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12 Days of Sex Positions to Try

Let’s talk about one of the most amazing acts there is – sex. Great sex has been spreading joy and cheer ever since our cavemen ancestors were around, yet do you find your bedroom shenanigans have become a little boring and predictable? Are you finding that you and your partner are just doing the same sex positions over and over again?

The best and hardest sex positions to try with your partner

As much as we all love the missionary position, having it every Sunday at 9 pm for an average of 4 minutes 36 seconds can become a little monotonous. Trying out new sex positions in the bedroom is an easy way to keep things exciting between you and your partner. New sex positions encourage you to keep an open mind underneath (or outside of) the sheets and when you offer your mind and body to your partner you build trust, intimacy and openness in your relationship

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Why Women Should Watch Porn and the Benefits of Watching It

Have you ever found yourself getting turned on by watching a sex scene in a movie, or perhaps an erotic music video? We all have! Becoming aroused watching other people enjoy the pleasures of sex (and everything that comes with it), is completely natural and normal. Here at Pulse and Cocktails, we are on a mission to break the taboo around women watching pornography. Porn is not just for men to watch and there are lots of benefits for both sexes by watching porn.

Read on further to discover tips on all the advantages of watching pornography and how it can improve your sex life.

Why women should watch pornography

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How to Plan a Dirty Weekend Away

If you haven’t had a dirty weekend away recently (or ever) – you need to, so we’ve pulled together our top tips for instigating one. Let’s be honest, there is nothing less sexy than emails, dirty dishes and 7 am wake-up calls. Whilst we all love the weekend, it’s important to remove distractions and truly indulge in your partner. So, the sex doctor has ordered a good old fashioned dirty weekend away filled with mischief, debauchery, and seduction, for you and your partner to improve your sex life. Whether you’re in a new relationship, or you’re wanting to add some va va voom back into the bedroom with your long-term lover, everybody deserves a dirty weekend away.

How to plan a dirty weekend away

Planning your sexy weekend away may seem a bit daunting, but when you’re strolling into work on Monday (still beaming with your after sex glow), we guarantee you’ll be eager to plan your next trip. That’s why we’ve composed a catalog of all our best sex tips to make sure you have the perfect couples retreat.

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Dragon Strong Male Sex Enhancers and Why You Should be Taking Them

Are you sick of hearing your friends tell stories of their all night, passionate sex sessions that you’re just not managing to experience yourself? Well, you’re not alone and we know their secret. Dragon strong herbal sex enhancer capsules!

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What do Dragon Strong Male Enhancers Do?

Dragon strong is a fun, recreational herbal supplement used by thousands of men of all ages to boost their sex drive and keep erect for a long time naturally. Customers reviewed that these sexual enhancing pills…

  • Increased sexual stamina
  • Enhanced overall performance
  • Boost sexual drive and libido
  • Improved erection size and strength
  • Intensified orgasm pleasure
  • Helped them keep hard for longer naturally
  • Stronger Erections

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How long should sex last and how to last longer in bed

How long should sex last?

It’s the age-old question everyone wants to know, we’ve all heard about (and possibly experienced) the one-minute wonders and the stallion sex session, but how long should sex really last? Of course, our overall mood, how aroused we are and who our partner is makes a difference, but we can shed some light on averages for how long sex lasts before the grand finale.

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How long should sex last?

Some Canadian and American sex therapists conducted research in 2008 to answer this question.  Their research helped to define what is considered an adequate or desirable amount of time to have sex, and what people felt was too short or too long. A sexual encounter consists of much more than just penetrable sex (who doesn’t love being driven wild with some foreplay), but the numbers below refer to penetrative sex only.

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Reasons you should try: lubricant

We know that the concept of using lubricant is a little bit lost on some couples. A lot of our customers often tell us that they think it isn’t something they should worry about and that maybe it’s something the older generation should worry about. Well – you’re wrong. Our love of lubes needs to rub off onto you – here’s 7 reasons you should try lube!

1.     It makes it easier to orgasm

Applying lube makes both men and women feel more aroused, making sex easier, increasing stimulation and creating a more intense and intimate experience. In fact, a study from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health determined that lube makes it 50% easier to orgasm for both men and women. That’s a 50% higher chance of reaching climax – who wouldn’t want that?

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A Beginners Guide to Anal Sex

The words ‘anal sex’ might have you cringing. Many people see it as a taboo. Others see it as an act of trust, love and closeness. Anal play has been having its moment of the last couple of years, we have seen the number of anal sex toys sold increase. More and more couples are trying it.

Think only gay men enjoy anal play? Then you’re a little bit behind the times. Whilst it’s true that men have the advantage of having a prostate, which feels incredible when stimulated, but many women enjoy anal play to. That’s because the anus is richly endowed with a body of nerve endings, these nerve endings are crying out to be teased and stimulated!

 

Safety always comes first

Everyone likes surprises and everyone likes sex – so you’re thinking of combining the two! DON’T. ‘Sticking it in’ is a sure-fire way to put people off anal for life. Talk about it first. It might be something new to the other person or maybe they’ve been thinking about asking you. Make sure you’re both in agreement that it’s something you want to try, and it’s not one person doing it to please the other!

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Penis Vacuum Pumps Guide

Over the years, many men have discovered that a penis pump is a great way to enhance their penis very quickly. Not only does it offer instant results, but it can also address problems involving erectile dysfunction.

A lot of the customers who come into our stores do so after NHS health professionals have advised them to try a penis pump.

We think penis pumps are just what’s needed to give you instant growth and are a great way to maintain a strong, prolonged erection regardless of whether you use it to build yourself up for sex or for solo play. We get asked a lot of questions in our stores about penis pumps, so welcome to our handy penis pump guide!

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Couples Sex Toys for Beginners

Okay, you and your partner have both decided to introduce a sex toy to your relationship, realising how much added enjoyment it can bring to your sensual sessions, plus it can’t hurt to experiment a little bit. The question now is “which one do I choose?”

Because different types of toys are useful for different types of sex, and require different levels of involvement during lovemaking – finding the right one can be tricky for the newcomer. Don’t worry, this small article is designed to help you with your decision, informing you about what toys we think are best suited to couples writing chapter one of this new and (hopefully) exciting adventure.

If one of you, or both, are new to sex toys and aren’t yet masters of how to use them correctly then a large size toy could easily be misused and result in severe discomfort. Not only will this cause physical pain in the short-term, long-term you may put the other person off using sex toys for life, torpedoing your sexual escapades before any meaningful (certainly memorable) lift-off.

Our advice is to start small, huge stallion dongs will forever be readily available should you ever get the itch to use one, but before you even consider that we repeat, start small.

The following is a collection of small size toys that are appropriate for first-timers:

 

The Bullet

Wireless Mini Bullet (10 Speed) (£5.95): Perfect for the beginner just discovering the joys of adult toys!

Non-threatening, pocket-size, simple to use and more versatile than it looks. Predominantly vibrating bullets are used for clitoral/vaginal (external) stimulation but we see no reason why you can’t use it to tease the nipples, inner thighs or anywhere else that instinctively feels right. Bullets are also unisex, the amount of men who are discovering the joys of applying a dash of lubricant to their manhood and gliding the bullet up and down their shaft is on the increase, big time!

 

Cock Ring

Vibrating Cock Ring (£19.95): Perfect starter cock-ring!

Sometimes referred to as a ‘love ring’, regardless of what you call it the man wears this little device on his penis at the base of the shaft. He puts it on after he has become erect (please use lubricant, we cannot stress that enough). It should be tight, but not uncomfortable.

Its main function is to prevent blood from leaving his penis so he not only lasts longer but his erection will be slightly bigger, girthier and juicier than normal (the way it is when he’s really got a throb-on … apologies, we couldn’t think of any other way to describe it).

The benefits don’t stop there. A lot of cock rings now have a mini vibrating bullet built into the design so when the man is wearing it and things are in full flow the bullet vibrates against the other person’s intimate area, sending intense “oh my” rumblings where they desire them most. On some models, the bullet is removable, great if you’re thinking of investing in a vibrating bullet as it becomes a 2-in-1.

Warning: if the bullet is not designed to be removed, do not remove it. This will only result in you breaking a perfectly good toy.

 

Small to medium size Vibrator

The Big Finger (£29.95): Not too big to intimidate a first-timer

Pleasure Wave: Pleasure Wave Pink Vibrator is a great way to make ‘me time’ just that bit more memorable. (£29.95)

Similar to the bullet in many ways; petite in size, non-intimidating, easy on the eye, also easy to operate – is one more button really going to make it that much harder to use? Where it differs from the bullet is it can be used for both external and internal vaginal stimulation.

You may have noticed the shaft on one of the vibrators is curved at the end, this makes it ideal for G-spot stimulation, enabling you to replicate the movements you would perform if using your fingers, only now the fingers are vibrating!

Sex during pregnancy

Congratulations! The next several months will be a time of growth (literally and figuratively), wonder and change.

Speaking of which… you’re probably already wondering about lifestyle changes. And that’s likely to include thinking about your sex life.

Sex during pregnancy is sex and it will strengthen the bond between you as a couple. Some women seem to want to have more sex during the first and second trimesters-although not usually the third (We hear you, the third trimester is difficult!)

We also know that as first-time mums and dads you might have a lot of questions. Is sex safe during pregnancy? Will the penis harm the baby? Can the baby feel sex? Is it okay to have an orgasm during pregnancy?

Hopefully we can clear some of those questions and concerns with our quick-fire FAQs to sex during pregnancy.

 

 

Can you still have sex during pregnancy?
 
Of course! Sex is safe during pregnancy. Unless your midwife has told you otherwise.  Most women can carry on bonking until their water breaks or they go into labour!

How different is sex during pregnancy?

As your body changes, sex will be different. During pregnancy, your blood volume increases by about 40%. That not only swells your breast, but it also heightens sensitivity throughout all your erogenous zones. And that can mean more intense, even multiple, orgasms.

You’ll find your sex drive changes through your pregnancy – potentially disappearing in your first trimester when you’re tired and nauseate; getting livelier in your second trimester when high levels of hormones can send your libido through the stratosphere; then tapering off as your due date approaches and you feel achy, unwielding, and maybe even nervous about impending parenthood.

Will it hurt the baby?

This is undoubtedly the biggest wet blanket – the fear of hurting the baby. Research shows that somewhere between 50 and 80% of women worry about it. Dads do too. Let’s make this clear – sex doesn’t hurt the baby. The amniotic sac and muscles of the uterus and the mucus plug that seals the cervix protects against infection.

Don’t worry – the penis doesn’t go beyond the vagina so it won’t reach the baby. The baby is in the womb, up through the cervix. There’s no chance of it harming the baby.

Can sex during pregnancy cause a miscarriage?

Another massive fear is that sex will cause miscarriage. Sex doesn’t cause miscarriage. Even if your partner is well endowed, his penis will never reach the baby because the baby isn’t in the vagina. The baby is cocooned away in its own little impenetrable vault, within the strong walls of the uterus, behind the cervix and well cushioned by amniotic fluid.

I’ve had a low sex drive – is this normal?

There’s lots of individual experiences when it comes to sexual desire during pregnancy. Some women have heightened libido throughout pregnancy, others are less interested in sex. Both are normal. Your body is going through a lot of changes, both physically and hormonal changes. These play havoc with your libido.

The first couple of months of pregnancy can be very difficult for some women as it leads to tiredness, nausea, and irritability. In the second trimester, the libido returns as these symptoms decrease!

Communication is key. Communicate with your partner, reassure him that you’re still in love – you’ll find your partner will be understanding, you’re embarking on a wonderful journey together. Try to enjoy it!

What about my partners sex drive?

Since your partner might become anxious and doesn’t want to hurt you or the baby, pregnancy often makes him uncomfortable with intercourse. He will find you more attractive as you get curvier day by day.

The best thing to do here, is attend pre-natal appointments together, so he can be reassured by a professional.

Again – communicate. Talk freely with your partner and tell him your feelings. There are other ways to enjoy each other if you’re both not ready for sex.

Is oral sex safe?
 
Yes. Oral sex is safe. Again, due to those hormone changes, it’s normal for you to have a change in smell or taste down there during pregnancy. There’s elevated PH levels in your vagina – this can result in bouts of thrush, bacterial vaginosis and a change in your discharge (we’re sorry, that isn’t the perfect dirty talk you’ve been looking for!)

Chat to your midwife if you’ve got any of those problems.

You could use some flavoured lubricant to make the experience more pleasurable.

Can sex trigger labour?

There is no harm in giving it a go. There is no proof that it works! Semen contains a chemical called prostaglandins – which can induce labour, and orgasms are a good way to increase activity down below. But there’s no guarantee. (But you’ll have fun trying to induce labour!)

Are sex toys safe?
 
The short answer? Yes, of course! Rarely is anything sex-related off limits during pregnancy! Even rough intercourse while your pregnant is OK as long as you’re smart and safe about it.

But sex toys definitely get a green light since, for most of the part, they’re just synthetic versions of the real thing. Some couples find that they enjoy sex toys even more than before, the increased blood flood to genitals, along with hormonal changes, can make orgasms with a sex toy more intense.

If you’re worried about penetration, that’s understandable, but your sex toys aren’t going to be a problem. It’s fine avoid deep penetration with a sex toy but your placenta, cervix and baby are well protected. Your partner thrusting inside you is safe – then so is your sex toy!
A vibrator may be your toy of choice – that’s totally safe too! Using a vibrator on your clitoris? Absolutely safe.

It is important to consider a few things. While the act of using the toy is safe on your body and baby, there are some precautions you can take to keep yourself even safer!

1.       Clean your toys

We mean thoroughly. Clean it before and after you use it, just to keep any bacteria from entering your vagina and causing an infection. Clean with warm, soapy water, rinse and dry them careful and then store them in a clean place. You can use our toy cleaner to make this even easier!

2.       Don’t switch from vaginal to anal

If you use a toy for anal stimulation or penetration – then this is strictly an anal only toy! No matter how well you clean your sex toy – that bacteria can still be there and potentially cause an infection.

3.       Treat it like regular pregnancy sex

The same rules on sex while pregnant apply to using sex toys while pregnant. If you’re bleeding, your cervix is probably just a little irritated and nothing to worry about unless it’s accompanied with cramps or gets heavier. It’s totally safe to orgasm while using sex toys, and any position is fair game, as long as you’re comfortable. Always check with your midwife or health professional if you’re unsure.

Do vibrations hurt the baby?

No! The baby is protected by the amniotic fluid. The baby has no idea what’s going on and definitely won’t remember any of it!

What sex positions are best?

It’s a lot of fun trying different positions whilst pregnant to see which are best and most comfortable. The trick is finding positions that work well round your growing belly, and don’t put pressure on your back and abdomen.

The truth is – everyone is different. Pregnancy is a personal journey. You and your partner should work together to find sexual positions and levels of intimacy that you’re both happy with.

Always remember: When pregnant, you should do everything in moderation, including sex and sex toy use. Just about anything that feels good for you is safe for the baby, as long as your midwife has given you the go ahead. Don’t worry that the baby is “watching” – while your baby might enjoy uterine contractions during orgasm, he or she can’t see what you’re doing and definitely won’t remember it.

This information is not intended to replace the advice of a trained medical professional, the health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Always seek the direct advice of your own midwife in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.