The Ultimate Women’s Wellness Toolkit: Pelvic Floor, Dilators, Lubes & Intimate Care
Let’s be honest: “women’s wellness” can sound like a beige aisle in a pharmacy with sad lighting and zero joy. But real intimate wellness? It’s empowering, pleasure-friendly, and actually useful — whether you’re navigating discomfort, building confidence, reconnecting with your body, or simply levelling up your self-care routine. Think of this as your ultimate toolkit. Like a little sexual wellbeing starter pack (or upgrade kit), tailored to your body, your comfort levels, and your curiosity.
A women’s wellness toolkit is simply a collection of products that support intimate wellbeing — physically, emotionally, and sensually. It’s not about “fixing” you. It’s about helping you feel your best.
This toolkit can support:
- Pelvic floor strength
- Comfortable penetration (solo or partnered)
- Recovery after childbirth or surgery (where relevant)
- Managing discomfort, vaginismus, or tightness
- Arousal, lubrication and sensitivity
- Body confidence and sexual self-knowledge
And the best part? You don’t need to be going through anything dramatic to deserve one.
Tool #1: Pelvic Floor Trainers (Kegel Balls & Beyond)
Let’s talk pelvic floor — the underrated MVP of pleasure.
Your pelvic floor is a group of muscles that sits at the base of your pelvis. It supports your bladder, uterus and bowel… but it’s also closely linked to sexual sensation and orgasm strength.
What pelvic floor training can help with:
- Increased sensitivity during sex
- More control over contractions (hello, stronger orgasms)
- Improved bladder control
- Feeling more “held” internally
- Better confidence and body awareness
Your pelvic floor toolkit options:
Tool #2: Dilators (The Most Misunderstood Wellness Product Ever)
Dilators have an unfair reputation. People hear “dilator” and imagine something clinical and scary. In reality? A well-designed set of dilators can be gentle, empowering, and even soothing. A dilator is typically a smooth, body-safe insert designed for gradual stretching and comfort-building — often used for:
- Vaginismus
- Pelvic pain
- Tightness
- Anxiety around penetration
- Post-surgery or post-treatment recovery (with guidance)
Your dilator toolkit options:
Tool #3: Lubes (Because Dry Doesn’t Equal Sexy)
If your toolkit has one non-negotiable, it’s lube. And before anyone says, “But I should get wet naturally”… No. Stop. In the bin with that idea.
Lubrication changes with:
- Stress
- Hormones
- Medication (hello SSRIs)
- Menstrual cycle phases
- Age
- Hydration
- Anxiety
- Arousal level
Your lubricant toolkit options:
2: Arousal Gel
Common Myths (Let’s Unpack These Quickly)
Myth 1: “Dilators are only for medical problems.”
Nope. They’re for anyone wanting more comfort, control, or confidence with penetration.
Myth 2: “If I need lube, I’m not aroused.”
Also nope. Lube supports pleasure regardless of arousal.
Myth 3: “Pelvic floor training is always good.”
Not always. Some people need relaxation, not strengthening. Pain and heaviness aren’t “normal” — they’re signs to pause and reassess.
Myth 4: “Wellness products are embarrassing.”
They’re literally tools for your body. We moisturise our faces without shame — your vulva deserves the same energy.
Final Thoughts: Your Body Deserves Care That Feels Good
Women’s wellness isn’t about being “fixed”, “tightened”, or “improved”.
It’s about comfort. Confidence. Pleasure. Choice.
Whether you’re strengthening, stretching, soothing, exploring, or simply learning what your body likes — you’re doing something powerful: listening to yourself.
And honestly? That’s the sexiest kind of self-care there is.