn over a penis or used in specific harness setups. People often choose hollow strap-ons for accessibility, comfort, or to experience penetrative play without relying on firmness or erections. Fit and material matter more with hollow designs, so taking time to choose the right one is especially important.

Strap-on play can be very safe and enjoyable when basic care and preparation are followed. Using plenty of lubricant is essential, especially for anal play or hollow strap-ons. Water-based lubricant is generally recommended, particularly when using silicone toys.

Cleaning is just as important. Strap-ons should be cleaned after every use, with the dildo removed from the harness. Warm water and mild, unscented soap or toy cleaner are usually sufficient, and everything should be allowed to dry fully before storage. Proper care helps protect your body and keeps toys comfortable and long-lasting.

Not at all. One of the biggest misconceptions about strap-ons is that they’re only for penetrative or dominant play. In reality, strap-ons can be used in many ways, including grinding, external stimulation, teasing, and sensual, non-penetrative intimacy.

While some people enjoy strap-ons as part of power play or role exploration, others use them purely for connection, novelty, or shared pleasure. Strap-on play is flexible, personal, and entirely defined by consent and communication — there’s no single “right” way to enjoy it.