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Sexy Christmas Gift Guide for Adults

Give someone the gift of better sex this year and read our top 30 kinky Christmas gift ideas below that will have you put on Santa’s naughty list.

Whether you’re buying for your lover, friend or yourself (you deserve it!), we’ve got you covered with our adult gift guide below. Sex toys are the perfect gift to give someone special, after all, who wouldn’t be happy with a 30-speed vibrator that gives you multiple orgasms (personally, I can’t think of anything better to receive). So ditch the boring socks this year and give the gift of excitement.

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Why adult gifts make the perfect presents

Sex toys and naughty adult presents really are the gifts that keep on giving… and giving. Not only are these gift ideas sexy they’re also the perfect way to share a giggle with loved ones on Christmas morning and beyond, (okay, maybe not 90-year-old aunt Jean, but everyone else). Getting your partner a sexy gift for Christmas is guaranteed to heat up the bedroom when it’s cold outside and you get to share all the fun with them!

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Bondage and BDSM for beginners – Tips on soft to advanced bondage

Have you fantasized about being tied up and spanked? Well if you haven’t, maybe it’s time you started…

The thought of bondage may make you feel like a sex goddess, or want to hide in a corner – but there’s really nothing to be scared of.

What is Bondage?

Essentially bondage refers to a sexual play that involves consensually restraining a partner for sexual pleasure – but really it is so much more! Not only is bondage an exciting way to become kinkier in the bedroom, it is also about building trust and openness in your relationship.

Beginners guide to Bondage guide woman with leather whip

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8 Sexual BDSM Role-Play Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Let’s talk about BDSM and role-play – It seems as a nation we just can’t get enough! In a recent poll done by Marie Claire, 85% of you confessed to engaging in some form of light BDSM or bondage. Whether it’s blindfolds or ball gags you’re certainly getting your KINK on in the bedroom. In this blog, we’ll uncover what BDSM stands for, and give you 8 kinky role-playing ideas inspired by BDSM to take your sex life to the next level.

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Are you new to bondage and BDSM? We recommend reading our beginners guide to bondage to find out how you can turn your freak O’meter up a notch. Turn that vanilla sex frown upside down and spank them.

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The Beginners Guide to Vibrators

What is a vibrator?

So, what are these vibrating gadgets that have been providing women and men worldwide with unlimited pleasure for so long? Vibrators are simply sex toys that vibrate, they can be used as a personal massager and for sexual stimulation. Vibrators come in all different shapes, sizes and styles, although often seen as sex toys for women, men can also get pleasure from vibrators.

Beginners guide to vibrators

Beginners guide to choosing your first vibrator

With so many different vibrators to choose from, here at Pulse and Cocktails we understand that finding the perfect vibrator can appear a daunting task. Doing your homework is essential, so that’s why we have created this user-friendly guide – vibrators for beginners, to help you pick your first vibrator with us (or if you’re already equipped with a vibrator or two, helping you delve further into new territory!). You can use this guide to help decide which shape, style, size and even girth will maximise your pleasure senses. With over half of all women worldwide now admitting to using a vibrator, there’s got to be something special about our favourite vibrating friends!

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How to Clean Your Sex Toys with Toy Cleaner

It’s time to extend your spring clean to your favourite adult toys. With 48% of the UK’s population owning a sex toy, we’ve pulled together this complete guide to make sure your favourite adult toys are taken care of; after all, they take great care of us.

When you should clean your sex toys

You should clean your toys before and after use, it only takes a few minutes and not only will it help keep your toys hygienic, it’ll make sure you can enjoy your toys again and again.

The benefits of cleaning your sex toys

It is very important to keep your toys clean for a number of reasons:

1. It ensures your toys last for longer! Who doesn’t love that?

2. It removes the build-up of bacteria on the toy, reducing the risk of a yeast or bacterial infection making them safe to play with.

How to clean your vibrator sex toys

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Choosing the right Male Masturbator

Choosing a male masturbator can seem like a difficult task, but sex toys most definitely aren’t just for women. Whether you enjoy masturbating to an adult movie or just want to see what a realistic vagina masturbator feels like, our Male Masturbator guide will set you on the right path. As the old adage goes “ninety percent of men admit to masturbating while the other ten percent are liars”.

Sometimes you just need to take matters into your own hands (literally) and enjoy a solo session. After all, women have their dildos now guys now have their portable male masturbators and realistic fake vaginas to indulge in. Masturbators have been a total game changer in the art of male pleasure, with some men claiming to have to limit their use because they feel so good. Male strokers can be used by both straight and gay guys, and there’s something to tickle everyone’s fancy whether you prefer vagina, ass or mouth penetration replication.

Who says women have all the fun?

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A Beginners Guide to Anal Sex

The words ‘anal sex’ might have you cringing. Many people see it as a taboo. Others see it as an act of trust, love and closeness. Anal play has been having its moment of the last couple of years, we have seen the number of anal sex toys sold increase. More and more couples are trying it.

Think only gay men enjoy anal play? Then you’re a little bit behind the times. Whilst it’s true that men have the advantage of having a prostate, which feels incredible when stimulated, but many women enjoy anal play to. That’s because the anus is richly endowed with a body of nerve endings, these nerve endings are crying out to be teased and stimulated!

 

Safety always comes first

Everyone likes surprises and everyone likes sex – so you’re thinking of combining the two! DON’T. ‘Sticking it in’ is a sure-fire way to put people off anal for life. Talk about it first. It might be something new to the other person or maybe they’ve been thinking about asking you. Make sure you’re both in agreement that it’s something you want to try, and it’s not one person doing it to please the other!

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The Beginners Guide to Dildos

Whether you’re looking for something firm, squeezable, or outright floppy – there is a huge variety of dildos to pick from: jelly dildos, rubber dildos, vibrating dildos, silicone dildos, glass dildos, strap-on dildos; some realistic, others the invention of wishful thinking (I’m referring to size here, great big whoppers mainly).

 

beginners guide to dildo sex toys

 

The very fact that the dildo can come in virtually any colour, shape or size goes a long way to explaining why this old classic has never gone out of style, even after the vibrator came on the scene, and still manages to keep the most adventurous of toy users satisfied.

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Penis Vacuum Pumps Guide

Over the years, many men have discovered that a penis pump is a great way to enhance their penis very quickly. Not only does it offer instant results, but it can also address problems involving erectile dysfunction.

A lot of the customers who come into our stores do so after NHS health professionals have advised them to try a penis pump.

We think penis pumps are just what’s needed to give you instant growth and are a great way to maintain a strong, prolonged erection regardless of whether you use it to build yourself up for sex or for solo play. We get asked a lot of questions in our stores about penis pumps, so welcome to our handy penis pump guide!

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Lube – The Lowdown


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Poor old lube, wrongly convicted by the court of public opinion; often mistakenly thought of as an older person’s necessity or solely a sex-aid for anal sex, nothing could be further from the truth. Let the appeal process commence!

By the end of this article, any stigma surrounding lube will be shown to be grossly unfounded as its benefits as an essential bedroom accessory gets proven beyond reasonable doubt, regardless of whether you’re 18 or in your 80’s.

One mis-truth our staff members often hear from customers is “if you’re good at it, you shouldn’t need it”. Sorry Joe-public, and an extra-special sorry to our valued customers, but you’re talking rubbish. Utter rubbish. When it comes to sex, lube makes everything better … except kissing (we’ll concede that point).

Little fact: women, including young women, aren’t always wet. And no, it isn’t because you’re not doing it right or something’s wrong. We’ll spare you the verse-and-chapter sex-ed lesson and skip straight to the bit where they tell you it’s completely natural and is all to do with women’s bodies and their different times of the month. So relax, it’s time to get your head around all things lube.

Lube is not some remedy for a so-called problem, but a gift from the sex-gods to help us enhance what is already bloody brilliant! Being well-oiled feels great for both parties. For guys, it can intensify pleasure without making you climax any quicker than normal, not to mention it prevents damage to your pecker! For women, it makes the experience more comfortable and thus, pleasurable, meaning you can relax and enjoy it more. The simple added ingredient of a liquid lubricant can add a whole new level of pleasure to your sexual experience, and that’s before the any specially formulated sensation/flavoured lube is bought into this equation.

We know it can be quite confusing if you’re new to using lubricant, you’ll be in your local adult store at their lube display and all you see is different varieties with very little or no information telling you what the differences between each lube are, it’s tough to know which lube will be suitable for your needs.

With these needs in mind, it only makes sense we start at the beginning.

What is lube?

A lubricant is any substance that helps to reduce friction, it’s highly likely you’re already using some form of lubrication on bike chains and squeaky doors so even if you haven’t used lubricant for sexual purposes, you’re familiar with the general gist.

Personal lubricants obviously contain vastly different ingredients to the industrial kind (we’re not suggesting you grab your WD40) but the idea is the same, to reduce friction.

But I’m young – why do I need lube?

A lot of people think lube is only intended for older people who produce less natural vaginal moisture because of hormonal changes which comes with ageing. This is one of the biggest myths around.

Argh!! Why is there so many lubes on the market?

Think of lubes like vibrators, different lubes have different features so they offer the user different benefits, just like vibrators with different features will offer different benefits.

As we all know, people’s sexual desires are as varied as their music collections, so naturally people are going to want different things from their lube, which is why there is a healthy selection to choose from.

Some will just need to increase vaginal moisture, others will want to apply some to their sex-toy(s) so it can glide over their intimate areas (or slide in ‘n’ out without incurring any discomfort due to the nature of the toy’s material). Some will want to make their bits taste a certain flavour, improving oral-sex for both giver and receiver. For others it’s a prerequisite, if you’re going to partake in anal-sex lubrication is much more than an accessory, it’s a necessity. No if’s, no butt’s, no shortcuts, no substitutions; the back-side doesn’t produce any natural lubrication, so if you want to avoid serious injury; lube up (both of you!).

Lube comes in either a thin liquid or a thicker gel-like texture. Each style of lubrication has a different base-ingredient, it is this base-ingredient that determines the texture of the lube.

Standard types of lube: the main players

1. Water based lube

Water-based lubrication is the most common type of lubricant and for good reason. Because it’s water-based, any remaining lube-residue is easy to clean up (we’re talking bed-sheets and rocking chairs people) and as water is one of nature’s most natural ingredients it’s compatible with every type of adult toy available – silicone, all varieties of rubber (inc. TPR, skin-like/cyber/real-feel material), jelly, glass, metal etc.

Water-based lubes can also be used with condoms without causing the condom to rip or tear.

To sum up, water-based lube is suitable for every conceivable sex-based activity you’re thinking of doing: masturbating (with your hand or with a toy), intercourse (vaginal and anal), even oral (though make sure it’s the flavoured kind, more on that further down).

2. Silicone based lube

Silicone is a material which is made from alternative chains of silicon and oxygen atoms, it can come in many different forms including rubber, resin and oil. Its liquid form is especially effective when used as the main ingredient in a lubricant, hence why it is now a popular form of lube.

Why is it so great? Next time you’re in a shop that sells both water-based and silicone-based lubricant, give both bottles a gentle shake and you’ll notice the silicone lube moves more freely as it’s thinner than water-based lube and is normally more silky smooth too.

Many advocates of silicone-based lube say its best feature is it lasts longer than most water-based lubricants, meaning more bang for your buck.

Silicone is also hypoallergenic so it’s ideal for users who have sensitive skin or allergies. Like water-based lube, it’s latex friendly (meaning it’s condom friendly) and is great for water-play, unlike water-based lubes it doesn’t wash away quite as quickly.

The only chink in silicone-based lube’s armour is it’s not compatible with sex-toys made from the following materials: silicone and certain types of rubber (TPR, skin-like/cyber/real-feel). If you use a silicone-based lube with a toy made of these materials, don’t be surprised if your toy starts to depreciate quite rapidly, even the expensive luxury toys.

3. Oil based lubes

Petroleum (or petrolatum) based, oil-based lubes are long lasting.

We’re not going to lie, this is the least popular type of lube. Not only will it ruin latex (so clearly using it with condoms is a gamble), it’s not recommended for vaginal intercourse as it can mess with the chemistry down there.

Technically it can be used for anal sex but as previously mentioned it’s incompatible with condoms, so using it for this purpose is only possible if the anal-sex is bareback (ie. without a condom) and we at Pulse & Cocktails strongly recommend you never engage in anal-sex without a condom, no matter how much bareback anal-sex you’ve watched in porn movies … and yes, even if you douche!

The specialist lubes: the supporting cast

4. Flavoured lubes

Mint, strawberry, tropical passion, cherry. Just some of the mouth-watering flavours available from Pulse & Cocktails.

Flavoured lubes are water-based, so sure you can use it with your toys (regardless of the toy’s material) but why waste the yummyness on a toy … unless that toy is your partner’s joystick or landing strip.

Flavoured lubes are great for spicing up oral sex; apply some (not too much, even chocolate gets sickly after a while) to your partner’s bits and then simply chow-down like never before, kissing, licking, sucking, slurping, all the while salivating over the delicious flavour swirling round your mouth whilst the lucky recipient salivates over getting some mind-blowing oral-relief.

Hotly recommended.

5. Tingle lube

The Sambuca of the lube world. Tingle lube divides opinion: some love it, others aren’t so keen.

Designed to enhance stimulation when applied to your body’s most sensitive areas (basically your intimate bits), it produces a tingly sensation other lubes don’t produce.

How intense the tingle is varies from user to user, some find it too mild, some feel it’s too intense, happily many users consider it to be just the right strength and say it enhances their orgasms (both the build-up and the climatic moment itself).

If trying a tingle lube for the first time it’s a wise idea to just apply one or two drops, if you feel the sensation is too intense for your nether regions then don’t apply anymore and wash off what lube you’ve already applied.

As for the lube, give it to a friend, chances are their body will respond to it in the desired way.

6. Anal lube

Throughout this article we’ve been stressing the importance of using lube for your sexual activities and with good reason, it does genuinely enhance your pleasure (toy or no toy) even if your body produces a sufficient amount of natural lubrication.

But when it comes to anal-sex we don’t recommend you use lube, we insist, nay, we ORDER you to use lube. Attempting to have anal-sex without lube will not only cause the receiver (the person being penetrated) acute discomfort, they risk damaging their anal tissue due to the anus being incapable of producing its own natural lubrication, unlike the vagina. Hence, lube being a necessity.

Another prerequisite for enjoyable anal-sex is getting those anal muscles to relax (the sphincter) and be receptive towards what action the body is attempting. This is where a dedicated anal lube comes to the fore, by having a special relaxant blended into its recipe not only will it provide as much slippery moisture as your average water-based lubricant, it will also perform the crucial task of putting the sphincter into a relaxed state, primed for being penetrated with minimal fuss and maximum enjoyment (for both parties).

OK – I get it, lube is important! Can’t I just use Vaseline or Baby Oil?

Not all lubes are created equal. A perfect lube should be slippery, safe for the skin tissue, long lasting and shouldn’t increase the risk of vaginal infections (or any sort of infection).

Vaseline was not created to be used as a lubricant. So, no, Vaseline is not a great idea. It isn’t slippery enough – which means it’ll make things very sticky (yes, more sticky than some water-based lubes). It’ll be very messy and hard to get off. Plus, using Vaseline can also put you at risk of a bacterial infection and break down the latex in condoms! Vaseline isn’t a smart choice.

Baby Oil might be something you regularly stock at home but there’s a reason no adult store follows suit: it’s not a good lubricant. There are many cons to using baby oil. Firstly, the oil harbors bacteria and promotes the growth of yeast in the vagina. Like Vaseline, Baby Oil destroys latex (condom-friendly it ain’t). It also destroys rubber or polyurethane, meaning it’s not sex-toy friendly either. It also makes the post-sex clean up harder than it needs to be, staining most fabrics.

Some statistics show that women who use Vaseline and /or Baby Oil as a lubricant have a 50% higher chance of having frequent yeast infections or contracting bacterial vaginosis. Since both of these can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease you can see why neither Vaseline or Baby Oil should NEVER be used inside a vagina. All of the above pretty much rules out it being suitable to use as a lubricant, both vaginally and anally. It really isn’t worth the risk, don’t damage your health (or your toys).

How do I apply lube?

Don’t overthink it – it’s really simple. Start with a pea sized amount of lube and apply it onto yourself, your partner or your favorite sex toy.

Remember lube is cold, so make sure you place it on your hands first. It can be applied before or during intercourse (applying some during intercourse can be part of the fun).

It isn’t a onetime thing – reapply as you go along, just work it into foreplay and use it as another way to touch each other (as if you crazy kids needed an excuse).

How do I use lube for anal sex?

Whether you’re someone who is experienced in anal sex or you’re a beginner, our top tip: start slowly, gently, and don’t be shy; apply a healthy amount of lube to the receiver’s anus in addition to the penis that’s about to penetrate it.

As previously mentioned, unlike the vagina, the anus cannot self-lubricate so it needs plenty of lube to keep things moist, pleasurable and assist the receiver in allowing their anal-muscles to relax. If anal-sex is going to be something you’re doing regularly, apart from the person lying beside you, lube is your best friend.

Many who partake in anal-sex prefer to use a dedicated anal lubricant as they’re specially formulated with a relaxant, enabling the receiver to relax their anal-muscles easier than if they were using a standard lube.

Can I use lube for oral sex?

Hell yeah! It’s why flavoured lube was invented! Pour some on his penis/her clit and then treat your partner to an oral masterclass.

We hope our quick Q&A about lube helped you out. Head over to our full range of lube to see what we have on offer!