Strap-On 101: Everything You Need to Know Before You Strap In

So, you’re curious about strap-ons.

Maybe you’ve seen them pop up in conversations about pegging.
Maybe a partner suggested trying one.
Or maybe you were just scrolling, minding your business… and suddenly realised you had questions.

Good news: curiosity is normal, strap-ons are way more common than people think, and there’s absolutely no “right” or “wrong” reason to want one.

Let’s break it all down — no awkwardness, no assumptions, no judgement.

What Is a Strap-On, Anyway?

A strap-on is exactly what it sounds like: a wearable sex toy designed to be strapped to the body, allowing the wearer to penetrate a partner (or sometimes use it solo).

Most strap-ons are made up of two main parts:

• A harness (the bit you wear)
• A dildo (the bit that does the penetrating)

Some come as complete sets, while others let you mix and match pieces to suit your body, comfort level, and preferences.

Why Do People Use Strap-Ons?

Short answer? Because they’re fun, empowering, and versatile.

• Longer answer? Strap-ons can be used for:
• Pegging and prostate play
• Exploring power dynamics or role reversal
• Adding penetration where a penis isn’t involved — or isn’t cooperating
• Trying something new together (hello, novelty!)
• Pleasure, intimacy, and confidence-building
• And no, using a strap-on doesn’t “mean” anything about your gender, sexuality, or relationship unless you want it to. It’s a tool for pleasure — nothing more, nothing less.

Strap-On Sets vs Building Your Own

Strap-On Sets

Perfect for beginners, strap-on sets usually include a harness and at least one dildo that are already compatible.

Why people love them:

• Easy starting point
• No guesswork about fit
• Often more budget-friendly

Great if you want to unwrap, strap in, and get going.

Build-Your-Own Setups

More experienced users often prefer choosing each part separately.

Why?

• More control over size, shape, and material
• Ability to swap dildos as confidence grows
• Better long-term versatility

Neither option is “better” — it’s about what feels right for you.

Harnesses: The Unsung Hero

If the dildo is the star of the show, the harness is the stage holding it all together.

A good harness should feel:

• Secure
• Comfortable
• Adjustable
• Supportive (without digging in)

Common Harness Styles

Strap-Style / Jock Harnesses
Highly adjustable and very secure. Brilliant if you want stability and control.

Brief or Underwear-Style Harnesses
Look and feel like underwear. Often less intimidating and easy to slip on, especially for first-timers.

Tip: If you’re between sizes or sharing with a partner, adjustable straps are your best friend.

Strap-On Dildos: What to Look For

Choosing a dildo for strap-on play is slightly different than choosing one for solo use.

Things to consider:

Size

Bigger isn’t better — especially at the start.
Many people enjoy starting smaller and working up once confidence and comfort build.

Firmness

Medium-firm dildos tend to offer more control and easier thrusting than very soft ones.

Base Style

For harness use, look for:

• Flared bases
• Suction-cup bases
• “Ball” style bases

These sit securely in the harness and help prevent slipping mid-moment (because no one wants that).

What About Hollow Strap-Ons?

Hollow strap-ons (or hollow dildos) have space inside and are designed to be worn over a penis or used as part of a harness setup.

They’re often used by people who:

• Want penetrative sex without relying on an erection
• Enjoy the sensation of being enveloped
• Want a different experience than solid dildos provide

Fit and comfort matter more here, so choosing the right internal size and soft materials is key.

First-Time Tips for Strap-On Play

If this is your first time, a little prep goes a long way.

• Talk first — consent and communication are incredibly sexy
• Use plenty of lube (more than you think you need)
• Start slow and let the receiver guide depth and pace
• Try positions where the receiver has control
• Laugh if things feel awkward — it’s part of learning

No one straps it on and becomes a pro instantly. Confidence grows with experience.

Cleaning & Care (Unsexy But Essential)

A clean strap-on is a happy strap-on.

General basics:

• Clean after every use
• Use warm water and mild, unscented soap or toy cleaner
• Remove the dildo from the harness when cleaning
• Wash fabric harnesses according to care instructions

Good hygiene keeps play safe, comfy, and stress-free.

Final Thoughts: There’s No “Right Way” to Strap On

Strap-ons aren’t about performance.
They’re about exploration, connection, and pleasure — whatever that looks like for you.

Whether you’re curious, committed, or somewhere in between, the best strap-on experience comes from:

• Open communication
• A sense of humour
• A willingness to learn together

And honestly? That’s pretty hot.