5 Common Myths About Strap-On Play (Busted!)

Let’s be real for a moment.

Strap-ons have been surrounded by a lot of misinformation over the years. Whispered assumptions. Awkward jokes. Outdated ideas that should’ve stayed firmly in the past.

So if you’ve ever felt curious and hesitant at the same time, chances are one of these myths was sitting quietly in the back of your mind.

Let’s clear the air.

Myth 1: “Strap-Ons Are Only for Certain Types of People”

Nope. Absolutely not.

Strap-ons aren’t reserved for any specific gender, sexuality, or relationship structure. People of all identities and orientations use them — solo, partnered, casually, or in long-term relationships.

Using a strap-on doesn’t label you.
It doesn’t “say something” about you.
It just says you’re open to pleasure and exploration.

And honestly? That’s a good thing.

Myth 2: “Strap-On Play Is All About Power or Dominance”

Sometimes it is. Sometimes it isn’t.

While some people enjoy strap-ons as part of power play or role reversal, many others use them simply for:

• Physical pleasure
• Connection
• Intimacy
• Trying something new

Strap-on play can be gentle, playful, slow, romantic, or deeply emotional. It doesn’t have to involve dominance unless you want it to.

Myth 3: “You Have to Be Good at Thrusting”

This one causes more nerves than it deserves.

No one puts on a harness for the first time and instantly becomes a strap-on expert. And guess what? That’s completely fine.

Good strap-on sex is about:

• Communication
• Listening to feedback
• Adjusting pace and depth
• Being present

It’s not about athletic performance or perfect technique. Confidence grows with time — not pressure.

Myth 4: “Bigger Is Better”

Let’s retire this myth for good.

When it comes to strap-ons, especially for beginners, bigger is rarely better. Comfort, control, and enjoyment matter far more than size.

Many people actually prefer:

• Smaller or medium sizes
• A shape that feels comfortable
• Something easy to manoeuvre

There’s nothing impressive about discomfort. Pleasure always wins.

Myth 5: “Strap-On Play Is Awkward or Unsexy”

Is it sometimes awkward?
Yes.
Is that a bad thing?
Not at all.

Trying something new often comes with laughter, pauses, adjustments, and the occasional “hang on, let me fix this strap.”

That awkwardness usually fades quickly — and what replaces it is:

• Trust
• Shared vulnerability
• Intimacy
• A whole lot of fun

Sexy doesn’t mean polished. Sexy means present.

Bonus Myth: “If You’re Curious, You Must Be Unsatisfied”

Curiosity doesn’t mean something is missing.

It means you’re human.

People explore strap-ons in happy, fulfilling relationships all the time. Wanting to try something new isn’t a sign of a problem — it’s often a sign of trust and comfort.

Final Thoughts: Curiosity Isn’t Something to Explain Away

Strap-on play doesn’t need defending, justifying, or overthinking.

If you’re interested:

• You’re not weird 
• You’re not alone
• You’re not “late”

You’re simply curious — and that’s a powerful place to be.