The Language of Desire: A Guide to Sex Phrases
Since words were first used to express sex and the activities associated with it, sex phrases have become more a part of our vocabulary than ever. No longer referring to sex as ‘coitus’ or ‘intercourse’, we now celebrate sex with a plethora of wonderful sayings.
When did sex phrases start?
There are many ways to debate when we historically started using certain phrases to describe sex. Depending on what word you personally think is the ‘ultimate original sex word’, the answer can vary by hundreds of years!
If you consider the ‘F-bomb’ to be the ultimate word for sex, then you’ll find its first use when referring to sex was back in the 16th century. However, if you prefer the more linguistically elegant phrase of ‘copulation’, you’ll find this particular word was used a century prior in 1483.
Over time – lots and lots of time – sex became less taboo and therefore talked about more often, meaning new words and phrases were coined all the time to talk about it. When investigating more recent sex phrases, we also found a wonderful range of old-timey terms from Pittnews.com for your reading pleasure:
- Take a Turn at Bushy Park – This sex phrase was coined during the 1700s as Bushy Park is a real park in London which was considered a common place to meet up with prostitutes or secret lovers.
- Ride a dragon upon St.George – A lot more riskier than we’d expect of the 1600s, this phrase refers to the now commonly known ‘cowgirl’ sex position, meaning the receiver is on top ‘riding’ the penetrator.
- Wap – Although sadly the incredibly popular W.A.P song by Megan Thee Stallion and Carbi would not be released for another 600 years or so, Wap in the 1500s was a commonly used word meaning ‘to throw’. Although it wasn’t a sex phrase in the 1500s, we think it is hilarious how its meaning has changed now.
Expand your kinky vocabulary
With our little history lesson out of the way, we collected 8 phrases from the internet we think are less commonly known than they should be.
Pompoir: Referring to the action of an individual stimulating a person’s penis through the use of their vaginal muscles.
Time to get out the kegel balls to practice this one. Although only recently being discussed on the internet, the word ‘Pompoir’ has been around for thousands of years, and refers to the twisting, sucking, and stroking actions performed by the vaginal muscles during vaginal sex.
Bussy: A combination of the words ‘boy’ and ‘pussy’, meaning a male’s anus.
A rather brilliant crashing together of two words, ‘Bussy’ is just another term for the male anus.
Doppelbanger: A combination of the words ‘doppelganger’ and ‘bang’, meaning to have sex with someone who looks identical to you, but with no relation.
This was one we at P&C had never heard of before! We think it’s a great use of word-play which we hope to see used more often.
Cunnilingus: The act of performing oral sex on a vulva-owning person.
A new sex phrase perfect for those who are tired of the term ‘eating out’, ‘cunnilingus’ is the ideal alternative.
Queef: When air is released from the vagina and makes a sound.
Completely harmless, and at most times – hilarious, a ‘queef’ is simply the act of air leaving the vagina and making some sort of sound, often a bit like a fart.
Blue Balls: The expression of feeling pain due to lack of sexual release.
Not an actual medical term, having ‘blue balls’ is often said when a penis-owning individual is sexually aroused but hasn’t climaxed yet.
Edging: The act of abstaining from sexual release just before climax multiple times.
Edging is a technique often using to increase sexual stamina and make the final climax more intense. If you’d like to learn more about edging, you can check out our blog all about it here: Does edging really make orgasms better?
Pegging: When a person penetrates someone else during sex with a strap-on.
Performed with a strap-on harness and dildo, pegging can be performed and recieved by anyone!
We hope you enjoyed our deep-dive into sex phrases – if you’re hungry for more, why not check out our Alphabet of Sex Toys to test your knowledge?
Research and references:
Sex words and phrases:
https://www.gohddess.com/blog/pompoir
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a36829090/sex-slang-glossary/
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a37549782/sex-terms-you-should-know/
https://www.dsl.ac.uk/entry/snd/wap_v1_n1_adv
History of sex phrases: