The P-spot and prostate massagers – what’s all the fuss about?


If you are reading this blog post, and are male then well done. You are already breaking down the barriers and approaching the subject with an open mind. Despite the growing support for prostate stimulation and anal sex toys for men, there is a strong taboo still associated with this very pleasurable past-time; this stigma includes (but is not limited to) associations with submission (unless that is your kind of thing) and strong (but very misguided) associations that anal penetration is a homosexual act. The two taboo’s associated with prostate massagers are something that we here at Pulse & Cocktails are looking to challenge!

What is the P-spot?

Yes, is a question that some of you may be asking, what exactly is this. Guys there is no need to feel left out in the stimulation stakes because, the P-spot is the male equivalent to the female g-spot; and as you may have guessed, for men this is located in your rectum. The ‘P’ in p-spot stands for prostate, this is because this is the prostate gland that is stimulated. The p-spot fortunately is easier to find than the female equivalent and is around 2-inches in and it is about the size of a walnut. It is the stimulation of this gland which produces the ‘male orgasm’.

The Male Orgasm?

I know what you are thinking here, doesn’t that just mean you cum? The answer here is generally no, the male orgasm achieved through prostate stimulation can be achieved without climax. Research into prostate stimulation has shown similarities between the male and female orgasm through stimulation of the ‘g’ and ‘p’ spot’s. In research conducted by sexologist Dr Pierre Desvaux he found that of the males which tried this form of stimulation, a significant number of them reported an ‘out of the ordinary orgasm’ – going on further to describe this as more visceral and deep, without ejaculation. The research behind the similarities, is not conclusive in scientific terms – but the results from those who have tried it speaks volumes.

P-spot stimulation: something for you, or fun with your partner?

This is something which will really be a matter of personal preference, some may find that for the first couple of times, exploration alone will be more comfortable so you can get a better understanding of what you like and what feels good. However, the use of prostate massagers, and other toys on the male’s prostate as a couple can be one of the most sensual experiences a couple can have. For a female partner, being in control and using a toy on her partner can bring with it an increased sense of stimulation and a higher level of sexual excitement. Also this is something that you can do together, there are various types of toys on the market designed for prostate stimulation, and we will take a look at some of the various different types shortly.

P-spot orgasms are good for your Health?

It may be hard to believe, but the NHS in 2009 happened to agree with this concept, not specifically for p-spot orgasms but a campaign they ran had the slogan: “an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away” – something I could not agree with more. Orgasms bring with them more than just a simple feeling of pleasure, the physiological process of orgasm is good for your health. When you orgasm, the body releases a cocktail of endorphins (oxytocin and serotonin to name two) which have positive effects on the body. The cocktail of endorphins has been described as a “natural opiate” explaining the feeling of closeness you experience post-intercourse. Serotonin is the neurochemical associated with depression, in essence orgasms help stave off depression.

But, these are benefits of orgasms in general, stimulation of the prostate gland has its own benefits. Prostate stimulation has been shown to improve the health of the prostate gland, which in turn can help to avoid the onset in later life of prostate related disease, including the big C which the most common form of cancer in males. But the health benefits are not just limited to preventing cancer, but also other forms of prostate disease such as prostatitis.

With all the benefits associated, the only question which remains is… who’s first?


Toys and products available

There are various different types of products which are available on the market designed for prostate stimulation and anal penetration, here are just a couple of them we have here at Pulse & Cocktails.

Prostate Stimulators:

These toys are designed specifically to stimulate the prostate gland, these are vibrating toys which are anatomically designed to deliver the vibrations precisely where they are desired. The beauty of these toys is that they stimulate both the prostate and the perineum (soft skin between the anus and testicles) for extra pleasure.

Butt Plugs:

These come in various different types, with various different functions and can be used by both you and your partner. We have a full collection of anal sex toys online. There is something for everyone.

Now, this is something you may have never thought about, but this is a way that you can reverse the roles and bring a new level of sensuality to the relationship, one founded on trust.


When using any prostate or anal toys, remember to always use with plenty of lubrication of maximum pleasure. Clean your toys after use with Pulse & Cocktails specially formulated toy cleaner.

If you have any questions, or would like any advice, you can always pop into one of our stores, there are 21 across the UK and all of our wonderful staff are trained to help you pick the right toy for you.


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