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3 October 2022
Emily Graham

Beginners Guide to Dildos

hand reaching for purple dildo on bed

Whether you’re looking for something firm, squeezable, or floppy – there is a variety of dildos to pick from: jelly dildos, vibrating dildos, silicone dildos, glass dildos; some realistic, others with less phallic designs. The fact that the dildo can come in virtually any colour, shape or size means there’s always something out there for everyone’s tastes.

With so many options, we’ve pulled together this must-read beginner’s guide to finding your perfect dildo (even if you’re well-versed in the world of dildos it’s worth a read just to see what else is out there)!

We understand that choosing a dildo, especially your first dildo can feel overwhelming. Don’t worry, we’re here to help and we hope this brief ‘guide to …’ goes a long way to helping.

What is a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy that is often phallic in shape and is typically used for vaginal and anal penetration. It’s important however that you should never use the same toy for both forms of penetration as this can spread harmful bacteria. As mentioned in the introduction, dildos can come in any colour, shape, material, size and style, and there are some wild ones out there! Dildos can be used for solo play or with a partner to broaden your intimacy and spice up sex.

Lastly, dildos generally don’t vibrate (that’s a vibrator!). But, of course, you can get phallic-shaped vibrators which provide all sorts of stimulation if that’s what you’re looking for.

 

How do I use a dildo?

Like with any new sex toy – we recommend you start small, especially if you’re using it for the first time. Don’t take more than you can handle or you risk ruining what could be an amazing experience.

Bear in mind that the average UK penis size is 5 – 6 inches. So, if you’re just getting started you’re best off starting with a dildo that size. Starting with a dildo that is too big will only cause pain and discomfort. Start slowly, don’t race ahead. Before you do anything – see what the dildo feels like when you rub it on the outside of your body. Use it to massage and stimulate first. Think of it as foreplay!

Don’t forget the lubricant either, this can help prevent discomfort and generally enhance your experience. Even if the dildo is made from silicone or glass, materials that are a lot smoother, we still recommend using lubricant.

 

Realistic Dildos

These dildos are designed to look and feel like the real thing; soft skin, thick, veiny and weighty. Lube up and you’ll struggle to tell the difference.

Just like the real thing, they are available in different colours, shapes and sizes. Great for toy users of all experience levels and are very easy to use (as are all dildo types). Some of our best sellers also feature a suction cup base so you can attach it to a smooth flat surface if you wish to.

We advise never attaching a suction cup dildo on a glass surface, to prevent the risk of the glass breaking.

 

Our best-selling Realistic Dildos:

5 Inch Realistic Dildo with Suction Cup Base

 

For beginners, our 5.5 Inch Dildo is one of our most popular basic dildos, ideal for inexperienced users. Super soft and bendy, this dildo has a suction cup base for those wanting to try out hands-free use.

Real Lover 7.5 Inch Realistic Brown Penis Vibrator with Suction Cup

This girthy dildo offers 7 different vibration modes, ideal for those looking for a dildo with some added stimulation. Although this dildo is on the larger size, the tapered tip makes insertion easy and comfortable.

 

Anal Dildos

For many, an anal dildo usually means a dildo that’s a bit on the small side (both length and girth).

However, just like vaginal sex, everyone has a different idea of what is too big. Not only do people differ on what they consider a suitable size, but people also have different experience levels and want different experiences from their anal sex. Some anal players are perfectly happy sticking to a dildo not much bigger than a small-to-medium butt plug, others seek more extreme thrills (10-inch, 12-inch dongs, fists, etc).

If you’re trying anal penetration for the first time, we don’t recommend using a dildo. Start small, try a lubricated finger, or if you prefer, a toy no wider than your middle finger. If you feel compelled to explore more, buy a butt plug or a set of anal beads. If you still feel you can accommodate something larger, then go for a dildo. Take your time, as we said at the start; they predate the vibrator and we can’t imagine they’re going out of style anytime soon. Always use a lubricant with any anal sex toy to ensure maximum comfort and pleasure.

For those who want to step up from a butt plug to a dildo, our Purple Swirl Jelly Butt Plug is the ideal beginner’s anal dildo. The soft jelly texture and flared base of this plug make it comfortable to use for first-timers, and it even has a textured shaft for added anal stimulation.

 

Vibrating, Glass, and Double-ended Dildos

Due to dildos covering a wide range of materials and stimulations, it can be tough choosing the right one for you, so here’s a quick round-up of these types, and our favourite picks of each.

Vibrating Dildos

Just like the name states, vibrating dildos are dildos which have a motor inside them to provide added stimulation through vibrations. If you’re looking for your first vibrating dildo, you should try using a multi-speed product to help you build up your enjoyment and test out different levels of vibrations.

Our recommendation: Realistic Vibrating Dildo 8 Inch

 

Glass Dildos

Glass dildos offer a great opportunity to experiment and play around with temperature play. Due to their material, glass dildos can be placed in warm water, or the fridge, for a few minutes to enhance the stimulation of the toy. We do not recommend placing your toy in extreme heat or cold (such as the microwave or freezer) to prevent it from breaking.

Our recommendation: Blue Swirl 7.5 Inch Glass Dildo

Double-ended Dildos

Often used for couple’s play, these longer dildos are versatile in their potential use.

Just like all other dildo types, double-ended dildos come in a range of colours, shapes and sizes, some even have one end that gradually widens out so one cock is girthier than the other (ideal if one of you is particularly more accommodating than the other).

Most of them tend to be pretty flexible too, this lends itself to experimenting with double penetration (simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration).

Our recommendation: 14 Inch Double Dildo