What is Bondage Aftercare?

WHAT IS BONDAGE AFTERCARE?

Whilst bondage acts and play offers hours of endless fun it can also be physically and emotionally demanding. Bondage aftercare is essentially making sure you and your lover finish your play by looking after each other’s emotional and physical needs. Take time to help relax and wind down with your partner after an intense bondage session, checking in that the other one is feeling good.

How to provide aftercare?

While we may want to be spanked and whipped by our partner during bondage play, this is often a far cry away from what we aspire our daily relationships to be like. During bondage play, we adopt different roles and when these roles are finished we need some aftercare to soothe and ease both ourselves and our partner back into normal life. Bondage aftercare can be placed into two categories: physical and emotional.

Physical– When you are at the height of your sexy scenarios bondage play releases a rush of endorphins, so afterwards you may feel a drop in mood and energy after you come down from your natural high. That’s why it is important to have food, water, and some warm comfy clothes to hand. Remove any gags, restraints or other bondage accessories you have used on your partner straight away after finishing. They may need you to run them a warm bath or give them a gentle massage (paying special attention to the areas marked during play – arnica cream is always handy to have nearby). Cuddle, kiss and caress your partner after a bondage session, the act of cuddling alone will release natural endorphins to balance levels back out.

Emotional– Discussing the events you and your partner have just shared together is essential. Talk over things you enjoyed, things you maybe didn’t enjoy so much and things you would like to try again. Check up on your partner and make sure they are feeling happy and well afterwards.

So now you’ve got the tools, all that’s left to do is grab the leash and free your inner bondage beast!

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