As 2019 draws to a close we look back nostalgically on what a fun and flirtatious year it has been in the world of Pulse and Cocktails. We wonder what all our lovely and loyal customers have been getting up to this year, and after analyzing our statistics one thing we do know is this kinky nation has been spending the past year getting freaky in the bedroom!
This year has been booming around all things bondage as more people open their eyes (and legs) to the wonderful world of fetish, bondage and all things kink. We love keeping the UK population stocked up on their favorite fetish wear, bondage and sex essentials but most of all we love making sure everyone’s sex stays exciting!
After years of parents, children’s charities, politicians and various other social bodies voicing concern about how easy it is for children to access adult films and content online, new laws are now being put in place to help protect minors from being able to access it. The vast majority of minors are not yet equipped with the life experience to understand adult content in its proper context (“these performers are professionals, don’t try this at home people”), the Government has realised it cannot kick this issue into the long-grass anymore and has finally decided to take action.
Designed to ensure that adequate safeguards are in place to prevent under-18s from being able to freely watch pornography on the internet, the Digital Economy Act 2017 (Part 3) comes into effect this year. (Reference 1)
If you’re reading this and thinking this new law doesn’t affect you because you’re over 18, you’re wrong.
This piece of legislation will change the way that everyone in the UK who uses the internet to watch adult films continues to watch them. Including the 359% rise in female watchers too.
Have you ever wondered where it all started? Who was the first person to use a foreign body for sexual stimulation?
What is it that first started the sexual revolution that has progressed to this huge profusion of sex toys stimulators and pleasures that we have today. What was the first ever dildo?
Well, as far as we know it all started in 26,000 BC with an eight inch long stone dildo discovered in the famous Hohle Fels Cave in Germany. This phallic shaped sculpture is thought very likely to have been used as a sex aid by its Ice Age makers. Humans might not have been able to read or have known how to write, but we knew how to have sex! Needless to say, we’ve come a long way since then!
Have you ever found yourself getting turned on by watching a sex scene in a movie, or perhaps an erotic music video? We all have! Becoming aroused watching other people enjoy the pleasures of sex (and everything that comes with it), is completely natural and normal. Here at Pulse and Cocktails, we are on a mission to break the taboo around women watching pornography. Adult content is not just for men to watch and there are lots of benefits for both sexes by watching.
Read on further to discover tips on all the advantages of watching pornography and how it can improve your sex life.
We think this throbbing rechargeable rabbit
is one of the most incredible rabbits ever! It has 3 powerful motors to give internal, clitoral and G-Spot stimulation simultaneously. It’s quiet and splash proof!
This luxury egg is wireless, multi-speed, rechargeable and remote controlled! Remove the restrictions that wires give you – and enjoy, what we think, is an ideal couples toy. Many couples choose to use this outside their home – why not have some fun this bank holiday weekend?
You’re a chocolate lover – so why not merge your two loves this bank holiday and get your lover all lathered in scrumming chocolate and lick it all off? This tasty choc body paint is sure to be plenty of fun and can help revive the spark in a long-term relationship.
If you’re looking for an Easter Egg that won’t add to your waistline – why not try our Triple Eggs (jiggle balls). They give incredible internal sensations but they are great at toning your pelvic floor muscles too.
Maybe you’re going away this bank holiday, take along something a little extra to make your trip even more exciting. Ideal for beginners who are new to BDSM!
Whatever you’re looking for this bank holiday – with our Click and Collect service, you can collect your gift over the bank holiday period from any of our stores!! Why don’t you see if you’re in our hot zone and find your nearest store?
A giant, inflatable, pink blow-up sex toy, hovering in the air, is what your eyes first meet when you walk into one Cheltenham adult shop.
From the outside, Pulse and Cocktails is a part of a collection of small shops based at the Kingsditch Industrial Estate – but hidden inside are shelves of artificial vaginas, gimp masks with their eyes zipped shut and a busty, blonde sex doll worth nearly £3,000.
Regardless of the more open attitude to sex in recent years, for most people, it’s an awkward place to be.
Except for the small chain’s employees, who I watch re-arranging pornographic DVDs and tidying up a display of vibrators without batting an eyelid. To them, it’s all part of the furniture.
Reading my mind, sales assistant Rebecca Logue said: “I think it’s quite a chilled out atmosphere for us, which is good for the customers. We are relaxed and so when they come in the door it makes it far easier.
“In my opinion there is nothing in the main room that’s overtly scary.”
There are two rooms at Pulse and Cocktails, the front one is where you will find lingerie, spanking paddles and one of their best sellers, herbal viagra.
In the back is where the erotic fiction is kept, alongside hardcore films about sexy nannies and horny young men – and of course the aforementioned life-sized inflatable doll – which is protected in a large see through case.
The overwhelming success of the Fifty Shades of Grey book and film franchise has commercialised sexual fetishes.
Regardless of its questionable representation of BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission), in 2012 there was a 400% increase in sex toy purchases and it soon became commonplace to see copies of the risque book being read by people in public, with no embarrassment.
For Rebecca, removing the taboo is important.
“It still shocks me a little bit that in this day and age that there are still women that don’t know about their bodies,” she explains. “It’s the very simple thing of being able to serve one of the most basic human impulses.
“That’s what I enjoy most about my job, that I help people. Some people can be in a position where they haven’t been able to explore their sexuality and suddenly they are able to discover different sensations and what opportunities there are within their own body.
“When the first film came out, the increase in female footfall was phenomenal. Suddenly couples felt more comfortable talking about their fantasies and desires.
“As a whole, it’s done huge things for our industry, and taken away a stigma about what we do.”
The typical customer at Pulse and Cocktails doesn’t exist. Although they largely have male customers, ages range from 18 to 91, and also includes disabled people with carers.
Rebecca says: “Being able to answer questions, give advice and let people know that their not alone in how they feel – it’s a really good feeling knowing that I can help. I go home feeling really satisfied.”
“The hardest bit for everyone is coming through the door because they don’t know what to expect. Some are embarrassed but you read the situation and individual. It’s not about what you say, it’s how you act. We will just smile, ask how the weather is or make a joke – like any other shop.
“We are all trained here to be able to read body language, and to know if a customer wants to shop alone or with our support.
“Nine times out of ten people will share those deepest, darkest feelings with us. It’s an honour.
“That’s why it is so important to have a sense of humour and a personality in this job.”
Despite the fact the majority of their customers are male, Rebecca believes that men are not encouraged enough when it comes to sex toys, and it’s a problem.
“It is actually easier for a woman to buy a sex toy,” she says, “It is a taboo for men to come in and buy a sex toy because they are pre-programmed by society to believe that they should always get an erection at the drop of a hat and to be horny 24/7 – or else they’re less of a man.
With herbal afrodisiacs, men will claim they’re buying it for a mate’s stag or for a joke, but once they realise that it is used to enhance what they have and that we offer a sympathetic ear, they open up and end up with the right product.”
There are some places in the world which are pretty liberated when it comes to sex, such as Amsterdam, Las Vegas, Thailand and even England!
There are also places which you would expect to have more conservative laws. India for example, where sex toys are illegal and come with a jail term of 2-5 years.
Wherever you are in the world, legislation often doesn’t keep up with public behaviour. You may find yourself in a very awkward position, even if you weren’t in one to start with!
Here are some weird and wonderful bylaws from around the world, still legal today:
In London, having sex on a parked motorcycle is illegal.
In China, a woman may be naked only while in the bathroom. Not in a hotel room.
In Nepal, Bangladesh and Macao it is against the law to view movies containing kisses by actors from these three countries or any simulated lovemaking by anyone or the pubic area of men and women.
In Guam there are some men with the (enviable?) full-time job to deflower young virgins whilst travelling around the countryside, at a price. According to Guam law, virgins are not allowed to get married.
In Hong Kong, women are legally allowed to kill their adulterous husband, but only with their bare hands. The lover may be killed in any manner they wish.
In Oxford, Ohio, it’s illegal for a woman to stand in front of a man’s picture and take off her clothing.
In Washington, D.C., the missionary position is the only acceptable sexual position. All other sexual positions are illegal.
Nevada legislature prevents members of the legality from conducting official business wearing a penis costume while the legislature is in session.
In Liverpool, England, Women be topless whilst selling products but only if they are in a tropical fish shop.
In Connorsville, Wisconsin, it’s illegal for a man to fire a gun when his female partner is orgasming.
In Birmingham, England, it is illegal for a man and woman to have sex “on the steps of any church after the sun goes down”
In Alexandria, Minnesota, no man is allowed to have sex with his wife if he has the smell of garlic, onions, or sardines on his breath. If his wife so requests, law mandates that he must brush his teeth.
In Cleveland, Ohio, women aren’t allowed to wear shiny patent-leather shoes in case a man looking down see’s the reflection of her private parts.
In Sioux Falls, South Dakota, requires hotels to have twin beds in every room. If a couple rents a room for only one night there must be at least two feet between the beds. It is also illegal to have sex on the floor between the beds.
Do you know of any weird sex bylaws? Let us know in the comments below!
Ever wondered about the statistics on vibrator use? How many people use them? Where are they most popular? Are they mostly for single women?
There have been various theories and beliefs about vibrators over the years, but a few surveys have been carried out by universities, sex toy companies, and researchers. These are just some of the interesting results:
According to a study in 2009 carried out at Indiana University, around 50% of people reported that they had used a sex toy, 52% of these were women, so there were nearly the same amount of men! Previous studies back up these results, one finding that 33% of women and only 20% of men had used the sex toy. Another showed 24% – 21% respectively.
Hopefully this will dispel the common myth that vibrators and other sex toys are just for women!Read more…